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Harry Gates said:
I'm visiting them in the new year so the stress-free days aren't limitless.
the art of the bob is the way forward.
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They're your parents, make the most of them! I comprehend your raised issues but that seems to be the parental territory (for some). It's totally about yourself how it moves forward. By the mere fact that you're going to them you can manage it.

Bite your lip & get out of the way, sorted.
 
70s traveller said:
They're your parents, make the most of them! I comprehend your raised issues but that seems to be the parental territory (for some). It's totally about yourself how it moves forward. By the mere fact that you're going to them you can manage it.

Bite your lip & get out of the way, sorted.
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Bob.
 
Quite a few years ago I was diagnosed with clinical depression. I absolutely lost my marbles. I imagined all sorts of terrible things and my kids saw me in a state that no kids should see their Dad.
It was triggered by an incident that happened in my life and after being told I was suffering from PTS I went downhill.
This lasted for about nine months, I did consider suicide.
Throughout this time I got very little sympathy from my wife who would keep telling me “You must want to beat it and you will “
I felt I needed sympathy and resented her attitude tbh.
I’m posting this because she was right. If you can adapt the attitude that you want to beat it and not let it beat you, then you will beat it.
Be determined that it’s not gonna feck up your life because you’re better than it, then you will win.
That’s what happened to me.
I woke up one morning and it was like someone had switched a light on in my head. I was determined to beat it and get back to work and be the Dad my kids deserved and the husband my wife deserved.
It was a long time ago but it’s something I will never forget. I beat it although I’m not as strong a person as I once was I’m a lot more sensitive towards things and I would like to Offer advice from my experience.
Adopt the attitude that it’s an illness that you won’t let beat you. You are gonna beat it and get back to normal, be positive about that and like me, you will beat it.
Good Luck to those suffering with it, please beat it.
 
T_Bone said:
Quite a few years ago I was diagnosed with clinical depression. I absolutely lost my marbles. I imagined all sorts of terrible things and my kids saw me in a state that no kids should see their Dad.
It was triggered by an incident that happened in my life and after being told I was suffering from PTS I went downhill.
This lasted for about nine months, I did consider suicide.
Throughout this time I got very little sympathy from my wife who would keep telling me “You must want to beat it and you will “
I felt I needed sympathy and resented her attitude tbh.
I’m posting this because she was right. If you can adapt the attitude that you want to beat it and not let it beat you, then you will beat it.
Be determined that it’s not gonna feck up your life because you’re better than it, then you will win.
That’s what happened to me.
I woke up one morning and it was like someone had switched a light on in my head. I was determined to beat it and get back to work and be the Dad my kids deserved and the husband my wife deserved.
It was a long time ago but it’s something I will never forget. I beat it although I’m not as strong a person as I once was I’m a lot more sensitive towards things and I would like to Offer advice from my experience.
Adopt the attitude that it’s an illness that you won’t let beat you. You are gonna beat it and get back to normal, be positive about that and like me, you will beat it.
Good Luck to those suffering with it, please beat it.
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A very good example of the positive mentality to take in such situations, very well done that man.

I'm really sorry for what you've been through.

If someone wants to beat it, it's possible.

That offer of advice/help is priceless.
 
T_Bone said:
Quite a few years ago I was diagnosed with clinical depression. I absolutely lost my marbles. I imagined all sorts of terrible things and my kids saw me in a state that no kids should see their Dad.
It was triggered by an incident that happened in my life and after being told I was suffering from PTS I went downhill.
This lasted for about nine months, I did consider suicide.
Throughout this time I got very little sympathy from my wife who would keep telling me “You must want to beat it and you will “
I felt I needed sympathy and resented her attitude tbh.
I’m posting this because she was right. If you can adapt the attitude that you want to beat it and not let it beat you, then you will beat it.
Be determined that it’s not gonna feck up your life because you’re better than it, then you will win.
That’s what happened to me.
I woke up one morning and it was like someone had switched a light on in my head. I was determined to beat it and get back to work and be the Dad my kids deserved and the husband my wife deserved.
It was a long time ago but it’s something I will never forget. I beat it although I’m not as strong a person as I once was I’m a lot more sensitive towards things and I would like to Offer advice from my experience.
Adopt the attitude that it’s an illness that you won’t let beat you. You are gonna beat it and get back to normal, be positive about that and like me, you will beat it.
Good Luck to those suffering with it, please beat it.
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Really well done mate for getting through it and this will be an inspiration to many on here , the more success stories the more people can realise it can be beaten ❤️
 
lucky said:
@Becs just read on matchday thread you not feeling well :( . Hope you OK and we all wishing you the best mate ❤️.
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Thanks mate.

Still in a crohns flare and still on the prednisolone which has brutal side effects.

Saw a menopause specialist last week at the hospital. She's put me on a 12 week course of treatment for my health issue with that. I'm being reviewed at the end of Feb. There's options depending on how this treatment works.

Struggling with a PTSD flare up following a triggering incident last weekend. I keep reliving bad things linked to past beatings and mental abuse.

Managed to find the courage to fill in a form on the National Stalking Helpline website and hopefully they will get in touch with advice about that.

Haven't done any Christmas prep yet and it's only 15 days away. Just not in the mood for it yet.

