Depression

[efcarentwe]

What would you usually do on a weekend, or what would you really like to do but have never got round to doing it? Find something small and do it this weekend. It's like a snowball effect and doing one small thing can lead to going on to do bigger and better things.

You can't stop the negative thoughts coming back into your head. That's human nature and you'll probably always get flashbacks to things that have happened to you. The trick is not letting those thoughts bother you. Try not to dwell on them and try and let the thoughts sort of wash over you and back out again. I know that is much easier said than done though.



It is ideal being out of work if that's what you need to fix you! Really pleased that things seem to be looking up for you and hope you continue to get better xx

i just needed to be away from London and everyone close to her. Thanks a lot

 

[Plank]

What would you usually do on a weekend, or what would you really like to do but have never got round to doing it? Find something small and do it this weekend. It's like a snowball effect and doing one small thing can lead to going on to do bigger and better things.

You can't stop the negative thoughts coming back into your head. That's human nature and you'll probably always get flashbacks to things that have happened to you. The trick is not letting those thoughts bother you. Try not to dwell on them and try and let the thoughts sort of wash over you and back out again. I know that is much easier said than done though.

In all honesty there is nothing, even before this I'd spend my weekends not doing much but I never felt as bad as I do so it didn't bother me, I'll spend time with friends which makes me feel good but then it comes to the nights/mornings in bed and it eats away at me horrifically, this is where the over-thinking comes in and as much as I hate doing it I just can't stop it.

Thankfully this weekend I will be pretty busy as I bought a new car the other day and it should be due for me to pick-up on hopefully Thursday or Friday, it is also my sisters wedding on Saturday! I was seeing someone (I'm 19, so most will probably think I am daft at this age for thinking like this) and she basically wanted nothing to do with me anymore around the time I started feeling like this which obviously just made matters worse, I look at the things we did together and I just didn't realise I was actually happy then and I took it all for granted. Again, I over-think everything and start believing some of the rubbish I think about. Currently trying my hardest not to dwell on all of it, but like you said, it is easier said than done!

Only a couple of my mates know about me suffering with this and I know a couple of others get on here so wouldn't surprise me if they see this, I wish I had the balls to just tell everyone but at the minute I just can't do it.

 

[Mackem Chris]

In all honesty there is nothing, even before this I'd spend my weekends not doing much but I never felt as bad as I do so it didn't bother me, I'll spend time with friends which makes me feel good but then it comes to the nights/mornings in bed and it eats away at me horrifically, this is where the over-thinking comes in and as much as I hate doing it I just can't stop it.

Thankfully this weekend I will be pretty busy as I bought a new car the other day and it should be due for me to pick-up on hopefully Thursday or Friday, it is also my sisters wedding on Saturday! I was seeing someone (I'm 19, so most will probably think I am daft at this age for thinking like this) and she basically wanted nothing to do with me anymore around the time I started feeling like this which obviously just made matters worse, I look at the things we did together and I just didn't realise I was actually happy then and I took it all for granted. Again, I over-think everything and start believing some of the rubbish I think about. Currently trying my hardest not to dwell on all of it, but like you said, it is easier said than done!

Only a couple of my mates know about me suffering with this and I know a couple of others get on here so wouldn't surprise me if they see this, I wish I had the balls to just tell everyone but at the minute I just can't do it.

I'm still trying to figure out if you are taking the piss or not.

If not, I'm sure you will get over it as it sounds like you are love sick.

 

[Plank]

I'm still trying to figure out if you are taking the piss or not.

If not, I'm sure you will get over it as it sounds like you are love sick.

No piss taking mate. I started feeling like this before that all happened anyway. (It obviously did make me feel worse, but isn't the root of the problem)

The last few months have been pretty shit for me, I take a bit of a comfort out of having a bit of a laugh on here and that's about it, this is the only thread I've probably ever been serious in

 

[Mackem Chris]

No piss taking mate. I started feeling like this before that all happened anyway. (It obviously did make me feel worse, but isn't the root of the problem)

The last few months have been pretty shit for me, I take a bit of a comfort out of having a bit of a laugh on here and that's about it, this is the only thread I've probably ever been serious in

I'm shocked.

Suppose this explains why you are such a kernt

If you don't already start exercising, you would be amazed how much being fit and healthy helps.

