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Gonna be honest f***ing heartbreaking reading all these posts 🥺. Life is so shit at times and I still have my bad days where for some reason I think it would be easier not to be here.
Lying in the bath now after reading all the comments sobbing but I can honestly say you really are all loved.
@Ciro_DiMarzio what you said about your daughter really hit home as having a daughter myself and I know she's not daft she knows I struggle but we are so close and there is not a day goes by without telling her I love her.
@MustardAndOnions what you said as well just think how broken they would be if they knew you were suffering and you didn't tell them , don't care what anybody says doesn't matter how old you are you are still there baby boy. @Johnap Am so so sorry for your loss and I am sending all my love and must be so hard, it's not the same but I still look at the TV guide at times and if there is a shit film what my mam used to like I go to pick up the phone to tell her and its an amazing feeling for about half a second until reality kicks in.
@Silly Point you go to Milan mate and you know what if people don't believe you are they worth having in your life anyway. Watch you go to Milan and meet the Italian woman of your dreams.
Please don't give up hope everyone ever as death is sudden and its the fallout and what it does to your loved ones afterwards , break this bastard cycle and I agree everything that @Becs says I think she's a mum to a lot on here more than she ever knows.
 

Sorry if anyone came looking for me today. I was unwell and didn't go. See here to save me typing it out again:

April 1st live footy on tv

Morning all, will watch some of the English footy. Me and our lass not going over in that weather along with another three next to us.☔. Will watch it in the house. Going to be five empty ST seats in our row. I know, fine weather supporters😝. Have goodun folks.
www.readytogo.net www.readytogo.net

Hopefully I'll be manning the stand on Saturday 🤞

How's everyone doing today?
 
Becs said:
Sorry if anyone came looking for me today. I was unwell and didn't go. See here to save me typing it out again:

April 1st live footy on tv

Morning all, will watch some of the English footy. Me and our lass not going over in that weather along with another three next to us.☔. Will watch it in the house. Going to be five empty ST seats in our row. I know, fine weather supporters😝. Have goodun folks.
www.readytogo.net www.readytogo.net

Hopefully I'll be manning the stand on Saturday 🤞

How's everyone doing today?
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Hope you feel better in time for the weekend Becs.
 
Becs said:
Sorry if anyone came looking for me today. I was unwell and didn't go. See here to save me typing it out again:

April 1st live footy on tv

Morning all, will watch some of the English footy. Me and our lass not going over in that weather along with another three next to us.☔. Will watch it in the house. Going to be five empty ST seats in our row. I know, fine weather supporters😝. Have goodun folks.
www.readytogo.net www.readytogo.net

Hopefully I'll be manning the stand on Saturday 🤞

How's everyone doing today?
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Do you think you might be doing too much or just one of them things mate ?
 
Mental well being is proportional to an individuals view of probability. Forever thinking "worse case scenario" and refusing to embrace chaos will result in low levels of Oxytocin.

Nb: I'm an Oxytocin factory...some on here cannot find a logical answer as to why they don't like me, envy is a natural response.

It's a hard knock, but nobody however qualified can help you with this, you have to do it yourself.

Good luck ❤️
 
lucky said:
Do you think you might be doing too much or just one of them things mate ?
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I don't know! I have been doing extra hours last month as a regular source of income has suddenly stopped without warning.

There's also some other stuff going on that I haven't posted about.

I started taking a new tablet a week and a half ago. I was on another medication for my bladder but the side effects were horrible. It was giving me a sticky dry mouth and I was constantly drinking water as my mouth felt minging, which increased me needing to wee. It was also affecting my eyes and I had to stop wearing my contact lenses and had to keep putting eye drops in as they felt dry and tired, and my nose dried up and felt crusty up inside!

GP told me to stop them and prescribed mirabegron. She said they too can cause the dry mouth/eyes/nose thing but to give them a try and see how I go. Hadn't had those symptoms.

I've since read online tonight that can cause cardiac side effects. I'm now wondering if it's them. I'm going to stop them and try and speak to my GP about it. I need to ring the surgery this week anyway as my liver function test is due and I need to book that in.
 
Becs said:
I don't know! I have been doing extra hours last month as a regular source of income has suddenly stopped without warning.

