Depression

[Five-Quarter]

Yeah I agree there must be a point where people's own pain takes over and they're able to blank out what they're leaving behind. I've not got.to that point and hopefully I never do but can see how it happens.

I actually mentioned to our lass that I wanted to get all small debts paid off because they were annoying me and she pretty much asked if I was getting my house in order because it's a common thing that people who are planning suicide will try to tidy up loose ends as part.of being at peace with it. Very common for some people to seem very happy and having a good time in the days or weeks leading up to their suicide as well. The human mind is such a complex thing.

I understand. Was just checking up.

That's an insightful line from a spouse. Perhaps alarming. Though I know you've said her profession will mean she has more exposure to people in terrible states than most

 

[Becs]

I actually mentioned to our lass that I wanted to get all small debts paid off because they were annoying me and she pretty much asked if I was getting my house in order because it's a common thing that people who are planning suicide will try to tidy up loose ends as part.of being at peace with it. Very common for some people to seem very happy and having a good time in the days or weeks leading up to their suicide as well. The human mind is such a complex thing.

That's the moment in that Norwich video that got to me the most. He passed his scarf to his friend, so he must have had his thoughts in order then but he seemed so cheerful otherwise so the friend wasn't aware. Hope you are ok mate xx

Are people genuinely interested in the coffee meet up? Just for a chat. If so where is best and what times are best for folks?

 

[lucky]

There is a cafe in town centre called the Betsy Jenner cafe and anyone feeling down or waiting on appointments eg ( mental health) there is people in there you can talk to and others alike while waiting for appointments to come through .
To everyone out there struggling I can only send you massive love and if I can help in anyway I will.
@Ciro_DiMarzio was the lad up Murton Liam ?

 

[CPLforever]

That's the moment in that Norwich video that got to me the most. He passed his scarf to his friend, so he must have had his thoughts in order then but he seemed so cheerful otherwise so the friend wasn't aware. Hope you are ok mate xx

Are people genuinely interested in the coffee meet up? Just for a chat. If so where is best and what times are best for folks?

I resisted "group" for years and years, then did this group intervention/therapy thing. It was OK and did help.

Afterwards a few of us decided to establish a monthly meet up, casual thing.

We go for a walk then go for a coffee (or just the coffee cos it's pishing down usually) and my god do I come away feeling better.

It's a bit like on here, "does anyone do....." "has anyone ever..." "this is how I feel" etc etc etc. Just normal chit chat about how we are getting on in a sort of non medical, non therapist and definately non judgemental way. Does me the world of good.

 

[lucky]

I resisted "group" for years and years, then did this group intervention/therapy thing. It was OK and did help.

Afterwards a few of us decided to establish a monthly meet up, casual thing.

We go for a walk then go for a coffee (or just the coffee cos it's pishing down usually) and my god do I come away feeling better.

It's a bit like on here, "does anyone do....." "has anyone ever..." "this is how I feel" etc etc etc. Just normal chit chat about how we are getting on in a sort of non medical, non therapist and definately non judgemental way. Does me the world of good.

That's so good mate and one thing I have realised when am on here is that I never ever feel embarrassed about what I have got to say and that's through all of you on this thread and if you all ever did wanna meet sometime I'm up for that.

 

[Five-Quarter]

I resisted "group" for years and years, then did this group intervention/therapy thing. It was OK and did help.

Afterwards a few of us decided to establish a monthly meet up, casual thing.

We go for a walk then go for a coffee (or just the coffee cos it's pishing down usually) and my god do I come away feeling better.

It's a bit like on here, "does anyone do....." "has anyone ever..." "this is how I feel" etc etc etc. Just normal chit chat about how we are getting on in a sort of non medical, non therapist and definately non judgemental way. Does me the world of good.

That sounds brill. Well good story to share that. That's 100% what I'd consider

Not something led by a 'professional' or fronted by a professional body as they'd have agendas and structures to lead discussion. I'd just end up rolling my eyes and not engaging

Long as it's not "a pint", as I'd have to identify a nominated individual to carry me home having told everyone they're twats, had a food fight with bar snacks, and broken down in tears while throwing up wanting my mammy and wetting myself

 

[Ciro_DiMarzio]

There is a cafe in town centre called the Betsy Jenner cafe and anyone feeling down or waiting on appointments eg ( mental health) there is people in there you can talk to and others alike while waiting for appointments to come through .
To everyone out there struggling I can only send you massive love and if I can help in anyway I will.
@Ciro_DiMarzio was the lad up Murton Liam ?

Yeah mate. Like I say I didn't know him but read the story and it's stuck with me.