My mrs suffers from depression canny bad, generally when shes exercising and eating healthy shes ok ish but soon as she stops for a week or 2 it just hits.

 

[luvulongtime]

No piss taking mate. I started feeling like this before that all happened anyway. (It obviously did make me feel worse, but isn't the root of the problem)

The last few months have been pretty shit for me, I take a bit of a comfort out of having a bit of a laugh on here and that's about it, this is the only thread I've probably ever been serious in

i wish i was a depressed 19 year old.

 

[Plank]

I'm shocked.

Suppose this explains why you are such a kernt

If you don't already start exercising, you would be amazed how much being fit and healthy helps.

My mrs suffers from depression canny bad, generally when shes exercising and eating healthy shes ok ish but soon as she stops for a week or 2 it just hits.

I am definitely going to start by getting myself out running once I have finished work as it does seem to be one of the most highly recommended things to do, got to be worth a go!

 

[James]

I am definitely going to start by getting myself out running once I have finished work as it does seem to be one of the most highly recommended things to do, got to be worth a go!

I think it'll help you a lot mate, it did for me. Excellent for clearing your head and makes you feel a lot better, I used to go out and run a few miles, it gives you a bit of space to either think things over and try and work them out or just to forget about everything.

Get out as soon as you can, even if you don't do much to begin with, start slowly and build it up. Hopefully it gives you a bit of a boost which could be all you need. If not then go and see your GP and start telling your mates, I found hiding the issue just made things worse.

 

[peil]

Came off my meds suddenly in December as I thought I was doing OK.
Come late Feb and I was totally introverted, avoiding everything, panic attacks...

Back on them for about 2 weeks now and feeling a bit more stable

 

[Plank]

I think it'll help you a lot mate, it did for me. Excellent for clearing your head and makes you feel a lot better, I used to go out and run a few miles, it gives you a bit of space to either think things over and try and work them out or just to forget about everything.

Get out as soon as you can, even if you don't do much to begin with, start slowly and build it up. Hopefully it gives you a bit of a boost which could be all you need. If not then go and see your GP and start telling your mates, I found hiding the issue just made things worse.

Cheers mate. Going out with one of the lads after work for a bit and always takes my mind off things, once im back ill be going straight back out and going to start it for good tonight.

 

[I am a Mag]

I urge anyone suffering from Panic disorder/Anxiety, Depression or any other mental health disorder to ask your GP to refer you for an initial block of CBT, I have said in another thread it is a game changer.

In the meantime check out this site

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and look at the workbooks (PDFs), its a well known and respected site and the Panic Stations modules are particularly helpful especially the Exposure workbook as is Back from the Bluez. I assure you that if you are a long time sufferer they are written so they are easy to take in and be understood no matter how for down the road you are and because it is about you it will keep you reading but you have to get involved. There is info for a wide spectrum of Mental disorders including real core stuff like Perfectionism, Eating Disorders, Worry and Intolerance of Uncertainty and my favorite old nemesis, Health Anxiety.

As already mentioned by others on here, do get some help, don't be fobbed off and get active never underestimate the power of Endorphin's! Eat healthy, be mindful even if its just 10 minutes a day but above all make a start now and don't give up. There is always, always hope!

 

[shogun1904]

Felt shit for about 7 weeks or so now. Last time I felt pretty bad was around Summer but not for so long.

As I have said previously I am going between feeling horrendous for 30 minutes, then feeling alright for 1 minute. No matter how hard I try I can't keep negative thoughts out of my head, I have been doing anything I can possible to block them coming in but I'm just not strong enough to be able to do it. Weirdly enough I am at the point where I dread finishing work as I go home and do fuck all, same with weekends, I don't even look forward to them anymore as I only sit around doing nothing. I did start feeling much better a week or so ago then seen something I didn't want to see and it came crashing back in again and has felt exactly the same ever since.

You need to stop knocking around with fabulous falcao.

 

[Plank]

You need to stop knocking around with fabulous falcao.

i think that could be it!

 

[Deleted member 5265]

Cheers mate. Going out with one of the lads after work for a bit and always takes my mind off things, once im back ill be going straight back out and going to start it for good tonight.

Get to your GP and talk it through with them. And if exercise doesn't work for you, don't feel bad - it didn't work for me.