I've got 7 more working days to go. If I can get through them, I can have a rest for two weeks as I'm not back at work till 3rd Jan.
 
Becs said:
Thanks mate.

Still in a crohns flare and still on the prednisolone which has brutal side effects.

Saw a menopause specialist last week at the hospital. She's put me on a 12 week course of treatment for my health issue with that. I'm being reviewed at the end of Feb. There's options depending on how this treatment works.

Struggling with a PTSD flare up following a triggering incident last weekend. I keep reliving bad things linked to past beatings and mental abuse.

Managed to find the courage to fill in a form on the National Stalking Helpline website and hopefully they will get in touch with advice about that.

Haven't done any Christmas prep yet and it's only 15 days away. Just not in the mood for it yet.

I've got 7 more working days to go. If I can get through them, I can have a rest for two weeks as I'm not back at work till 3rd Jan.
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👏 on finding the courage to fill that form in , if you anything like me it's the first initial steps doing anything that I have had locked away for ages the hardest , so what you have done is so so good mate.
So sorry that your struggling and if anyway that me and the Mrs or anyone on here cam help please let us all know as I know for a FACT that you will have so many offers of support or willing to help.
In the meantime try and get through the work days then you can relax as best you can and try not to worry about prep for Christmas as it will all come good 😊.
Take care mate ❤️.
 
Few years ago I'd moved into a flat in Hendon and would often see a lass named Cathy outside of Ray's shop. She loved me, and we'd always have a chat whenever I walked past.

Anyway I got into a bit of a hole, stopped answering the door/phone, and would walk about with my hood up trying to avoid people. Most people left me alone, but not Cathy. She'd make a point of saying hello every time I walked past and would stop whatever she was doing in order to talk to me.

Looking back now, I realise that she knew I was struggling, and she wasn't saying hello just to be polite, she was saying hello because she knew that she might be the only person I spoke to that day.

If you see someone you think is struggling, just say hello. You might be the only person they talk to that day and it could make all the difference.
 
Roker Rick said:
Few years ago I'd moved into a flat in Hendon and would often see a lass named Cathy outside of Ray's shop. She loved me, and we'd always have a chat whenever I walked past.

Anyway I got into a bit of a hole, stopped answering the door/phone, and would walk about with my hood up trying to avoid people. Most people left me alone, but not Cathy. She'd make a point of saying hello every time I walked past and would stop whatever she was doing in order to talk to me.

Looking back now, I realise that she knew I was struggling, and she wasn't saying hello just to be polite, she was saying hello because she knew that she might be the only person I spoke to that day.

If you see someone you think is struggling, just say hello. You might be the only person they talk to that day and it could make all the difference.
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Just saying hello or a little word is massive, it can make a lot of difference to someone.
 
Roker Rick said:
Few years ago I'd moved into a flat in Hendon and would often see a lass named Cathy outside of Ray's shop. She loved me, and we'd always have a chat whenever I walked past.

Anyway I got into a bit of a hole, stopped answering the door/phone, and would walk about with my hood up trying to avoid people. Most people left me alone, but not Cathy. She'd make a point of saying hello every time I walked past and would stop whatever she was doing in order to talk to me.

Looking back now, I realise that she knew I was struggling, and she wasn't saying hello just to be polite, she was saying hello because she knew that she might be the only person I spoke to that day.

If you see someone you think is struggling, just say hello. You might be the only person they talk to that day and it could make all the difference.
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That is a lovely story. And Cathy...that girl had her head screwed on and a heart of gold. Lesson to us all.
 
CPLforever said:
That is a lovely story. And Cathy...that girl had her head screwed on and a heart of gold. Lesson to us all.
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She passed away a few years ago and it'll haunt me that I never got the chance to tell her how grateful I was. Proper heart of gold that woman. She made a huge difference in my life when I was at my lowest point. Just a simple "hello Richard!" and a smile, that's all it was. That's all I needed. A reminder that people care.
 
lucky said:
@Becs Just read on matchday thread that you still not well , just a quick one to say everyone wishing you all the best from here mate ♥️
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Thank you. I'm still unwell.

I'm still in a Crohn's flare and struggling with that and the menopause health issue.

I've got an appointment with the mental health team on Thursday.

I managed to put up some Christmas decorations today. Put some of the garlands up and put the tree up but it hasn't got any lights or anything on it yet. I'll try and finish that tomorrow.
 
Becs said:
Thank you. I'm still unwell.

I'm still in a Crohn's flare and struggling with that and the menopause health issue.

I've got an appointment with the mental health team on Thursday.

I managed to put up some Christmas decorations today. Put some of the garlands up and put the tree up but it hasn't got any lights or anything on it yet. I'll try and finish that tomorrow.
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We all wishing you well mate and don't know how you even found the energy to do what you done today , if you don't finish them tomorrow who cares finish when you want too. Take care and we all wishing you well ❤️.
 
Becs said:
Thank you. I'm still unwell.

I'm still in a Crohn's flare and struggling with that and the menopause health issue.

I've got an appointment with the mental health team on Thursday.

I managed to put up some Christmas decorations today. Put some of the garlands up and put the tree up but it hasn't got any lights or anything on it yet. I'll try and finish that tomorrow.
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Hope you manage to get some relief from the issues. My thoughts are with you.
 
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