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yorkyexile said:
Cheers Becs love. The insomnias a pain. Every morning about 1 im wide awake then up and down every hour on the hour. Think thats leaving me drained as much as owt else.Anyway take care yourself and i hope you get sorted
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Lack of sleep is a killer. It affects all sorts if you don't get enough sleep - you're metabolism goes all over the place, you feel cold, the usual body maintenance like muscle and skin repair doesn't happen and causes minor issues and it all adds up. I'm going to ask for something to help me sleep and see if that'll get rid of the dog.

I'm regularly waking between 3-4am and not getting back to sleep, and even though I'm wrecked I can't doze off until my usual bedtime so going to bed early doesn't help.
 

yorkyexile said:
Cheers Becs love. The insomnias a pain. Every morning about 1 im wide awake then up and down every hour on the hour. Think thats leaving me drained as much as owt else.Anyway take care yourself and i hope you get sorted
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Try some mindfulness/meditation techniques. I went to some Buddhist sessions and nearly always got close to nodding off.

But when I struggle to sleep I use some of the techniques, i.e. sit still, focus on the air moving in and out of your nose. If anything else you will be more relaxed even if you don't fall asleep.
 
the walrus said:
I know this is slightly different but can anyone recommend a decent physiatrist? Plagued with anxiety and would like to get to the bottom of it. Cheers
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Are you concerned about something or someone? Or is it simply a free floating sort of anxiety that you can't trace to anything? I sometimes find that if there is something at the back of my mind that I've forgotten about and that I should have done then I start to feel anxious and under pressure. Once I realise what it was the anxiety fades.

It's generally a missed bill in my case. You think that you've paid everything but still feel unsettled then days later you find the missing bill! Once it's sorted the anxiety fades.
 
Been struggling with it for a couple of weeks, but it properly hit me this afternoon. I just went to the bathroom and locked myself in for a couple of hours. Bad crack.

And to make things worse, my lass broke up with me tonight. Completely out of the blue.

I've been having lots of thoughts about suicide the last couple of days ( I stress about suicide, not committing suicide), but I scared myself a bit tonight when I started to think about it while she was on the phone splitting up with me.
 
Walter Ego said:
Been struggling with it for a couple of weeks, but it properly hit me this afternoon. I just went to the bathroom and locked myself in for a couple of hours. Bad crack.

And to make things worse, my lass broke up with me tonight. Completely out of the blue.

I've been having lots of thoughts about suicide the last couple of days ( I stress about suicide, not committing suicide), but I scared myself a bit tonight when I started to think about it while she was on the phone splitting up with me.
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Stay strong fella,small steps climb mountains!
 
Walter Ego said:
Been struggling with it for a couple of weeks, but it properly hit me this afternoon. I just went to the bathroom and locked myself in for a couple of hours. Bad crack.

And to make things worse, my lass broke up with me tonight. Completely out of the blue.

I've been having lots of thoughts about suicide the last couple of days ( I stress about suicide, not committing suicide), but I scared myself a bit tonight when I started to think about it while she was on the phone splitting up with me.
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When you start thinking about suicide you need to remember that all things pass, including how you feel now. You just have to keep plodding on, and one day you will realise that you don't feel so down and that this too, has passed. No one spends every second of their entire life being depressed nor does everyone spend all their life being happy.

I read somewhere that depression is like walking through puddles of water, some are shallow and only come to your ankles, others are deep and cover your head. But so long as you keep on walking at some point you will come out of even the deepest of puddles. I find that a comforting thought in some ways, knowing that for every minute I'm down, I'm just a little bit closer to moving out of depression.

See your GP, talk to them about how you feel. Accept any treatment they offer you. It can either help or not help. If it does help that's great, if it doesn't then go back and try something else. Eat well, get out for long walks and just be kind to yourself. Take care of yourself.
 
the walrus said:
I know this is slightly different but can anyone recommend a decent physiatrist? Plagued with anxiety and would like to get to the bottom of it. Cheers
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I took the CBT course rather than the medication the doctor offered and it worked for me, also relaxation/meditation apps on my phone. Anytime I feel a slight relapse I go back to my CBT notes or think about what was discussed, it helped me mate. And anxiety is linked to depression so give it a go mate. Just knowing I'd started the ball rolling helped me even before any meetings Happened.
 
Walter Ego said:
Been struggling with it for a couple of weeks, but it properly hit me this afternoon. I just went to the bathroom and locked myself in for a couple of hours. Bad crack.

And to make things worse, my lass broke up with me tonight. Completely out of the blue.

I've been having lots of thoughts about suicide the last couple of days ( I stress about suicide, not committing suicide), but I scared myself a bit tonight when I started to think about it while she was on the phone splitting up with me.
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Nothing hurts harder than a broken heart. Currently dealing with some unrequited affection and it hurts really bad.