There's also some other stuff going on that I haven't posted about.

I started taking a new tablet a week and a half ago. I was on another medication for my bladder but the side effects were horrible. It was giving me a sticky dry mouth and I was constantly drinking water as my mouth felt minging, which increased me needing to wee. It was also affecting my eyes and I had to stop wearing my contact lenses and had to keep putting eye drops in as they felt dry and tired, and my nose dried up and felt crusty up inside!

GP told me to stop them and prescribed mirabegron. She said they too can cause the dry mouth/eyes/nose thing but to give them a try and see how I go. Hadn't had those symptoms.

I've since read online tonight that can cause cardiac side effects. I'm now wondering if it's them. I'm going to stop them and try and speak to my GP about it. I need to ring the surgery this week anyway as my liver function test is due and I need to book that in.
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Am so sorry mate that sounds shit , please let me know how you get on at the GP if that's OK ❤️.
Hate seeing anyone struggling 😪
 
Becs said:
I don't know! I have been doing extra hours last month as a regular source of income has suddenly stopped without warning.

There's also some other stuff going on that I haven't posted about.

I started taking a new tablet a week and a half ago. I was on another medication for my bladder but the side effects were horrible. It was giving me a sticky dry mouth and I was constantly drinking water as my mouth felt minging, which increased me needing to wee. It was also affecting my eyes and I had to stop wearing my contact lenses and had to keep putting eye drops in as they felt dry and tired, and my nose dried up and felt crusty up inside!

GP told me to stop them and prescribed mirabegron. She said they too can cause the dry mouth/eyes/nose thing but to give them a try and see how I go. Hadn't had those symptoms.

I've since read online tonight that can cause cardiac side effects. I'm now wondering if it's them. I'm going to stop them and try and speak to my GP about it. I need to ring the surgery this week anyway as my liver function test is due and I need to book that in.
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Hi becs. Hope you are getting through the day. The tablet that caused the dry mouth etc - I have all those symptons and had them for along time - can you dm me witth the name or not? Thanks John x
 
Johnap said:
Hi becs. Hope you are getting through the day. The tablet that caused the dry mouth etc - I have all those symptons and had them for along time - can you dm me witth the name or not? Thanks John x
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The first one with the dry mouth etc., symptoms was tolterodine. The second one that could also have caused dry mouth but caused chest pain instead was mirabegron.

GP agrees it probably was that which caused yesterday's episode. She's happy for me to stop them and I've got an appointment with the bladder clinic early May, so I'll discuss further options then.
 
Becs said:
The first one with the dry mouth etc., symptoms was tolterodine. The second one that could also have caused dry mouth but caused chest pain instead was mirabegron.

GP agrees it probably was that which caused yesterday's episode. She's happy for me to stop them and I've got an appointment with the bladder clinic early May, so I'll discuss further options then.
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Thanks pet.
 
Hi everyone. How are we all feeling. I’ve read through the last few pages. And talking on here helps. I’m here if anyone needs a chat. X
Gelan said:
Mental well being is proportional to an individuals view of probability. Forever thinking "worse case scenario" and refusing to embrace chaos will result in low levels of Oxytocin.

Nb: I'm an Oxytocin factory...some on here cannot find a logical answer as to why they don't like me, envy is a natural response.

It's a hard knock, but nobody however qualified can help you with this, you have to do it yourself.

Good luck ❤️
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Disagree mate. I think talking to people who is going through and feel the same then that helps.

I’ve had counselling many times and talking to sometime who suffers helps more as they understand what your going through. I find people who have not suffered with mental health the worst.
How many times I’ve been told.
Sort yasel out
Do this do that
Stop moping about
What a lot of fuck man. Does my head in.
 
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Rhubarb said:
Hi everyone. How are we all feeling. I’ve read through the last few pages. And talking on here helps. I’m here if anyone needs a chat. X

Disagree mate. I think talking to people who is going through and feel the same then that helps.