 

[Left For Dead]

I urge anyone suffering from Panic disorder/Anxiety, Depression or any other mental health disorder to ask your GP to refer you for an initial block of CBT, I have said in another thread it is a game changer.

In the meantime check out this site

You must be logged on to see external links

and look at the workbooks (PDFs), its a well known and respected site and the Panic Stations modules are particularly helpful especially the Exposure workbook as is Back from the Bluez. I assure you that if you are a long time sufferer they are written so they are easy to take in and be understood no matter how for down the road you are and because it is about you it will keep you reading but you have to get involved. There is info for a wide spectrum of Mental disorders including real core stuff like Perfectionism, Eating Disorders, Worry and Intolerance of Uncertainty and my favorite old nemesis, Health Anxiety.

As already mentioned by others on here, do get some help, don't be fobbed off and get active never underestimate the power of Endorphin's! Eat healthy, be mindful even if its just 10 minutes a day but above all make a start now and don't give up. There is always, always hope!

this is pretty accurate.....I thought if you were chemically imbalanced that was it for life, all you could do was boost your serotonin with meds....I mean how could talking fix a physical problem.? It doesn though......you almost get a eurphoria speaking in a session....look up sunderland wellbeing centre in monkwearmouth, start the ball rolling.

 

[GTG]

I am definitely going to start by getting myself out running once I have finished work as it does seem to be one of the most highly recommended things to do, got to be worth a go!

I have never run for the sake of running in my life, and I am too old to start now but what I think has made a big difference to my mental state is changing jobs after half a lifetime to something that involves walking the streets for a few hours a day, and nah, I'm not a rent boy/old git. A big part of this is that while I'm walking I listen to audiobooks, lovely way to pass the time, just losing yourself in a story without any effort. OK, it might mean a few people get the wrong mail now an again but it works for me. Another reason I mention this is that the site I get my 'books' from has quite a few on CBT which has just been mentioned in this thread. Could be killing two birds with one stone, as it were.

 

[Plank]

I have never run for the sake of running in my life, and I am too old to start now but what I think has made a big difference to my mental state is changing jobs after half a lifetime to something that involves walking the streets for a few hours a day, and nah, I'm not a rent boy/old git. A big part of this is that while I'm walking I listen to audiobooks, lovely way to pass the time, just losing yourself in a story without any effort. OK, it might mean a few people get the wrong mail now an again but it works for me. Another reason I mention this is that the site I get my 'books' from has quite a few on CBT which has just been mentioned in this thread. Could be killing two birds with one stone, as it were.

could be worth a look for me for something at night. sometimes takes me a while to actually fall asleep and that can be when it gets pretty bad for me.. thanks mate

 

[Deleted member 5265]

I have never run for the sake of running in my life, and I am too old to start now but what I think has made a big difference to my mental state is changing jobs after half a lifetime to something that involves walking the streets for a few hours a day, and nah, I'm not a rent boy/old git. A big part of this is that while I'm walking I listen to audiobooks, lovely way to pass the time, just losing yourself in a story without any effort. OK, it might mean a few people get the wrong mail now an again but it works for me. Another reason I mention this is that the site I get my 'books' from has quite a few on CBT which has just been mentioned in this thread. Could be killing two birds with one stone, as it were.

I too am a great walker and build a 45 mins walk into most days, often lost in an audiobook like you say. I totally identify with your experience here. Walking slows down the mind, allows you to drift off to some comfortable place, or allows you to get lost in a book.

 

[The Spezial One]

could be worth a look for me for something at night. sometimes takes me a while to actually fall asleep and that can be when it gets pretty bad for me.. thanks mate

Listen to podcasts mate. I'm not depressed or owt but have trouble winding down especially if I've been stressed TNT work. Tried tuning out by falling asleep by putting a podcast on and haven't had any bother sleeping for about a year now.

I recommend Joe Rogan especially.

 

[becs]

I too am a great walker and build a 45 mins walk into most days, often lost in an audiobook like you say. I totally identify with your experience here. Walking slows down the mind, allows you to drift off to some comfortable place, or allows you to get lost in a book.

I had counselling a few years back after going through some pretty traumatic stuff. The lady who looked after me said she noticed people with dogs seem to fair better than people without dogs. She was sure it's because the dog people have to go out and go for a walk everyday even if they don't want to, and they get the benefits from walking.