If you're thinking like that, you're best off seeing the GP for some help. They'll talk through options and help you find what is going to suit you best. In the mean time, never feel alone. There are plenty of people in here (me included!) who will listen if you want to talk. Look after yourself pet xx
 
Walter Ego said:
Been struggling with it for a couple of weeks, but it properly hit me this afternoon. I just went to the bathroom and locked myself in for a couple of hours. Bad crack.

And to make things worse, my lass broke up with me tonight. Completely out of the blue.

I've been having lots of thoughts about suicide the last couple of days ( I stress about suicide, not committing suicide), but I scared myself a bit tonight when I started to think about it while she was on the phone splitting up with me.
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Thats a shitter matey. Not much else to add other than my best wishes and as becs has said theres plenty of us giing through it at the minute and you know where we are if you need a natter.
 
Walter Ego said:
Been struggling with it for a couple of weeks, but it properly hit me this afternoon. I just went to the bathroom and locked myself in for a couple of hours. Bad crack.

And to make things worse, my lass broke up with me tonight. Completely out of the blue.

I've been having lots of thoughts about suicide the last couple of days ( I stress about suicide, not committing suicide), but I scared myself a bit tonight when I started to think about it while she was on the phone splitting up with me.
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Hope your ok fella, message me anytime if your getting any bad feelings, helps to talk. You may have seen my meltdown status on facebook recently :lol:

Im currently suffering from a lot of anger at present more than depression. I literally cant say much via social media (legally). I found out during a break up about a month ago that things weren't as amicable as I thought and that the other person went back to an ex boyfriend whilst ending things. Sounds a bad enough situation in itself but there are so many underlying reasons behind this that makes it unfathomable she would do this.
When I found out about what happened I had loads of anger, I was told by her and I told her same thing that if we ended badly we would give opportunity to speak to each other for closure. Well when I confronted her, I got a text saying ''its none of my business and she is blocking my telephone number''. She could never speak to me again because I could give her blatant examples of how she has lied etc etc. If she picked up the phone and listened to me rant for 5 minutes that would have been it. However, with her distancing herself, I had all this anger and nowhere to go. So I posted something on facebook couple of weeks ago telling people what she had done. Got a fantastic response and woke up next morning feeling fine, so happy that I am out of what would have been a horrible existence.

The thing I am struggling with is I cant now concentrate, I try to watch tv but remember things said months ago which didn't add up, remember last time we seen each other she said I want to be with nobody for a long time yet was seeing him again at that time, so many things going through my mind that cant concentrate.

This has gave me nice bit comfort typing this tbf :lol:
 
heskey to success said:
Hope your ok fella, message me anytime if your getting any bad feelings, helps to talk. You may have seen my meltdown status on facebook recently :lol:

Im currently suffering from a lot of anger at present more than depression. I literally cant say much via social media (legally). I found out during a break up about a month ago that things weren't as amicable as I thought and that the other person went back to an ex boyfriend whilst ending things. Sounds a bad enough situation in itself but there are so many underlying reasons behind this that makes it unfathomable she would do this.
When I found out about what happened I had loads of anger, I was told by her and I told her same thing that if we ended badly we would give opportunity to speak to each other for closure. Well when I confronted her, I got a text saying ''its none of my business and she is blocking my telephone number''. She could never speak to me again because I could give her blatant examples of how she has lied etc etc. If she picked up the phone and listened to me rant for 5 minutes that would have been it. However, with her distancing herself, I had all this anger and nowhere to go. So I posted something on facebook couple of weeks ago telling people what she had done. Got a fantastic response and woke up next morning feeling fine, so happy that I am out of what would have been a horrible existence.

The thing I am struggling with is I cant now concentrate, I try to watch tv but remember things said months ago which didn't add up, remember last time we seen each other she said I want to be with nobody for a long time yet was seeing him again at that time, so many things going through my mind that cant concentrate.

This has gave me nice bit comfort typing this tbf :lol:
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If your struggling to concentrate you should get out and about and keep your mind and body busy. Exercise is great. All that pent up anger could be channelled to great affect.

Other than that, and I wouldn't normally offer this advice, but I think getting your rocks off with another lass would solve a lot of your anger . Jealousy Can do terrible things to us and you need to slay the green eyed monster before it eats you up.
 
bu-bu-buchanon said:
If your struggling to concentrate you should get out and about and keep your mind and body busy. Exercise is great. All that pent up anger could be channelled to great affect.

