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Turner the Cat said:
Yesterday I quit my job of nearly ten years. I dont have any energy, I'm tired all the time and I struggle to get out of bed in the mornings. I've tried all sorts of things with changing diet, pills and lifestyle but ultimately I think its all in my head and I need a change and time to recover. Either way, how things have been for a while now is no way to live a life.

I don't have another job to go to but I'm very lucky to have a fair amount of savings and I can pay off my mortgage tomorrow if I want and still have a good wedge left over. Despite this, my wife is stressed and thinks I'm doing the wrong thing and catastrophising that I'll never get a job again. I understand her worry and as a man and the breadwinner, I do feel a sense of pressure to be strong and working. Furthermore, while I want this to be a positive thing to make my life better, I also feel a sense of shame as a failure for leaving work.
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I don't know what you did for a living but if money isn't an immediate issue then it might be good to try your hand at something completely different. I know a lad who used to earn well in an office based environment but packed it in because he hated it. He went to work at Morrisons as a stop gap and despite the big drop in wages he really enjoyed it and has been there a good few years now. I do realise your situation might be more complex but just a suggestion to think about.
 

Ciro_DiMarzio said:
I don't know what you did for a living but if money isn't an immediate issue then it might be good to try your hand at something completely different. I know a lad who used to earn well in an office based environment but packed it in because he hated it. He went to work at Morrisons as a stop gap and despite the big drop in wages he really enjoyed it and has been there a good few years now. I do realise your situation might be more complex but just a suggestion to think about.
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I'm tempted now to do that now but my job isn't that bad :lol:
 
Turner the Cat said:
Yesterday I quit my job of nearly ten years. I dont have any energy, I'm tired all the time and I struggle to get out of bed in the mornings. I've tried all sorts of things with changing diet, pills and lifestyle but ultimately I think its all in my head and I need a change and time to recover. Either way, how things have been for a while now is no way to live a life.

I don't have another job to go to but I'm very lucky to have a fair amount of savings and I can pay off my mortgage tomorrow if I want and still have a good wedge left over. Despite this, my wife is stressed and thinks I'm doing the wrong thing and catastrophising that I'll never get a job again. I understand her worry and as a man and the breadwinner, I do feel a sense of pressure to be strong and working. Furthermore, while I want this to be a positive thing to make my life better, I also feel a sense of shame as a failure for leaving work.
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Just a suggestion but what about an English teaching course like a TEFL/CELTA and then doing some online teaching? Big demand for it since Covid, meet some interesting people and get satisfaction from teaching someone your language.
 
Hope everyone is doing okay. I’ve been doing fine since starting my job finally but lately I’ve felt a bit on edge. Concentration seems to lapse from time to time and I can’t explain why. The grey fog. No idea what causes it.

I’m jacking in all socials and going to concentrate on work/gym/studying for the next six months like. Got a plan and I’m sticking to it
 
rey mysterio said:
Hope everyone is doing okay. I’ve been doing fine since starting my job finally but lately I’ve felt a bit on edge. Concentration seems to lapse from time to time and I can’t explain why. The grey fog. No idea what causes it.

I’m jacking in all socials and going to concentrate on work/gym/studying for the next six months like. Got a plan and I’m sticking to it
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Get the brain fog aspect. Am avoiding or glazing over in new job. Might be a strategy to only take in what I can handle.

The muddle was so random recently, I couldn't even remember what street I lived in when talking (stone cold sober) to a vicar. "Begins with a W" was the best I could come out with and that took a few goes. Almost comical after 2+ years being here

Socials as in going out or social media? A plan sounds really positive. That's got to be a big step all of its own
 
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Today is the day when I hit the edge and almost jumped. I've had suicidal thoughts before but never got anywhere near acting upon them, but today was different.

I've been in a reasonably good way for quite a while now, but today I was hit with some news that completely hit me for six. I literally feel so close to having a mental breakdown right now that I have finally decided I am going to try and get counselling and get back to the doctor's tomorrow and make sure I get the right treatment. There is absolutely no way I can make it through the upcoming period without some kind of professional support.

