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Grieving

My dad passed away last Sunday and today was surreal..I cried when I put the TV on, I cried when "wise men say" was sung and I cried at halftime , exactly 7 days after it happened. I didn't celebrate the goals but I did let dad know how the game went and I think I'll probably never stop doing that. I found putting a message on SMB last week quite cathartic and the responses overwhelmed me as no one knew him.
 

Swindon On Tour said:
Real sad Mate.
Time is the only real healer and from experience try and not hide your emotions or deal with it solely in your mind.
Talk openly and proudly.

You’re a good person and a wonderful Mother. Not taking any discussions on this point x.
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Thank you my love, really appreciate the kind words. Yeah it's going to take a bit of time, I've just got a bit of other stress on my shoulders and combined it's a bit heavy. I've got to keep on keeping on for the bairn, he's stressed too as he's in the middle of his GCSEs bless him xx
 
look out piano said:
Thank you my love, really appreciate the kind words. Yeah it's going to take a bit of time, I've just got a bit of other stress on my shoulders and combined it's a bit heavy. I've got to keep on keeping on for the bairn, he's stressed too as he's in the middle of his GCSEs bless him xx
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Never thought getting older would mean it’s getting harder.
Life definitely tougher on all counts for everyone. You are not alone LOP. Sometimes it’s a case of too much shit to deal with at one time. In addition you are grieving.
Sometimes just reset and stop.
I know it sounds cliche and all that and just need to deal with one thing at a time and not dwell on everything which is daunting.
Just let the lad finish his GCSEs and good luck to him. If anything can be left for now then just leave it.xx

You will come through it. xx❤️
 
cabbage said:
My dad passed away last Sunday and today was surreal..I cried when I put the TV on, I cried when "wise men say" was sung and I cried at halftime , exactly 7 days after it happened. I didn't celebrate the goals but I did let dad know how the game went and I think I'll probably never stop doing that. I found putting a message on SMB last week quite cathartic and the responses overwhelmed me as no one knew him.
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I am so sorry for your loss

There will always be a reason to laugh and there will be always be a reason to cry for all your years when everything you do reminds you in someway of him.

I was in Madrid last week saw a smart men's short sleeved jumper and thought Da would have looked the cats whiskers in that....wish I could buy it for him. 6 years, Tuesday gone for him.

Look after yourself and the rest of the family.
look out piano said:
Lost my dad a couple of months ago, I'm still feeling horrendous and struggling to get over it.
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I know you are my love. It takes time. Like the thought of your gaming with him looking on tho.
 
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Losing your parents really is a life changing event. Not only do you miss their love, protection, friendship, you become much more aware of your own mortality.

I don't think you get over it, you just manage it somehow... eventually.
 
FatCat2402 said:
Losing your parents really is a life changing event. Not only do you miss their love, protection, friendship, you become much more aware of your own mortality.

I don't think you get over it, you just manage it somehow... eventually.
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It didn't help that mam died when I was 4 1/2 so I've not had a mother's love for most of my lifetime, it sucks now that my dad is gone too. I'll get there I guess, it's just going to take some time 😔
 
look out piano said:
It didn't help that mam died when I was 4 1/2 so I've not had a mother's love for most of my lifetime, it sucks now that my dad is gone too. I'll get there I guess, it's just going to take some time 😔
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No, that is awful. I'm sorry. That is way more than most people deal with.

I was 42 when my Mam died, 51 when my Dad died....

I saw an interview with Paul McCartney today from years ago who was explaining that dreaming about your late parents is like meeting them again. I found it quite uplifting as I've always found it quite tough waking up from a dream with me Mam or Dad in it.

He was suggesting that it's good to enjoy meeting them again in your dreams.
 
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Cheesy Feet said:
Lost my Mam on April 17th..I'm absolutely heartbroken..she had a good long life and died peacefully but the pain of losing her is awful.
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So sorry my love, big hugs to you 🤗
CPLforever said:
I am so sorry for your loss

There will always be a reason to laugh and there will be always be a reason to cry for all your years when everything you do reminds you in someway of him.

I was in Madrid last week saw a smart men's short sleeved jumper and thought Da would have looked the cats whiskers in that....wish I could buy it for him. 6 years, Tuesday gone for him.

Look after yourself and the rest of the family.

I know you are my love. It takes time. Like the thought of your gaming with him looking on tho.
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I keep on thinking, I'll need to tell Dad about that and then I remember I can't, it hurts. I play now and again, but it's kind of lost it's shine as I have nobody to talk to about it anymore 😔.
The only solace I have is that he's up there now with my mam and brother xx
 
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Lost my dad last year, he was over the moon the lads were back in the premier league and was looking forward to seeing them do well. So last Sunday was a bittersweet moment for me too. It had me choked at the final whistle knowing I wouldn’t be ringing him up to chat about it all.
 
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