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Becoming a dad

Some lovely posts on here, well done fellow dads.

Quick one from me just because I assume most people don't know - don't leave babies in car seats after you arrive at your destination. Long sleeps in those things can be dangerous.

And don't get the wrong idea about the passage of time. If you allow yourself to "do all the other stuff" then you'll miss out on the one and only time you have to do certain things with the kid. Once the time is gone, its gone.
 

Enjoy it.

The thing I was most worried about was the nappies, but you're eased into it as the first few smell of absolutely nothing. As opposed to some of the later ones that smelled worse than my shite's the morning after having 12 pints.
 
@Seaham Towny are you doing NCT classes with your partner? They're a really good way of making friends with people going through the same situation. Our lass meets up with them pretty regularly on maternity leave.

You'll also learn a lot about looking after the baby, things to be aware of, and of course what to expect from the birth (do not fuckin look down no matter what happens in that room :lol:).
 
Crook Mackem said:
Kids are boring as owt until they start being able to interact properly imo. As a dad you cant really do anything for the first year really, all they need is a mam. Neither of ours slept particularly well so i would say that initial few months / year is just an endurance test :lol:

You just make it up as you go along as well. I do think though that when ours were born 2009 / 2011 there was a lot more support for "activities" etc to do with mams and their babies, the wife made some really good friends at some of them groups and one of the eldests best friends is a girl who she first met at one of them when she was a few weeks old. But like I say, I was pretty much a spare part other than being a paranoid wreck listening to them breathing when they were asleep or changing the odd nappy.

Would also say, the nappy thing whilst rank is nowhere near as bad as when the potty thing comes along. At least in a nappy it just stinks and is all mushed up. When your staring at a proper turd covered in piss in a little bowl it had me retching all the way to the toilet .
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What absolute bollocks
 
Hbk69 said:
What absolute bollocks
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Its right like. First 6 months ours were on the breastmilk. I couldnt do nowt other than clean up / change nappies now and again and look after our lass. Once they were on the powdered milk I would do a late one around 11pm and a early one at 6 or 7am but I never did a through the night one as the missus did them as she was off for a year.

First 6 months I was basically just a cook / cleaner who spent the nights paranoid listening for signs of breathing from a cot. In terms of the kids though, I was basically not needed for them to survive :lol:
James said:
@Seaham Towny are you doing NCT classes with your partner? They're a really good way of making friends with people going through the same situation. Our lass meets up with them pretty regularly on maternity leave.

You'll also learn a lot about looking after the baby, things to be aware of, and of course what to expect from the birth (do not fuckin look down no matter what happens in that room :lol:).
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Ours came out quite quick really. I stayed at the opposite end of the bed holding our lasses hand with my nose about an inch from the wall. Glanced over at one point by mistake and saw blood all over her legs , horrible scenes like something out of a tarantino film
 
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Aside from meeting and marrying Mrs K, Mini-K is the single greatest thing in my life.
I'm currently experiencing the joys of 6 going on 16, but she's hilarious, clever, caring and sharp as a tack.
When a little person shares your mannerisms, expressions or (inevitably) phrases - it's the absolute business.
 
Keawyeds said:
Aside from meeting and marrying Mrs K, Mini-K is the single greatest thing in my life.
I'm currently experiencing the joys of 6 going on 16, but she's hilarious, clever, caring and sharp as a tack.
When a little person shares your mannerisms, expressions or (inevitably) phrases - it's the absolute business.
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Hope she’s not dressed up in 3/4 lengths as well? ;)
 
Congrats. The biggest change for us was spending time together as a couple. Always make sure you take time for each other, and keep an eye out on your partner in the first few months. PND is very real and common, so giving your other half the benefit of the doubt and running after her more will make a huge difference (probs still won't be enough, but at least you've tried :lol:

Having a kid is the best thing in the world, there are no words to prepare you for their first smile or when they hold your hand.
 
James said:
@Seaham Towny are you doing NCT classes with your partner? They're a really good way of making friends with people going through the same situation. Our lass meets up with them pretty regularly on maternity leave.

You'll also learn a lot about looking after the baby, things to be aware of, and of course what to expect from the birth (do not fuckin look down no matter what happens in that room :lol:).
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I’m not but I’ll look into it.

And I wasn’t planning on it, but curiosity might get the better of me.
 
Seaham Towny said:
First one due in early May.

Any advice?

Currently flitting between joy and crippling fear and have been the last few months.

Piss takes are welcome, feel free.
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Thought I’d bump this now and give an update.

May well encourage any younger posters in a similar scenario to have a look and I’m all about support (what’s prompted this is one of the lads I know has just told me he’s about to be a father at 24)

Anyways… what I’ve learned.

1. Not everything is the end of the world even though you think it might be at the time.

2. You are never as tired as your partner, no matter how much it might feel that way, never voice this concern.

3. Bodily expulsions are easily dealt with. I feel I’ve become pretty immune to each one now.

4. Don’t wish away the ‘lack of sleep, he’s a potato’ phase. That phase is epic..

He’s now 1 and a bit and wants into everything despite the fact it might kill him. Get as much exercise as you can during the former, because your cardio output is about to go through the roof :lol:
 
Seaham Towny said:
Thought I’d bump this now and give an update.

May well encourage any younger posters in a similar scenario to have a look and I’m all about support (what’s prompted this is one of the lads I know has just told me he’s about to be a father at 24)

Anyways… what I’ve learned.

1. Not everything is the end of the world even though you think it might be at the time.

2. You are never as tired as your partner, no matter how much it might feel that way, never voice this concern.

3. Bodily expulsions are easily dealt with. I feel I’ve become pretty immune to each one now.

4. Don’t wish away the ‘lack of sleep, he’s a potato’ phase. That phase is epic..

He’s now 1 and a bit and wants into everything despite the fact it might kill him. Get as much exercise as you can during the former, because your cardio output is about to go through the roof :lol:
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Cheers for the update, many don’t bother but it’s great to see. Wait till he’s two, then the fun starts.

Best of luck marra.
 
jonnie_makem said:
Get a nursery place sorted now. Even if you're not planning to put them in until they're 1.
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He’s in one, the length of the email I got a couple weeks ago detailing the various illnesses he might catch was great…

Anyone else reading this, this isn’t that big a deal either, after a few illnesses you just accept they’re going to be ill
 
Seaham Towny said:
He’s in one, the length of the email I got a couple weeks ago detailing the various illnesses he might catch was great…

Anyone else reading this, this isn’t that big a deal either, after a few illnesses you just accept they’re going to be ill
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Mines 4 & owa lass still has a panic over every minor thing wanting to go to the hospital constantly. Im like kids get ill & have bumps, stop worrying
 
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