People still living with parents when they're over 20?

[Neb_Safc]

29 and I'm still home!

Moved out when I was 24 and moved back when I was 27, rented my house out and instead of spunking £800 a month on something I was actually only sleeping in it made sense to come home, I'll move back out again soon when I start calming down but for the time being I'm using the money I save to gan gallivanting round the world before I end up like my mates under the thumb and have been nowhere on the planet.

Massively helps that I actually get on with my parents.

 

[TimBirch]

He posts and has mates on here so I'd best add he's top class and a grafter. We're mates and I love him to bits.

Righto, that's your back covered!

 

[Frijj]

Think all both me and you are trying to say are we have both been to uni in the last 5 years and both agree halls was the best way to go. Personally think my first year of uni was the best of my life ! Fuck loads of drinking , football , bucking and meeting what are now some of me best mates

Same. It's a crazy, dramatic, alcohol-fuelled year of everything going wrong that could go wrong but everyone still loves it!

Everyone's different.

At uni, there was a group of 10 of us who knocked about together.
7 of us, lived at home.

And having seen the clip of student digs, I'm glad I never lived there. Much prefer home comforts.

Fair enough like, didn't meet anyone who lived at home, all the friends I made, I either lived with or lived in the same college as.

The quality of the accommodation bothers nobody except the parents dropping their kids off. Who (surprisingly!) manage to survive without en-suites or Russell Hobbs kettles.

To be fair, I think I know my son a lot better than you do.

I'm sure you do, but are you not being an overprotective parent, saying how much your lad 'will drink'?

I don't want this to descend into a slanging match as I've lost count of the amount of times I've disagreed with you on related topics.

 

[becs]

I'm sure you do, but are you not being an overprotective parent, saying how much your lad 'will drink'?

No I'm not overprotective. He has his reasons for not getting absolutely hammered.

 

[C14R4NSAFC]

Same. It's a crazy, dramatic, alcohol-fuelled year of everything going wrong that could go wrong but everyone still loves it!



Fair enough like, didn't meet anyone who lived at home, all the friends I made, I either lived with or lived in the same college as.

The quality of the accommodation bothers nobody except the parents dropping their kids off. Who (surprisingly!) manage to survive without en-suites or Russell Hobbs kettles.



I'm sure you do, but are you not being an overprotective parent, saying how much your lad 'will drink'?

I don't want this to descend into a slanging match as I've lost count of the amount of times I've disagreed with you on related topics.

All the ones I met who lived at home made no real mates cause they could never come out most nights so no one really bothered with them cause they never came out

No I'm not overprotective. He has his reasons for not getting absolutely hammered.

Fair enough like each to their own , might want to try and persuade him to go out and drink more / meet new people maybe ? Not trying to make presumptions but sometimes people who say they aren't bothered about things like that just feel awkward and unsure about them

 

[Frijj]

No I'm not overprotective. He has his reasons for not getting absolutely hammered.

Alright then.

All the ones I met who lived at home made no real mates cause they could never come out most nights so no one really bothered with them cause they never came out

I was proper worried I was gonna end up living off-campus if I didn't meet my firm choice's offer, my insurance didn't offer accommodation to insurance students.

 

[Snappy]

Are you calling me a woolyback?

I am and what of it?

 

[Frijj]

I am and what of it?

Well, you'd be right!

 

[Nicky Winterwasp]

So nobody should make new friends? They should actively close off the best way of making new friends at university (living with them) because they already have friends?

That makes a load of sense that does.

Not everyone is the same, if someone isn't particularly sociable in the sense that they are out on the piss all the time then going away to Uni may not suit them. It's probably more situational and difficult to apply one train of thought to every instance.

 

[Snappy]

Well, you'd be right!

Your alright Milkshake man, your alright

Btw on something completely unrelated. Have you ever thought about a job as a Prison Officer?

 

[becs]

Fair enough like each to their own , might want to try and persuade him to go out and drink more / meet new people maybe ? Not trying to make presumptions but sometimes people who say they aren't bothered about things like that just feel awkward and unsure about them

He's not shy and socialises easily. Like on holiday, we got to the hotel at lunchtime, he went off and did the afternoon sports and was hanging around with some lads he'd met there in the evening. They're all still in touch online as they are from different areas of the UK.

You've got the alcohol thing wrong. He's fully aware of what can happen when people are drunk, therefore he doesn't want to drink to excess or be around people who do.

 

[C14R4NSAFC]

He's not shy and socialises easily. Like on holiday, we got to the hotel at lunchtime, he went off and did the afternoon sports and was hanging around with some lads he'd met there in the evening. They're all still in touch online as they are from different areas of the UK.

You've got the alcohol thing wrong. He's fully aware of what can happen when people are drunk, therefore he doesn't want to drink to excess or be around people who do.

