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Words cannot express how I feel about Flying Aids predicament. I hope that the fact he still posts on here means the board are helping him in some small way.
I used to laugh out loud at the way he used to go hammer and tongs with Spug.
Mate, I hope you get another chance soon to sort Spug out.
 

Had my first CBT session this morning, obviously not much is going to be achieved in the first session but had a good talk and know of some steps to take to hopefully not get into that situation again.
 
Maravilla said:
Had my first CBT session this morning, obviously not much is going to be achieved in the first session but had a good talk and know of some steps to take to hopefully not get into that situation again.
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What stuff does CBT consist of? A lot of people talk about having it, but I've never been quite sure as to what it is.
 
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What stuff does CBT consist of? A lot of people talk about having it, but I've never been quite sure as to what it is.
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Was only a 'taster' session so to speak today, but by the sounds of things it basically sounds like being open about the negative issues which are currently in your life and how to change your mindset towards them.
 
That sounds promising that. Stick with it and hope it goes well for you xx
 
Maravilla said:
Had my first CBT session this morning, obviously not much is going to be achieved in the first session but had a good talk and know of some steps to take to hopefully not get into that situation again.
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How did you go about getting them sessions? doc referral?
 
What a truly dreadful situation, particularly for Flying Aids. I have no idea how I would cope with such a predicament and I truly have no idea what to say to you other than I hope you look back and enjoyed your life to the fullest. However you havent quite gone yet and you must ensure that you get the best out of your remaining days; however you choose to do that. Is there anything left that you want or are going to do? If so, do it! At least you get to experience Heaven first whilst I get to stay in this Tory infested shithole for a while longer. f***ing bedroom tax - have you ever man....:lol:

I'm 52 now and like a lot of lads my age we have all been through the mill at some point in our life. I have no idea how old Marraville is but I know that I get older I think less and less about the bad parts of life and more and more about the good things. As always in life some of the solutions are really simple; laughter, a copy of Viz, a few beers, a quiet nap, shout and bawl at the match, have some time to yourself or a long chat with your pals. I've learnt to enjoy my own company, as well as my family. I keep my mind active as sitting around with fuckall to do lets things get to you.

Also some things CAN wait until tomorrow. If you dont fancy doing something dont...chill, relax. As I get older the less organised I become, but so what, fuck it. The only person bothered will be you. Everyone else just sees you for what you are, a normal human being going about your business. What you think about yourself is the most important thing. You cant think about other people all the time; its not fair. Its your life; live it. You only get 1 of them down here.

I lost my Mother last January. She had been ill for a while. I had a feeling for a while that she was on her way out and when it happened I was of course cut up about it, but frankly I moved on as quickly as possible. Dont dwell on the negatives. Think about whats next on your "to do list".

I'm no doctor but I suspect that tablets wont be the complete answer. The answer will be somewhere within yourself to sort this all out. I rely on nobody and try to take control of everything I do. It makes me feel better. If I have an anger about something I let it out. My phone calls to work mates slagging off our managers at work are becoming legendary :) but its better than bottling things up inside. After I've got it out of my system I crack on. Try to help other people, even though it might be a strain the way you are feeling. There is a buzz about helping other people out. :cool: As always life revolves around people not "things".

Best of luck mate. In fact best of luck to you both. There's always plenty to do - do it! ;)
 
Maravilla said:
Aye, went to see the GP and looking back I was probably came across as a total wanker, but was sick to death of being fobbed off at every opportunity and gave them a bit of a grilling. :oops:
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Good lad. Take no shit. This is important!
 
Maravilla said:
Aye, went to see the GP and looking back I was probably came across as a total wanker, but was sick to death of being fobbed off at every opportunity and gave them a bit of a grilling. :oops:
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You're hardly a total wanker, not even a wanker for getting something ya need mate, could do with doing the same, got a demon I thought I was dealing with, but thinking about it i'm really not
 
"I really have no regrets.Take life as it comes, make the best of what it offers, and move on" - Yogi Berra.
 
Flying Aids said:
I thought I was on the mend too then about 2 month back slipped a disc in my back. Little did I know it was spinal cancer that slipped the disc and left me paralysed from the legs down. Because I'm paralysed they won't give me chemo as it can make you really poorly and in more pain. So there's nothing more they can do for me.
Getting transferred to St. Claire's Hospice in Jarra tomorrow for pain control before they find me somewhere to see out my days. I've accepted my fate but I'm just hoping to have one last Christmas with me kids and family. ;):?:
Surely god isn't that big of a kernt to have my kids and mother bury me.
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Jesus man. Your attitude to this is absolutely admirable. I hope, beyond hope, that you get this one last Christmas with your close family. Good luck FA and all the best!
 
If it's any comfort, many people go through forms of depression, even if not the whole shabang. I myself suffer from anxiety, which can lead to depressive episodes when it gets too 'loud'. Most people would never guess because I'm known for being social and outgoing, and never had trouble making friends, and often I genuinely am OK...but sometimes I can get so down that I can no longer clear my head and see the wood for the trees. I can no longer think straight, and become swamped with negativity, and when this happens it can be fatal for relationships etc. Can't sleep, lose appetite, want to disappear away from all friends. I'm in the process of moving back to the UK from a country I'd been excited about moving to for a long time because mentally I've not been able to hack it due to my tendency towards massive downers. Some people who aren't wired the same way just can't understand why I can't just be happy with my lot, but as people on this thread will know...it's not that simple when you just can't get your mindset right.

Personally, I need to be busy and working; too much free time is no good for me. Everyone will have their own individual fix that works for them. Some admirable attitudes on display here. Good luck to all!
 
Flying Aids said:
I might only have a matter of weeks to live so no f***ing way am going to let depression spoil my little time I have left on this speck in the universe. I've got better things to do than wallow in my own self pity :)
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By a distance my favourite poster on here. I've no right to say gutted, or sorry for you, when you've accepted the shit hand you've been given like a true gentleman. So good luck in your fight to see it out with a fantastic family Christmas. Fight the good fight, and keep pirating other peoples plees for help :lol:;)
 
Maravilla said:
Know this is a pretty frequently discussed topic on here and a lot of good advice is given so here goes.

Been suffering from depression for years and I'm currently going through one of those stages where I'm just constantly feeling shit no matter what I do and am really struggling to get up in the morning to go to work and can barely go an hour without having a suicidal thought, took an overdose of pills last year but that didn't work and in all honesty I feel like I did around that time, but don't really have the bottle to try owt like that again. Know fine well that I don't help myself in some aspects but just want to get to the point where I can live a relatively normal life.

I'm not especially close to my family and whilst I do love them I can't really bring myself to confide in them, been fucked about and fobbed off at every opportunity by the doctors whenever I go to see them about it, I do know that I can always tell my best friend but I don't want to bother them again with this shit, especially after a little drunken heart-to-heart we had last night, so just thought I'd give this a go.
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If you're in a situation, or doing anything which you know or suspect may be a contributory factor, try and eliminate or reduce these activities.

Work on your fitness, mental and physical. Small changes may be all you can manage at first but keep a diary of any positive effects.

Regular counselling or self help groups may be an option?

I'm sure you've been through the mill already, and there will probably still be some challenge's to come, but accepting that there is a problem is a massive positive.

This illness can beaten, or at least managed, so remember you're not alone.

One final point on lighter note, try not to get too involved SAFC - see paragraph 1.
 
Maravilla said:
Aye, went to see the GP and looking back I was probably came across as a total wanker, but was sick to death of being fobbed off at every opportunity and gave them a bit of a grilling. :oops:
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Sometimes you have to, marra. ;)
 
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