Depression

[DBStar]

Sounds like he's lucky to have such an understanding owner . It's difficult having a fearful dog.

It is difficult and limiting but it is what it is. He should never have been given to an inexperienced owner who likes a.lot of walking as a first dog. W

On the other hand, we are symbiotically therapeutic for one another so it evens out.

 

[Becs]

Just checking in to see how everyone is doing?

Still plodding on here. Saw the IBD nurse and have had my samples done. Just waiting for the results to come back. I'll give them a ring later in the week. Still following the treatment for my menopause issue. I'm back to that clinic at the end of the month for a check up.

Had some quite traumatic news a few days ago which knocked me for six. I've been low but surprised myself by managing to cope with that with thanks to a close few friends. It's still raw and it still hurts, but I'm working on it.

 

[lucky]

Just checking in to see how everyone is doing?

Still plodding on here. Saw the IBD nurse and have had my samples done. Just waiting for the results to come back. I'll give them a ring later in the week. Still following the treatment for my menopause issue. I'm back to that clinic at the end of the month for a check up.

Had some quite traumatic news a few days ago which knocked me for six. I've been low but surprised myself by managing to cope with that with thanks to a close few friends. It's still raw and it still hurts, but I'm working on it.

Good luck with everything mate and if you need anything you know we all here

 

[70s traveller]

Just checking in to see how everyone is doing?

Still plodding on here. Saw the IBD nurse and have had my samples done. Just waiting for the results to come back. I'll give them a ring later in the week. Still following the treatment for my menopause issue. I'm back to that clinic at the end of the month for a check up.

Had some quite traumatic news a few days ago which knocked me for six. I've been low but surprised myself by managing to cope with that with thanks to a close few friends. It's still raw and it still hurts, but I'm working on it.

Hope it all turns out ok.

 

[CPLforever]

Just checking in to see how everyone is doing?

Still plodding on here. Saw the IBD nurse and have had my samples done. Just waiting for the results to come back. I'll give them a ring later in the week. Still following the treatment for my menopause issue. I'm back to that clinic at the end of the month for a check up.

Had some quite traumatic news a few days ago which knocked me for six. I've been low but surprised myself by managing to cope with that with thanks to a close few friends. It's still raw and it still hurts, but I'm working on it.

God you really sound as though you are going through it. Physicall ill health and a seeming inability to get better despite your best efforts really drags you down.

Hopefully, once they can get your health and medication sorted, you start to feel better physically it will improve your mental health.

You are doing all the right things. Stick with it.

 

[MigsGoalKicks]

I’ve been away for a few days in North Yorkshire. My word the countryside improves everything doesn’t it. I love Chester Le Street but think a plan needs to be put in place to move here. The youngest starting nursery 5 afternoons a week in April. Gonna have a bit of a jog/cycle every day. Have drank too much this week, will suffer the consequences when I’m back home. Dreading it! Light nights coming soon. Always improves me mentally. Just need to get this next month out the way with.

Hope everyone is okay. Just fancied a ramble!

 

[CPLforever]

I’ve been away for a few days in North Yorkshire. My word the countryside improves everything doesn’t it. I love Chester Le Street but think a plan needs to be put in place to move here. The youngest starting nursery 5 afternoons a week in April. Gonna have a bit of a jog/cycle every day. Have drank too much this week, will suffer the consequences when I’m back home. Dreading it! Light nights coming soon. Always improves me mentally. Just need to get this next month out the way with.

Hope everyone is okay. Just fancied a ramble!

Two rambles. One in North Yorkshire. Over the moors? And one on here.

It's always good ro recognise what might bring you down but also what helps you feel better.

The days are definately getting longer. Hang on in there.

 

[rey mysterio]

Hope everyone is doing okay.

I’m hammering work still, studying, focussing on dropping two stone for the summer and I’ve got meself a new girlfriend. She’s a mag but nobody is perfect.

Noticed whenever I have a lot to drink though this has a major negative effect on me. Almost beer fear, feels like I’m walking a tightrope for days after. Therefore I’ve knocked the heavy sessions on the head.

Considering jacking the drink in full stop from May as I need to do a blood test and physical 90 days before I get my licence back. The best I’d ever felt was in 2020 during the lockdown when I’d been teetotal for most of a year. Don’t think I need alcohol anymore in my life.

Have certainly learned my lesson but in a way being banned from driving made me take stock of things and become accountable for my own failures and mistakes. From that I’ve managed to put the graft in, rack up more qualifications, eat well, hammer the gym, make sure I get my 8 hours a night and most importantly seen more of my kids. My mental health has improved massively as a result, but I’m conscious that it can all come crashing down again.