Other than that, and I wouldn't normally offer this advice, but I think getting your rocks off with another lass would solve a lot of your anger . Jealousy Can do terrible things to us and you need to slay the green eyed monster before it eats you up.
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Cheers for advice mate. I feel fantastic and got a lot of pressure off my shoulders by having my rant etc. Got loads of support, been getting lots of texts off lasses offering ''their support and come round for a chat'' :lol:. Its just a bit raw at the moment and still on my mind, it will pass but just frustrating. Im a big fan of tv boxsets and can lock myself away in another world happily, but my mind just keeps wandering and find myself 20 minutes into an episode and don't know whats happening. Simply concentration is non existent because of lots of questions left unanswered or things I have found out that I cant tell. They aren't worth time of day but still naturally want to tell them that ''do you know when you said this, well you did this'' etc.

The gym is fantastic mind, my workouts have been better than normal because I have all this motivation and when I am challenged I have an inner confidence that comes to the front, cant be beaten. If I could go to gym and then press a button to sleep for the rest of the day then all would be well :lol:
 
People who suffer depression need to talk to as many people as they can. If they feel GP's are fobbing them off speak to another one. We've learned over the years that this place is very helpful and supportive with regards to this horrible problem.
 
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Walter Ego said:
Been struggling with it for a couple of weeks, but it properly hit me this afternoon. I just went to the bathroom and locked myself in for a couple of hours. Bad crack.

And to make things worse, my lass broke up with me tonight. Completely out of the blue.

I've been having lots of thoughts about suicide the last couple of days ( I stress about suicide, not committing suicide), but I scared myself a bit tonight when I started to think about it while she was on the phone splitting up with me.
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Tough stuff mate,im 8 months into a split from a depressive wife,a decision she made after some awe inspiring CBT epiphany!so much for it rationalising irrational thoughts!..For a very grounded sensible type im having a tough time of it even now,one more offer for an anytime chat,likewise any others who just want to let off..
 
heskey to success said:
Hope your ok fella, message me anytime if your getting any bad feelings, helps to talk. You may have seen my meltdown status on facebook recently :lol:

Im currently suffering from a lot of anger at present more than depression. I literally cant say much via social media (legally). I found out during a break up about a month ago that things weren't as amicable as I thought and that the other person went back to an ex boyfriend whilst ending things. Sounds a bad enough situation in itself but there are so many underlying reasons behind this that makes it unfathomable she would do this.
When I found out about what happened I had loads of anger, I was told by her and I told her same thing that if we ended badly we would give opportunity to speak to each other for closure. Well when I confronted her, I got a text saying ''its none of my business and she is blocking my telephone number''. She could never speak to me again because I could give her blatant examples of how she has lied etc etc. If she picked up the phone and listened to me rant for 5 minutes that would have been it. However, with her distancing herself, I had all this anger and nowhere to go. So I posted something on facebook couple of weeks ago telling people what she had done. Got a fantastic response and woke up next morning feeling fine, so happy that I am out of what would have been a horrible existence.

The thing I am struggling with is I cant now concentrate, I try to watch tv but remember things said months ago which didn't add up, remember last time we seen each other she said I want to be with nobody for a long time yet was seeing him again at that time, so many things going through my mind that cant concentrate.

This has gave me nice bit comfort typing this tbf :lol:
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same shit happened to me. Instead of coming clean she cheated on me for months 200 yards from my front door. Acted normal went on holiday then came back she started going to see a long lost friend of hers. I knew what she was up to but had no proof. I worked nights so she could get away with anything. We split up and 5 months on she still Denies everything but I've been drip fed bits of info to put the puzzle together myself. Because i moved to London I've had to stay in a hotel for work and spent so much time on my own since it happened its drove me insane. The weekend before the split she took £300 out my bank and fucked off with him for the weekend. I know we're he lives and really feel like going to get him and carving him up but I know it's instant jail.

5 months on its all I think about. If she had the decency to admit it I could move on but she's a shithouse. I never touched coke while I was with her but did when I was younger. Last weekend I sat in a hotel room sniffed a grands worth of beak over 3 days while drinking 3 bottles of vodka pretty much straight. My heads gone I can't be arsed with anything. . I was meant to go to bern in the Europa league last week but fucked it off despite paying for the whole trip.
I don't even want to go the match tonight. I had a panic attack yesterday in a f***ing shop and I'm now on anti depressants because of all this. I have all my mates and family on block on my phone because I just can't be arsed with anyone.

Getting out of bed is a result these days for me.

Apologies for waffling lol
 
It's the up and down I can't stand. I got up this morning dreading a call for work as I had to meet another rep in store and work with him for three hours and I was dead nervous about going. When I got there, he was a lovely bloke and we got on really well. Had a right good natter doing the work. He's got my number and is going to ring me if any other work comes up. Felt all happy when I left store.

Then a friend texted me and told me some home truths about a situation that is troubling me and now I'm sitting at home all by myself crying into a cup of coffee :cry:
 
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