 

[lucky]

Yeah mate. Like I say I didn't know him but read the story and it's stuck with me.

Was sad mate my wife was involved in some of the aftermath

 

[Fetch Fletch]

Have to admit my depression has taken a nose dive recently.

I think it correlates with my realization I’ve had Long Covid for a year now, but being stuck at home most of the time and unable to do anything some days is really bringing me down.

Just feel flat as fuck tbh, and no matter what I do to try and sort it, it just won’t go away.

 

[Ciro_DiMarzio]

Have to admit my depression has taken a nose dive recently.

I think it correlates with my realization I’ve had Long Covid for a year now, but being stuck at home most of the time and unable to do anything some days is really bringing me down.

Just feel flat as fuck tbh, and no matter what I do to try and sort it, it just won’t go away.

What physical effect is the long covid having on you? Stopping you from exercising?

 

[Fetch Fletch]

What physical effect is the long covid having on you? Stopping you from exercising?

Not just exercising, it’s basically chronic fatigue along with headaches and joint pain. If I even walk a bit I’m done in for the day.

 

[Ciro_DiMarzio]

Not just exercising, it’s basically chronic fatigue along with headaches and joint pain. If I even walk a bit I’m done in for the day.

Sounds awful mate. Is there nothing that can be done medically to help?

 

[Fetch Fletch]

Sounds awful mate. Is there nothing that can be done medically to help?

Unfortunately no mate. Theres nowhere near enough data yet. Theres rehab and general changes to living I am contending with, but its literally just waiting for the brain to reset itself.

 

[Billie Cheemus]

time to join the party.

Suffered really badly with anxiety all my adult life, I started obsessing that I would have a heart attack or stroke.

About 14 years ago I ended up getting something called Guillain Barre syndrome, and spent 5 or 6 weeks in intensive care, paralysed from the head down, but still able to understand what was going on. Because I was ventilated, I was unable to speak or communicate, and after the six weeks or so, I was moved to rehab to learn how to walk again.

My health anxiety took a battering because of this, and I got into a really dark place, but my fab wife helped me through it and I eventually got some treatment for PTSD.

Over the past few years I’ve been having increasingly more pain, which has been diagnosed as Complex Regional Pain Syndrome, as a result of the Guillain Barre, and the last few weeks in particular have been a bit shit.

I’ve now got flu, feel wiped out, aching like mad, and started getting really bad chest pains. Spoke to 111 and been to the hospital today, the chest pains aren’t a heart attack, but today I can’t break that cycle of, what if they’re wrong, what if I die and leave my wife and kids behind.

Deep down I know it’s pain from coughing loads and acid reflux, but I can’t help feeling like I’ve been having a heart attack for 48 hours straight.

You can’t beat a hypochondriac with a pain, can you.

That's the moment in that Norwich video that got to me the most. He passed his scarf to his friend, so he must have had his thoughts in order then but he seemed so cheerful otherwise so the friend wasn't aware. Hope you are ok mate xx

Are people genuinely interested in the coffee meet up? Just for a chat. If so where is best and what times are best for folks?

That could be a great idea.

 

[Turner the Cat]

Hope everyone is doing okay.

I’m hammering work still, studying, focussing on dropping two stone for the summer and I’ve got meself a new girlfriend. She’s a mag but nobody is perfect.

Noticed whenever I have a lot to drink though this has a major negative effect on me. Almost beer fear, feels like I’m walking a tightrope for days after. Therefore I’ve knocked the heavy sessions on the head.

Considering jacking the drink in full stop from May as I need to do a blood test and physical 90 days before I get my licence back. The best I’d ever felt was in 2020 during the lockdown when I’d been teetotal for most of a year. Don’t think I need alcohol anymore in my life.

Have certainly learned my lesson but in a way being banned from driving made me take stock of things and become accountable for my own failures and mistakes. From that I’ve managed to put the graft in, rack up more qualifications, eat well, hammer the gym, make sure I get my 8 hours a night and most importantly seen more of my kids. My mental health has improved massively as a result, but I’m conscious that it can all come crashing down again.

Work hard, be nice, have fun. Said Joe Wicks. I’m sticking by that.

I can certainly say that drink had a big impact on my mental health and giving it up helped a lot. Been sober 10+ years. Lots of positive support on the giving up booze thread if youve not been on before.

Good luck!

time to join the party.

Suffered really badly with anxiety all my adult life, I started obsessing that I would have a heart attack or stroke.

About 14 years ago I ended up getting something called Guillain Barre syndrome, and spent 5 or 6 weeks in intensive care, paralysed from the head down, but still able to understand what was going on. Because I was ventilated, I was unable to speak or communicate, and after the six weeks or so, I was moved to rehab to learn how to walk again.

