Grieving

[MigsGoalKicks]

Seen quite a few messages recently about a loss of a loved one. So thought I’d do a thread.

Saturday was really hard for me. Held strong until Mayenda scored then I was crying like a baby. I miss my dad so much. Such a bittersweet day. If you saw a fat lad crying in Ttonic - yep that’s me.


one day at a time but lots of milestones coming up.

 

[CPLforever]

Everyone does it in their own way, grieve I mean..

Mark his passing, acknowledge, he would have loved this, blubber like a two year old....whatever gets you through.

 

[MigsGoalKicks]

Everyone does it in their own way, grieve I mean..

Mark his passing, acknowledge, he would have loved this, blubber like a two year old....whatever gets you through.

You’re always a voice of reason on these type of threads mate. I always appreciate your comments

 

[CPLforever]

You’re always a voice of reason on these type of threads mate. I always appreciate your comments

What a lovely thing to say. Thanks very much. Yer Da obviously bought you up proper and with a way with words.

 

[cluffy]

Seen quite a few messages recently about a loss of a loved one. So thought I’d do a thread.

Saturday was really hard for me. Held strong until Mayenda scored then I was crying like a baby. I miss my dad so much. Such a bittersweet day. If you saw a fat lad crying in Ttonic - yep that’s me.


one day at a time but lots of milestones coming up.

My Dad died fairly recently too. The world just doesn’t feel the same without him. He would have loved to have seen that game and those goals and I would have loved to talk about it with him.
Ah, you’ve got me filling up now.

 

[PitYacker]

Lost my dad three years ago. We had been season ticket holders together for nearly twenty years and football was our time together.

I know people always say this but it does get easier. Time is a great healer. You never not miss them though. Even now I still think I’ll ring my dad after watching a game, or call round to celebrate going up only to realise you can’t.

 

[FatCat2402]

My Dad died fairly recently too. The world just doesn’t feel the same without him. He would have loved to have seen that game and those goals and I would have loved to talk about it with him.
Ah, you’ve got me filling up now.

It's never quite the same. It's 5 years since me Dad died, you just learn it's all part of the circle of life.

You never lose the urge to pick the phone up and speak to him about the match, the cricket, the rugby etc.

You cherish the memories and think thank God you got to enjoy so much time together.

Lost my dad three years ago. We had been season ticket holders together for nearly twenty years and football was our time together.

I know people always say this but it does get easier. Time is a great healer. You never not miss them though. Even now I still think I’ll ring my dad after watching a game, or call round to celebrate going up only to realise you can’t.

I should have read your post before I posted. Spot on.

 

[CPLforever]

Lost my dad three years ago. We had been season ticket holders together for nearly twenty years and football was our time together.

I know people always say this but it does get easier. Time is a great healer. You never not miss them though. Even now I still think I’ll ring my dad after watching a game, or call round to celebrate going up only to realise you can’t.

I see jumpers in Marks and Spencer and think my Da would look smart in that.

Or when I'm abroad see some fancy mixed nut pack or chocolate and think wish I could have bought that for Da he would have been over the moon, all with a hint of sadness still, but I can also (now) smile about the thought too.

 

[Swindon On Tour]

I see jumpers in Marks and Spencer and think my Da would look smart in that.

Or when I'm abroad see some fancy mixed nut pack or chocolate and think wish I could have bought that for Da he would have been over the moon, all with a hint of sadness still, but I can also (now) smile about the thought too.

Lovely that.
I wished I could have had a relationship with mine. It wasn’t bad like but he just never spent that quality time with us. Thus mine is more tinged with sadness of what could have been.
I definitely try and overcompensate with both of my lads which perhaps is not always the best thing. I over think everything. The way I’m wired up.
At least Ted loves me

Lost my dad three years ago. We had been season ticket holders together for nearly twenty years and football was our time together.

I know people always say this but it does get easier. Time is a great healer. You never not miss them though. Even now I still think I’ll ring my dad after watching a game, or call round to celebrate going up only to realise you can’t.

What a lovely post.
I hope my lads think the same way as you when I’ve gone. I bet your Dad thought the same.
I’ve loved my lads going to football with me. Not the same when they are not there now.

Seen quite a few messages recently about a loss of a loved one. So thought I’d do a thread.

Saturday was really hard for me. Held strong until Mayenda scored then I was crying like a baby. I miss my dad so much. Such a bittersweet day. If you saw a fat lad crying in Ttonic - yep that’s me.


one day at a time but lots of milestones coming up.

No right or wrong way to grieve mate, equally no tried and tested method.
It’s all positive the way you feel though and think how lucky you were to have that relationship. Football and the emotions mate. The memories never leave us good and bad and why supporting our mutual clubs is far more deeper than 90 minutes.

 

[ab 65]

Lovely that.
I wished I could have had a relationship with mine. It wasn’t bad like but he just never spent that quality time with us. Thus mine is more tinged with sadness of what could have been.
I definitely try and overcompensate with both of my lads which perhaps is not always the best thing. I over think everything. The way I’m wired up.
At least Ted loves me


What a lovely post.
I hope my lads think the same way as you when I’ve gone. I bet your Dad thought the same.
I’ve loved my lads going to football with me. Not the same when they are not there now.


No right or wrong way to grieve mate, equally no tried and tested method.
It’s all positive the way you feel though and think how lucky you were to have that relationship. Football and the emotions mate. The memories never leave us good and bad and why supporting our mutual clubs is far more deeper than 90 minutes.

Lost my Dad very suddenly 18 months ago.

Never got to say goodbye. Think of him every single day and whilst we had a good relationship and he was an excellent Dad and role model I regret working and living abroad and out of the area for much of the last twenty five years of his life.