Alright good Sounds a good lad best of luck to him

 

[Her Ivory Tower]

Think it depends on life at home. He can already cook himself decent meals from scratch, can do laundry and housework, etc. Have said when he starts uni, I'll not be buying him clothes, bus pass, toiletries and other personal stuff. We'll have to work out how much he is going to get in loans, agree a figure to pay me towards his keep and then he's on his own to make the rest last and buy his own stuff and not blow it all on beer in the first week!

This. If you've brought them up right, they don't need to wait until they leave home to understand how to look after themselves, their home and their finances - they know already. Too many kids these days are over indulged and spoon fed so at 18/20 they have no idea how to boil an egg or turn on a washing machine.

 

[Frijj]

Not everyone is the same, if someone isn't particularly sociable in the sense that they are out on the piss all the time then going away to Uni may not suit them. It's probably more situational and difficult to apply one train of thought to every instance.

The vast majority of people who go to university are 18-22 year olds who move away from home. They have a great time.

As Becs has said, her lad has his reasons for not wanting to move away, but I despair at the amount of people from the North East who stay within the NE.

I don't understand it. Northumbria, Sunderland and Teesside must have staggeringly high percentages of local students. I saw one PDF that put Northumbria's percentage of students from the NE at 70%. Durham's was 12%.

It really baffles me.

Your alright Milkshake man, your alright

Btw on something completely unrelated. Have you ever thought about a job as a Prison Officer?

Nah I'd probably get shanked

 

[Snappy]

The vast majority of people who go to university are 18-22 year olds who move away from home. They have a great time.

As Becs has said, her lad has his reasons for not wanting to move away, but I despair at the amount of people from the North East who stay within the NE.

I don't understand it. Northumbria, Sunderland and Teesside must have staggeringly high percentages of local students. I saw one PDF that put Northumbria's percentage of students from the NE at 70%. Durham's was 12%.

It really baffles me.



Nah I'd probably get shanked

Don't be silly man.

Anyway back on topic. I'm 23 and hoping to move out when I'm 24. I'm single and that does financially make it hard.

 

[Nicky Winterwasp]

The vast majority of people who go to university are 18-22 year olds who move away from home. They have a great time.

As Becs has said, her lad has his reasons for not wanting to move away, but I despair at the amount of people from the North East who stay within the NE.

I don't understand it. Northumbria, Sunderland and Teesside must have staggeringly high percentages of local students. I saw one PDF that put Northumbria's percentage of students from the NE at 70%. Durham's was 12%.

It really baffles me.



Nah I'd probably get shanked

I stayed in the NE to go to Uni, I was a late(r) starter and did my degree by part time evening study, if I'm honest I would have probably not enjoyed being away when I was 18 as I was a bit immature at that age and the only thing I was bothered about was playing footy. As I say, it's not the same for everyone and whilst I completely understand what you are saying, maybe the timing or circumstances prevent some people from spreading their wings.

 

[trainee]

23, graduated last year and have my first real job, which pays real money. The last thing on my mind is saving for a deposit or throwing money away renting. I want to see the world, explore a little, rather than be shackled by finances. Each to their own, but thats my outlook.

 

[Dave Herbal]

One of my mates did this when he was 20 ! Can't think of anything more depressing !

I just spent a week in the caravan with my parents and the kids. Mainly cos it's free. I slept in a tent.

 

[dangermows]

If me and the missus go tits up I'm straight back to my mams. Board is cheap. Everything done for me and back to the days I had cash to burn! Fuck it, might just pack my things now....

23, graduated last year and have my first real job, which pays real money. The last thing on my mind is saving for a deposit or throwing money away renting. I want to see the world, explore a little, rather than be shackled by finances. Each to their own, but thats my outlook.

Good man.

This. If you've brought them up right, they don't need to wait until they leave home to understand how to look after themselves, their home and their finances - they know already. Too many kids these days are over indulged and spoon fed so at 18/20 they have no idea how to boil an egg or turn on a washing machine.

Guilty. (Ive still never ever used a washing machine). My Mam did everything, then I found a replacement for my mam and married her (not that I ever fucked my mam like).

 

[Frijj]

If me and the missus go tits up I'm straight back to my mams. Board is cheap. Everything done for me and back to the days I had cash to burn! Fuck it, might just pack my things now....



Good man.



Guilty. (Ive still never ever used a washing machine). My Mam did everything, then I found a replacement for my mam and married her (not that I ever fucked my mam like).

The worst thing is that I've never had an instance of 'colour-run' whilst washing clothes. I would routinely wash things of all colours together. Fine.

The first time my Mam washes my jeans when I move back home? What happens? A load of blue dye ruins my chinos.

She's 62 and can't use a washer properly. Amateur.