Work hard, be nice, have fun. Said Joe Wicks. I’m sticking by that.

 

[Pudding]

Haven’t posted for a while. Hope everyone is having a good day wherever you are. These threads are great to connect. Does anyone ever catch up for coffee catch up? Probably be popular I’d imagine.

Heard about the death of a lad from school who it appears was suffering with head stuff. Didn’t know him particularly well but for some reason it’s hit me quite hard. I’d seen him at an addiction group recently and didn’t get to talk to him. But I’d felt his pain if that makes sense.

 

[Five-Quarter]

Haven’t posted for a while. Hope everyone is having a good day wherever you are. These threads are great to connect. Does anyone ever catch up for coffee catch up? Probably be popular I’d imagine.

Heard about the death of a lad from school who it appears was suffering with head stuff. Didn’t know him particularly well but for some reason it’s hit me quite hard. I’d seen him at an addiction group recently and didn’t get to talk to him. But I’d felt his pain if that makes sense.

I'd probably be up for coffee with like-minded people

Partly because I just wouldn't go to some sort of arranged group via a professional service/charity

You could make an entirely inappropriate joke about it really.

How do you break the ice between a group of people with varying degrees of anxiety, depression, addiction, social phobias, panic disorder, agoraphobia, PTSD, bi-polar etc etc etc etc (apologies for anyone I've missed off the list)

Probably have some degree of football and a laugh about this forum in common as a starter

And absolutely no one will be surprised that's hit you hard by the way

 

[Ciro_DiMarzio]

Haven’t posted for a while. Hope everyone is having a good day wherever you are. These threads are great to connect. Does anyone ever catch up for coffee catch up? Probably be popular I’d imagine.

Heard about the death of a lad from school who it appears was suffering with head stuff. Didn’t know him particularly well but for some reason it’s hit me quite hard. I’d seen him at an addiction group recently and didn’t get to talk to him. But I’d felt his pain if that makes sense.

Whenever I hear about somebody committing suicide it has a bad effect on me. I don't even have to know the person at all. Recent ones in Murton and Seaham are still in my thoughts now.

 

[lucky]

Haven’t posted for a while. Hope everyone is having a good day wherever you are. These threads are great to connect. Does anyone ever catch up for coffee catch up? Probably be popular I’d imagine.

Heard about the death of a lad from school who it appears was suffering with head stuff. Didn’t know him particularly well but for some reason it’s hit me quite hard. I’d seen him at an addiction group recently and didn’t get to talk to him. But I’d felt his pain if that makes sense.

Hope you OK mate and I know that feeling as really makes shit real if you know what I mean.

 

[Five-Quarter]

Whenever I hear about somebody committing suicide it has a bad effect on me. I don't even have to know the person at all. Recent ones in Murton and Seaham are still in my thoughts now.

I thought about you earlier

How odd is that in itself right

Just Harry Styles made me cry and I remembered you commented on the song during the Luton game when he was there. Even odder that I remembered perhaps but then it seemed linked to your post above somehow..........

"Ringin' the bell
And nobody's comin' to help
Your daddy lives by himself
He just wants to know that you're well, oh"

And yes am sober

 

[Ciro_DiMarzio]

I thought about you earlier

How odd is that in itself right

Just Harry Styles made me cry and I remembered you commented on the song during the Luton game when he was there. Even odder that I remembered perhaps but then it seemed linked to your post above somehow..........

"Ringin' the bell
And nobody's comin' to help
Your daddy lives by himself
He just wants to know that you're well, oh"

And yes am sober

It's a great song and the lyrics are very relatable currently. Hope you're ok mate.

 

[Five-Quarter]

It's a great song and the lyrics are very relatable currently. Hope you're ok mate.

Aye. All good thanks tbh. Hope you are too. I was listening to it and then thought hang on, that lyric sounds relatable so googled it

Then started thinking how someone might end up in a place where they're sat on the floor alone and their last thoughts might be to check if their son/daughter is ok

And probably imagined it being me. I hadn't noticed it in the song so much before

Not that am saying am in such a place but it makes sense and seems horribly tragic

Hope this doesn't sound dreadfully deep or makes anyone feel shit or worse

 

[CPLforever]

Whenever I hear about somebody committing suicide it has a bad effect on me. I don't even have to know the person at all. Recent ones in Murton and Seaham are still in my thoughts now.