We bought a house back up here which needed a lot of work and took him over to see it when we first bought it and we were both looking forward to spending more time together but unfortunately it wasn’t to be.

One thing I am glad about is coming up to see him on the weekend of Fathers Day in 2023 which unbeknowns to us both was his last and sitting talking with him and thanking him for being a great Dad.

 

[Swindon On Tour]

Lost my Dad very suddenly 18 months ago.

Never got to say goodbye. Think of him every single day and whilst we had a good relationship and he was an excellent Dad and role model I regret working and living abroad and out of the area for much of the last twenty five years of his life.

We bought a house back up here which needed a lot of work and took him over to see it when we first bought it and we were both looking forward to spending more time together but unfortunately it wasn’t to be.

One thing I am glad about is coming up to see him on the weekend of Fathers Day in 2023 which unbeknowns to us both was his last and sitting talking with him and thanking him for being a great Dad.

Don’t be too hard on yourself and have those regrets.
He would have never wanted to hold you back mate. Would have been so proud of you and you know that

 

[ab 65]

Don’t be too hard on yourself and have those regrets.
He would have never wanted to hold you back mate. Would have been so proud of you and you know that

Cheers mate. Yeah he and Mam were very supportive when we moved but were always there for us back at home. Love being back up here now.

In terms of yourself you clearly have a great bond with your sons, travelling the country to watch Swindon play resonates with my lot and Sunderland. I get what you mean about the over compensating but from this distance it sounds more like you are just being the best Dad you can be for them and they are lucky to have you. As is Ted....but you clearly love each other to bits so fair do's.

 

[CPLforever]

Lost my Dad very suddenly 18 months ago.

Never got to say goodbye. Think of him every single day and whilst we had a good relationship and he was an excellent Dad and role model I regret working and living abroad and out of the area for much of the last twenty five years of his life.

We bought a house back up here which needed a lot of work and took him over to see it when we first bought it and we were both looking forward to spending more time together but unfortunately it wasn’t to be.

One thing I am glad about is coming up to see him on the weekend of Fathers Day in 2023 which unbeknowns to us both was his last and sitting talking with him and thanking him for being a great Dad.

Bet your Da was dead proud of you, told anybody who would listen what you were doing and where in the world you were doing it. And when you were back, visiting, listening to your tales.

No regrets needed here.

 

[ab 65]

Bet your Da was dead proud of you, told anybody who would listen what you were doing and where in the world you were doing it. And when you were back, visiting, listening to your tales.

No regrets needed here.

Cheers mate. Very kind of you.

I see jumpers in Marks and Spencer and think my Da would look smart in that.

Or when I'm abroad see some fancy mixed nut pack or chocolate and think wish I could have bought that for Da he would have been over the moon, all with a hint of sadness still, but I can also (now) smile about the thought too.

Resonates mate. My Dad had a sweet tooth, loved chocolate cake. In the last couple of weeks my missus has said that she caught me smiling and shaking my head as we walked past an old couple discussing/arguing which chocolate cake to buy in a shop.

 

[Swindon On Tour]

Cheers mate. Yeah he and Mam were very supportive when we moved but were always there for us back at home. Love being back up here now.

In terms of yourself you clearly have a great bond with your sons, travelling the country to watch Swindon play resonates with my lot and Sunderland. I get what you mean about the over compensating but from this distance it sounds more like you are just being the best Dad you can be for them and they are lucky to have you. As is Ted....but you clearly love each other to bits so fair do's.

Appreciated mate. I think we would get on just fine.

Bet your Da was dead proud of you, told anybody who would listen what you were doing and where in the world you were doing it. And when you were back, visiting, listening to your tales.

No regrets needed here.

This everytime.

 

[ab 65]

Appreciated mate. I think we would get on just fine.


This everytime.

Cheers mate. Yeah agreed, it would be great to catch a few beers with you. I remember we were playing Swindon here during COVID. You had been going to travel up for the game and being as popular as you are there was a long list of people on here looking forward to meeting up and buying you a drink, myself included. Such a shame that was thwarted.

Another time mate. Look forward to it.

 

[Swindon On Tour]

Cheers mate. Yeah agreed, it would be great to catch a few beers with you. I remember we were playing Swindon here during COVID. You had been going to travel up for the game and being as popular as you are there was a long list of people on here looking forward to meeting up and buying you a drink, myself included. Such a shame that was thwarted.

Another time mate. Look forward to it.

Miles apart now.
FA Cup 3rd round - it’s in the stars.

To be honest I really should come up to watch a game.

 

[ab 65]

Miles apart now.
FA Cup 3rd round - it’s in the stars.

To be honest I really should come up to watch a game.

Sounds like a plan. As said, there would be a lot of people chuffed to meet you.

 

[MigsGoalKicks]

8 weeks on Thursday since he passed away. He had a standard operation, got discharged then 2 days later was rushed back in. Spent 5 days in intensive care and then he was gone. 65 years old and fit as a fiddle. Need answers.

That’s what’s making it so hard to come to terms with. My youngest is 3 and keeps asking “when is grandad coming back from heaven?” Every night before bed. Breaks my heart.

 

[Balti Man]

Everyone does it in their own way, grieve I mean..

Mark his passing, acknowledge, he would have loved this, blubber like a two year old....whatever gets you through.

Lad sounds fatter than that, based on what he said above!

Cheers mate. Yeah he and Mam were very supportive when we moved but were always there for us back at home. Love being back up here now.

In terms of yourself you clearly have a great bond with your sons, travelling the country to watch Swindon play resonates with my lot and Sunderland. I get what you mean about the over compensating but from this distance it sounds more like you are just being the best Dad you can be for them and they are lucky to have you. As is Ted....but you clearly love each other to bits so fair do's.

Definition of child abuse, shirley?