I know I'll get some support on here and I really do appreciate it, but please don't message asking what the problem is and if there is a way you can help alleviate it somewhat. Unfortunately this problem won't go away and the weight can't be lifted off my shoulders.
 
Fred said:
Today is the day when I hit the edge and almost jumped. I've had suicidal thoughts before but never got anywhere near acting upon them, but today was different.

I've been in a reasonably good way for quite a while now, but today I was hit with some news that completely hit me for six. I literally feel so close to having a mental breakdown right now that I have finally decided I am going to try and get counselling and get back to the doctor's tomorrow and make sure I get the right treatment. There is absolutely no way I can make it through the upcoming period without some kind of professional support.

I know I'll get some support on here and I really do appreciate it, but please don't message asking what the problem is and if there is a way you can help alleviate it somewhat. Unfortunately this problem won't go away and the weight can't be lifted off my shoulders.
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Take care pal and hope you get all the help you need , sending love and support from this house to yours ❤️.
 
Fred said:
Today is the day when I hit the edge and almost jumped. I've had suicidal thoughts before but never got anywhere near acting upon them, but today was different.

I've been in a reasonably good way for quite a while now, but today I was hit with some news that completely hit me for six. I literally feel so close to having a mental breakdown right now that I have finally decided I am going to try and get counselling and get back to the doctor's tomorrow and make sure I get the right treatment. There is absolutely no way I can make it through the upcoming period without some kind of professional support.

I know I'll get some support on here and I really do appreciate it, but please don't message asking what the problem is and if there is a way you can help alleviate it somewhat. Unfortunately this problem won't go away and the weight can't be lifted off my shoulders.
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Sounds an awful situation mate. I've been going through a shocking time too but I'm in a better place now although my own scenario hasn't improved yet.
Something that my mate said to me when I had similar thoughts to you was....
"don't be so f****** stupid Gaz, you're trying to use a permanent solution to resolve a temporary problem." That has stuck with me and has kept me going.

Whatever your problem is (and I'm not asking what it is), it will not be permanent and you WILL get through it. Better times will come.
Take care Fred.
 
Gazoliver said:
Sounds an awful situation mate. I've been going through a shocking time too but I'm in a better place now although my own scenario hasn't improved yet.
Something that my mate said to me when I had similar thoughts to you was....
"don't be so f****** stupid Gaz, you're trying to use a permanent solution to resolve a temporary problem." That has stuck with me and has kept me going.

Whatever your problem is (and I'm not asking what it is), it will not be permanent and you WILL get through it. Better times will come.
Take care Fred.
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Wise words from your mate. It was only a few weeks ago when I was feeling at my worst. Made some real positive progress relationship wise since then and my mindset is much improved. It is hard to rationalise things when you're in a dark place though.
 
Gazoliver said:
Sounds an awful situation mate. I've been going through a shocking time too but I'm in a better place now although my own scenario hasn't improved yet.
Something that my mate said to me when I had similar thoughts to you was....
"don't be so f****** stupid Gaz, you're trying to use a permanent solution to resolve a temporary problem." That has stuck with me and has kept me going.

Whatever your problem is (and I'm not asking what it is), it will not be permanent and you WILL get through it. Better times will come.
Take care Fred.
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I wish that were the case. Not feeling much better today but at least them thoughts have dissipated a bit.
 
Fred said:
I wish that were the case. Not feeling much better today but at least them thoughts have dissipated a bit.
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Good those thoughts have reduced. Keep going. Try writing a little diary...how you feel, what's happened that's positive etc. In a few days you'll be able to look back and see how far you've come. Try going for walks with someone. Walking and talking is brilliant.
 
Fred said:
Thanks everyone.

I hope I've got things set up in place for when I inevitably have another moment like that. Unfortunately I wasn't able to get in contact with the docs today so that is going to have to be on Monday and work have been really supportive and gave me a number to ring which provides great mental health support.
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Just keep going till you get to see the docs and take things day by day. You got so much support on here as well mate so if you ever down just message on here and always somebody around.
 
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