I am always surprisingly and perversely envious sometimes when I hear about someone passing, through suicide or young (ish). I know, I know it is horrible to look at something so tragic and have these thoughts but sometimes just the idea drifts quickly across my mind...... At least they don't have to wake up tomorrow and deal with the turmoil and shit that is their heads and they are at peace now..

 

[Ciro_DiMarzio]

I am always surprisingly and perversely envious sometimes when I hear about someone passing, through suicide or young (ish). I know, I know it is horrible to look at something so tragic and have these thoughts but sometimes just the idea drifts quickly across my mind...... At least they don't have to wake up tomorrow and deal with the turmoil and shit that is their heads and they are at peace now..

Yeah I get what you mean but at the same time I think hearing about others doing it has helped pull me back from the edge as it makes me think about what's been left behind. The lad from Murton who committed suicide did it while out with his dog and when he was found the dog was still there with him. Stuff like that makes me realise that although my pain would end I'm just passing that pain on to the few people who would actually miss me.

I am always surprisingly and perversely envious sometimes when I hear about someone passing, through suicide or young (ish). I know, I know it is horrible to look at something so tragic and have these thoughts but sometimes just the idea drifts quickly across my mind...... At least they don't have to wake up tomorrow and deal with the turmoil and shit that is their heads and they are at peace now..

Tried to PM you but can't. Hope you're ok as your post has me concerned.

 

[Five-Quarter]

Yeah I get what you mean but at the same time I think hearing about others doing it has helped pull me back from the edge as it makes me think about what's been left behind. The lad from Murton who committed suicide did it while out with his dog and when he was found the dog was still there with him. Stuff like that makes me realise that although my pain would end I'm just passing that pain on to the few people who would actually miss me.

Just browsing

Maybe it's when a line is crossed when your own pain becomes greater than the pain you think you'll leave behind. If you think no one will care at all then that's a hell of a dangerous place

I certainly tell myself it'll get better at times. Invariably it does but it can be a hell of an agonising long lonely road. But when you stop truly believing that, then what?

Is what makes suicide so hard to identify. Like do some people just reach a point where they become at peace with it?

We've all heard of people who "seemed fine", even "better than they've appeared for a while" in some cases

If someone is deemed to have made a cry for help then they probably wanted help. It's the ones that don't that are the worry

Nothing I've said there is groundbreaking or won't have been posted before I realise

 

[CPLforever]

Yeah I get what you mean but at the same time I think hearing about others doing it has helped pull me back from the edge as it makes me think about what's been left behind. The lad from Murton who committed suicide did it while out with his dog and when he was found the dog was still there with him. Stuff like that makes me realise that although my pain would end I'm just passing that pain on to the few people who would actually miss me.

Tried to PM you but can't. Hope you're ok as your post has me concerned.

Oh sorry, didn't mean to alarm you. I have a condition that sometimes makes it hard to regulate emotions and this makes dealing with everyday situations exhausting. I get tired of the everyday slog and long for peace and peace of mind. I have exercises, "tools in the box" that can help me deal, just sometimes it all seems too much like hard work.

 

[Ciro_DiMarzio]

Just browsing

Maybe it's when a line is crossed when your own pain becomes greater than the pain you think you'll leave behind. If you think no one will care at all then that's a hell of a dangerous place

I certainly tell myself it'll get better at times. Invariably it does but it can be a hell of an agonising long lonely road. But when you stop truly believing that, then what?

Is what makes suicide so hard to identify. Like do some people just reach a point where they become at peace with it?

We've all heard of people who "seemed fine", even "better than they've appeared for a while" in some cases

If someone is deemed to have made a cry for help then they probably wanted help. It's the ones that don't that are the worry

Nothing I've said there is groundbreaking or won't have been posted before I realise

Yeah I agree there must be a point where people's own pain takes over and they're able to blank out what they're leaving behind. I've not got.to that point and hopefully I never do but can see how it happens.

I actually mentioned to our lass that I wanted to get all small debts paid off because they were annoying me and she pretty much asked if I was getting my house in order because it's a common thing that people who are planning suicide will try to tidy up loose ends as part.of being at peace with it. Very common for some people to seem very happy and having a good time in the days or weeks leading up to their suicide as well. The human mind is such a complex thing.

Oh sorry, didn't mean to alarm you. I have a condition that sometimes makes it hard to regulate emotions and this makes dealing with everyday situations exhausting. I get tired of the everyday slog and long for peace and peace of mind. I have exercises, "tools in the box" that can help me deal, just sometimes it all seems too much like hard work.

I understand. Was just checking up.