I’ve had counselling many times and talking to sometime who suffers helps more as they understand what your going through. I find people who have not suffered with mental health the worst.
How many times I’ve been told.
Sort yasel out
Do this do that
Stop moping about
What a lot of fuck man. Does my head in.
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I'm the same I've been told in the past pull yourself together etc but if it was that easy nobody would ever be in a mess. I suppose everyone deals with things different and hope you OK mate 👍.
Does anyone else always smile when they read @Rhubarb has posted :) , think you can genuinly feel the warmth and how genuine he is.
 
Rhubarb said:
Hi everyone. How are we all feeling. I’ve read through the last few pages. And talking on here helps. I’m here if anyone needs a chat. X

Disagree mate. I think talking to people who is going through and feel the same then that helps.

I’ve had counselling many times and talking to sometime who suffers helps more as they understand what your going through. I find people who have not suffered with mental health the worst.
How many times I’ve been told.
Sort yasel out
Do this do that
Stop moping about
What a lot of fuck man. Does my head in.
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it's ok to disagree, if we all coped better with others opinions this thread wouldn't exist. The big question is, why has mental illness spiralled out of control when we have a better material life and an ever growing support system. It's all about reference points. I know someone that has their own home, nice area, highly paid job from home, a loving family, and is a fabulous musician in a band...yet decided to pay for counselling to get over the departure of his Tinder, open relationship girl friend who left him because he lost interest in the BSM stuff...funnily enough, his depression disappeared with his next sexual encounter. In contrast, my wife left me with two kids and my focus was on them, not how bad my lot was.

Have a chat with "Lookoutpiano" she is an inspiration to us all.
 
Rhubarb said:
Hi everyone. How are we all feeling. I’ve read through the last few pages. And talking on here helps. I’m here if anyone needs a chat. X

Disagree mate. I think talking to people who is going through and feel the same then that helps.

I’ve had counselling many times and talking to sometime who suffers helps more as they understand what your going through. I find people who have not suffered with mental health the worst.
How many times I’ve been told.
Sort yasel out
Do this do that
Stop moping about
What a lot of fuck man. Does my head in.
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Comparisons as well. At least you're not as bad as ...... because ........ That's not helpful. It's not a competition to have the worst problems ever. Everyone's feelings and problems are valid and deserve to be listened to.

Other people saying you look/seem ok so there can't be anything wrong with you. Had it myself with someone on here claiming I'm making it up for attention seeking. Might look ok posting on here and "putting on a brave face", but sometimes I'm not ok inside.

Good CBT session this morning. Looked at the trigger and how it affects me, and talked about things I can practice and put in place when the trigger happens. Got three weeks to practice as I'm away next week, having a colonoscopy the week after, then she's away on holiday the week after that!
 
Ciro_DiMarzio said:
I know it sounds horrible but sometimes I wish I didn't have kids. Love them to bits but if I didn't have them everything would be easier. I could just disappear and live (or die) anywhere and I wouldn't be missed. I feel like I'm a great dad when my head's ok but I'm absolutely useless at the minute.
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Haven't got any kids but a lot of people around me who love me and I know, in reality would be devastated if anything was to happen to me.

However sometimes when I am really ill I start getting intrusive thoughts that actually the people around me would be better off if i wasn't in the picture because I drag them down and they have to look after me and try and make me engage with the world around me.

I can and do recognise these thoughts as an indicator that I'm not at my best and I need to look after myself, or speak to someone or get a medication review.

With me, it's recognising the signs and hoping I can deal with what's coming.
 
CPLforever said:
Haven't got any kids but a lot of people around me who love me and I know, in reality would be devastated if anything was to happen to me.

However sometimes when I am really ill I start getting intrusive thoughts that actually the people around me would be better off if i wasn't in the picture because I drag them down and they have to look after me and try and make me engage with the world around me.

I can and do recognise these thoughts as an indicator that I'm not at my best and I need to look after myself, or speak to someone or get a medication review.

With me, it's recognising the signs and hoping I can deal with what's coming.
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I've felt rock bottom for a good few weeks now and really feel as though I wouldn't be missed after the initial shock. I've struggled on and off since I was about 14 years old but for the last year or so there has been no let up. I can't find joy in anything anymore. Everything just seems empty and hopeless. It's two weeks until my birthday and I just don't want to be here to see that birthday. Having kids just makes it so much more complicated.
 
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