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Fair enough then I suppose! Much better attitude than me and all my uni mates cause we always say we didn't come to uni to get a degree we came to go out in Newcastle 4 times a week haha
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You gonna come down and help? We could have one of those travelling horse drawn carriage salesmen things.
Are you calling me a woolyback?
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He's known his best friend since they met on the first day of nursery when they were both three, so I can't see them drifting apart any time soon. Plus it's easier to keep in touch these days with social media, xbox live etc.
He's not interested in "fuck loads of alcohol." He'll have a couple of beers but that's all.
Well maybe he isn't like the remaining 99% of university students then.
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Because it's a controversial opinion designed to stir up controversy.
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Joshing TB. A mate of mine teases me with it all the time because I let my lad live (rent free) in a place I owned. I paid the bloody bills anarl.
Get 'em telt, petal!
For what? Suggesting that her lad would have a better time at university if he was living in halls rather than living at home where he'll find it difficult to socialise with people at university and his only friends will be the friends he's had all his life?
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Joshing TB. A mate of mine teases me with it all the time because I let my lad live (rent free) in a place I owned. I paid the bloody bills anarl.
When the time comes, we'll probably be too soft on our boys, anarl!
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This is a difficult one. Once we're able to stand on our own two feet, there's a strong school of thought we should be out of the family home.
My own history? It's been coming and going at various times. Sometimes I've been well away, sometimes I've returned. Circumstances for me have changed over the years.
My current situation? Well having two elderly parents with health problems, one who's passed away and one who's been in and out of hospital like a jack in the box (and has run it close herself lately - see depression thread), means me having to be back home.
You can't judge all sets of circumstances the same. What did my parents, especially my mm, do for me. She was a serious travel nut who ingrained the same set of values into me, a spirit of independance and adventure. I've had some fantastic trips over the years, some with mates (Egypt was something else), some with my mum (yea, have a go - but when you drag each other to Russia and Uzbekistan as holiday trips, that implies we're not your bog standard chips off the block) and some to seriously remote places on my little ownsome (Peru, India, Xinjiang provence of China and having the road to the Afghan border pointed out to you, having a lion sniffing at my tent in a reserve outside Kruger in South Africa, telling a lady UN aid worker to f*ck off in Kenya).
Everyone has a very different relationship with family. It happens my mum is also an exceptionally good mate. We get on like mates rather than mother and son thus some of these weird trip with all but the minimum of arguments has to say something. When you've had to share an overnight train passing through Central Asia and the two of you can laugh later at the fact the local has handed a package of heroin to a local copper, that says something.
You can't everyone to a stereotype or a percieved stereotype as to how everyone should be. You do what is right for you at the right time for you. Sometimes it suits me to be on my own, doing my own thing. Sometimes I've needed to company of family and friends. What I have done at different time I've done to suit me. With others, I'll not readily accept help and prefer to do things my own way. One streak I have inherited from my mother especially is a savage streak of independence that I can call on when I need to. I'm not easily phased (except on here sometimes).
This is the second of these threads to appear recently and I feel people too readily criticise other's lifestyles without knowing about their personal circumstances. Are they psychologically ready (one mate went into depression when he left)? Are they financially able to? Are there other family reasons that mean they can't?
Translated, jsut get one with your own lives rather than criticise others for how they are living theirs. If they just like it easy rather than trying to do something with their lives, you may have a point. But if that person has really done something with their lives then the reality can be very different from the socialperception many choose to impose.
Get real folks and live your own lives rather than telling others how to live theirs.
Rant over.
My own history? It's been coming and going at various times. Sometimes I've been well away, sometimes I've returned. Circumstances for me have changed over the years.
My current situation? Well having two elderly parents with health problems, one who's passed away and one who's been in and out of hospital like a jack in the box (and has run it close herself lately - see depression thread), means me having to be back home.
You can't judge all sets of circumstances the same. What did my parents, especially my mm, do for me. She was a serious travel nut who ingrained the same set of values into me, a spirit of independance and adventure. I've had some fantastic trips over the years, some with mates (Egypt was something else), some with my mum (yea, have a go - but when you drag each other to Russia and Uzbekistan as holiday trips, that implies we're not your bog standard chips off the block) and some to seriously remote places on my little ownsome (Peru, India, Xinjiang provence of China and having the road to the Afghan border pointed out to you, having a lion sniffing at my tent in a reserve outside Kruger in South Africa, telling a lady UN aid worker to f*ck off in Kenya).
Everyone has a very different relationship with family. It happens my mum is also an exceptionally good mate. We get on like mates rather than mother and son thus some of these weird trip with all but the minimum of arguments has to say something. When you've had to share an overnight train passing through Central Asia and the two of you can laugh later at the fact the local has handed a package of heroin to a local copper, that says something.
You can't everyone to a stereotype or a percieved stereotype as to how everyone should be. You do what is right for you at the right time for you. Sometimes it suits me to be on my own, doing my own thing. Sometimes I've needed to company of family and friends. What I have done at different time I've done to suit me. With others, I'll not readily accept help and prefer to do things my own way. One streak I have inherited from my mother especially is a savage streak of independence that I can call on when I need to. I'm not easily phased (except on here sometimes).
This is the second of these threads to appear recently and I feel people too readily criticise other's lifestyles without knowing about their personal circumstances. Are they psychologically ready (one mate went into depression when he left)? Are they financially able to? Are there other family reasons that mean they can't?
Translated, jsut get one with your own lives rather than criticise others for how they are living theirs. If they just like it easy rather than trying to do something with their lives, you may have a point. But if that person has really done something with their lives then the reality can be very different from the socialperception many choose to impose.
Get real folks and live your own lives rather than telling others how to live theirs.
Rant over.
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For what? Suggesting that her lad would have a better time at university if he was living in halls rather than living at home where he'll find it difficult to socialise with people at university and his only friends will be the friends he's had all his life?
They're usually the best kind of friend....
So nobody should make new friends? They should actively close off the best way of making new friends at university (living with them) because they already have friends?
That makes a load of sense that does.
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C14R4NSAFC
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Think all both me and you are trying to say are we have both been to uni in the last 5 years and both agree halls was the best way to go. Personally think my first year of uni was the best of my life ! Fuck loads of drinking , football , bucking and meeting what are now some of me best mates
For what? Suggesting that her lad would have a better time at university if he was living in halls rather than living at home where he'll find it difficult to socialise with people at university and his only friends will be the friends he's had all his life?
Agreed, any college students on here should 100% move away for university, & this is coming from someone who stayed at home - it's shit and you always feel like you're missing out.
Fortunately for me it turned out to be something I wont ever regret because I got to spend so much time with my dad. Live with my mam & sister now (no x2) & I'm itching to leave, can't wait for June and moving away.
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Joshing TB. A mate of mine teases me with it all the time because I let my lad live (rent free) in a place I owned. I paid the bloody bills anarl.
He posts and has mates on here so I'd best add he's top class and a grafter. We're mates and I love him to bits.
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For what? Suggesting that her lad would have a better time at university if he was living in halls rather than living at home where he'll find it difficult to socialise with people at university and his only friends will be the friends he's had all his life?
Everyone's different.
At uni, there was a group of 10 of us who knocked about together.
7 of us, lived at home.
And having seen the clip of student digs, I'm glad I never lived there. Much prefer home comforts.
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For what? Suggesting that her lad would have a better time at university if he was living in halls rather than living at home where he'll find it difficult to socialise with people at university and his only friends will be the friends he's had all his life?
To be fair, I think I know my son a lot better than you do.
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