My health anxiety took a battering because of this, and I got into a really dark place, but my fab wife helped me through it and I eventually got some treatment for PTSD.

Over the past few years I’ve been having increasingly more pain, which has been diagnosed as Complex Regional Pain Syndrome, as a result of the Guillain Barre, and the last few weeks in particular have been a bit shit.

I’ve now got flu, feel wiped out, aching like mad, and started getting really bad chest pains. Spoke to 111 and been to the hospital today, the chest pains aren’t a heart attack, but today I can’t break that cycle of, what if they’re wrong, what if I die and leave my wife and kids behind.

Deep down I know it’s pain from coughing loads and acid reflux, but I can’t help feeling like I’ve been having a heart attack for 48 hours straight.

You can’t beat a hypochondriac with a pain, can you.


That could be a great idea.

Sorry to hear that mate. One of my neighbours had Guillain Barre though not as severe as yourself.

I've certainly had health anxiety as well. Drug and alcohol abuse turned me into a physical and mental wreck. Ended up in A&E a couple of times after things went wrong. A seizure once as well which was scary. Had a couple of ECGs and all clear. Even doing exercise would make me anxious because it raised my heart rate. If I slept on my arm awkwardly and it was numb I'd be convinced I was having a heart attack! I dont know what help you're getting but medication and cbt have made things much better for me - plus going clean on the alcohol and drugs!

 

[Billie Cheemus]

I can certainly say that drink had a big impact on my mental health and giving it up helped a lot. Been sober 10+ years. Lots of positive support on the giving up booze thread if youve not been on before.

Good luck!

Sorry to hear that mate. One of my neighbours had Guillain Barre though not as severe as yourself.

I've certainly had health anxiety as well. Drug and alcohol abuse turned me into a physical and mental wreck. Ended up in A&E a couple of times after things went wrong. A seizure once as well which was scary. Had a couple of ECGs and all clear. Even doing exercise would make me anxious because it raised my heart rate. If I slept on my arm awkwardly and it was numb I'd be convinced I was having a heart attack! I dont know what help you're getting but medication and cbt have made things much better for me - plus going clean on the alcohol and drugs!

Been taking duloxetene for years (30mg) and it’s been great, just upped it to 60mg for the pain in the last week or so, and my moods been a bit off, so wonder if that’s contributing to how I feel.

 

[Pudding]

Why not organise a coffee check in folks… surely it can’t hurt. Somewhere Sunderland town centre work for most even if we have to travel?

 

[Turner the Cat]

Been taking duloxetene for years (30mg) and it’s been great, just upped it to 60mg for the pain in the last week or so, and my moods been a bit off, so wonder if that’s contributing to how I feel.

Interesting! I dont know how much you know about anti depressants but im currently on Escitaloprám which is an SSRI to an SNRI type of anti depressant which is what duloxetene also is. Been struggling with low mood in the morning which gets better as the day goes on and apparently SNRIS are better at managing diurnal mood variation.

Ive been ramping down on Escitaloprám and noticed getting more edgy this last week.

 

[Five-Quarter]

Interesting! I dont know how much you know about anti depressants but im currently on Escitaloprám which is an SSRI to an SNRI type of anti depressant which is what duloxetene also is. Been struggling with low mood in the morning which gets better as the day goes on and apparently SNRIS are better at managing diurnal mood variation.

Ive been ramping down on Escitaloprám and noticed getting more edgy this last week.

Interesting. Thanks mate. I have a CPN appt and then a meds review coming up and am slightly picking up pointers from here

Said to someone else that am wondering if the SSRIs are making me a bit hyper then crashing in a cycle of sorts

Anxiety remains all over the place and obviously commented on your morning dread posts a while ago. Weirdly today I just woke feeling good for once like

 

[Turner the Cat]

Interesting. Thanks mate. I have a CPN appt and then a meds review coming up and am slightly picking up pointers from here

Said to someone else that am wondering if the SSRIs are making me a bit hyper then crashing in a cycle of sorts

Anxiety remains all over the place and obviously commented on your morning dread posts a while ago. Weirdly today I just woke feeling good for once like

You ok to elaborate on how those cycles work for you? Just really interested in hearing more from others!

Yeah Ive been much better in the mornings. Hard to know why. Ive reduced my dose which might be why. My circumastances have improved. Im also now sleeping in a room with the curtains open so getting more light in the mornings plus its lighter in the mornings. Problem is when you change multi factors youve no idea which ones are making the difference.