Depression

[D.A]

Teesside North Yorkshire.
I have my traditional walk on Saturday at 8.30 for a couple of hours , which I don’t mind at all. 3 lads from school.
Then the threat of a drink with work colleagues at tea time , which I dodged the last one. I am hoping I will get something out of that.

This will sound weird , I actually love work. I walk in there literally singing. On a Friday I am last out. We all say have a great weekend to each other. Then I just sit and think of the 60 hours ahead of me, planning ways to kill the time.

So before , when I was with my ex , we booked to go to the Lakes. Hated it , just wanted to get home. Couldn’t wait to check out of the hotel , get in the car , drop her off and get home.
Same when we went to London , Ed Sheeran , Whitby anywhere. Looking at my watch as soon as I get there, thinking how long till I can get away. Everything just seems to be “Meh “ at the moment.

Why don't you go walking to new places? Got the moors and coast on your door step. If you like walking with company, try the LDWA.

Just say to your colleagues that you're cutting down on alcohol.

 

[joebolton]

Why don't you go walking to new places? Got the moors and coast on your door step. If you like walking with company, try the LDWA.

Just say to your colleagues that you're cutting down on alcohol.

We do shake it up , the woods , roseberry topping , the beach. The walk is probably the one thing I still get positive about.

The drinking , I have probably had a drink 4 times since Christmas. And before Christmas maybe once a month. In the house I just like coffee
That is one thing I used to look forward to , a night out.
Outfit sorted , tunes on , bath running , dying to get out. Just seems as though every night is a flat one for me.

If I had a magic switch , I would flick it to make me enjoy weekends away , events , days out , holidays , restaurants.
People say , oh I am right looking forward to going to centre parks , or putting up pictures of airport pints, getting away to a lodge , or day out to York , and I just think , that all would be torture to me.
I think I am going to use our work psychologist , see what they say. Short of that , might need some hypnotherapy.

 

[Ciro_DiMarzio]

We do shake it up , the woods , roseberry topping , the beach. The walk is probably the one thing I still get positive about.

The drinking , I have probably had a drink 4 times since Christmas. And before Christmas maybe once a month. In the house I just like coffee
That is one thing I used to look forward to , a night out.
Outfit sorted , tunes on , bath running , dying to get out. Just seems as though every night is a flat one for me.

If I had a magic switch , I would flick it to make me enjoy weekends away , events , days out , holidays , restaurants.
People say , oh I am right looking forward to going to centre parks , or putting up pictures of airport pints, getting away to a lodge , or day out to York , and I just think , that all would be torture to me.
I think I am going to use our work psychologist , see what they say. Short of that , might need some hypnotherapy.

Do you think it could be social anxiety?

 

[SPUFF]

Teesside North Yorkshire.
I have my traditional walk on Saturday at 8.30 for a couple of hours , which I don’t mind at all. 3 lads from school.
Then the threat of a drink with work colleagues at tea time , which I dodged the last one. I am hoping I will get something out of that.

This will sound weird , I actually love work. I walk in there literally singing. On a Friday I am last out. We all say have a great weekend to each other. Then I just sit and think of the 60 hours ahead of me, planning ways to kill the time.

So before , when I was with my ex , we booked to go to the Lakes. Hated it , just wanted to get home. Couldn’t wait to check out of the hotel , get in the car , drop her off and get home.
Same when we went to London , Ed Sheeran , Whitby anywhere. Looking at my watch as soon as I get there, thinking how long till I can get away. Everything just seems to be “Meh “ at the moment.

Mate if you enjoy work thats great.

Was out over west coast seeing an old mate who has an interesting job he loves, often goes in on a sat morning unpaid n does a bit.

Was quite envious. Talking to my other mate 2 days later on golf course, both of us a bit bored n uninspired by our jobs but pay good n kno nowt else.

Take it easy.

 

[D.A]

We do shake it up , the woods , roseberry topping , the beach. The walk is probably the one thing I still get positive about.

The drinking , I have probably had a drink 4 times since Christmas. And before Christmas maybe once a month. In the house I just like coffee
That is one thing I used to look forward to , a night out.
Outfit sorted , tunes on , bath running , dying to get out. Just seems as though every night is a flat one for me.

If I had a magic switch , I would flick it to make me enjoy weekends away , events , days out , holidays , restaurants.
People say , oh I am right looking forward to going to centre parks , or putting up pictures of airport pints, getting away to a lodge , or day out to York , and I just think , that all would be torture to me.
I think I am going to use our work psychologist , see what they say. Short of that , might need some hypnotherapy.

Go and see the psychologist immediately. Good luck.

 

[Will e]

We do shake it up , the woods , roseberry topping , the beach. The walk is probably the one thing I still get positive about.

The drinking , I have probably had a drink 4 times since Christmas. And before Christmas maybe once a month. In the house I just like coffee
That is one thing I used to look forward to , a night out.
Outfit sorted , tunes on , bath running , dying to get out. Just seems as though every night is a flat one for me.

If I had a magic switch , I would flick it to make me enjoy weekends away , events , days out , holidays , restaurants.
People say , oh I am right looking forward to going to centre parks , or putting up pictures of airport pints, getting away to a lodge , or day out to York , and I just think , that all would be torture to me.
I think I am going to use our work psychologist , see what they say. Short of that , might need some hypnotherapy.

As suggested go and see the works psychologist, they may be able to refer you to someone more specialised on the NHS a bit faster.
The positive thing I see from your situation is you are not bothered about the drink, to me that is a massive plus to be able to enjoy other things in life in the future.
Good luck.

 

[D.A]

We do shake it up , the woods , roseberry topping , the beach. The walk is probably the one thing I still get positive about.

The drinking , I have probably had a drink 4 times since Christmas. And before Christmas maybe once a month. In the house I just like coffee
That is one thing I used to look forward to , a night out.
Outfit sorted , tunes on , bath running , dying to get out. Just seems as though every night is a flat one for me.

If I had a magic switch , I would flick it to make me enjoy weekends away , events , days out , holidays , restaurants.
People say , oh I am right looking forward to going to centre parks , or putting up pictures of airport pints, getting away to a lodge , or day out to York , and I just think , that all would be torture to me.
I think I am going to use our work psychologist , see what they say. Short of that , might need some hypnotherapy.

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Check these out, it may be of help. I know Joe who works for them.

 

[Becs]

Been to the hospital this week about my menopause issue. The treatment is working. I've got to continue what I'm doing and they've added another tablet in to see if that helps. Just picked them up this afternoon.

Still nothing from Talking Changes. Just keep getting the "you're still on a list but here's some suicide numbers just in case" message.

Managed to get some help from a place called Harbour. I've got an appointment with someone later this month and they'll take it from there depending on what they think I need.

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[CPLforever]

Been to the hospital this week about my menopause issue. The treatment is working. I've got to continue what I'm doing and they've added another tablet in to see if that helps. Just picked them up this afternoon.

Still nothing from Talking Changes. Just keep getting the "you're still on a list but here's some suicide numbers just in case" message.

Managed to get some help from a place called Harbour. I've got an appointment with someone later this month and they'll take it from there depending on what they think I need.

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It's a bloody slog isn't it. Glad you and medical professionals seem to be getting on top of your menopausal issues.

Keep slogging on.

 

[D.A]

Been to the hospital this week about my menopause issue. The treatment is working. I've got to continue what I'm doing and they've added another tablet in to see if that helps. Just picked them up this afternoon.

Still nothing from Talking Changes. Just keep getting the "you're still on a list but here's some suicide numbers just in case" message.

Managed to get some help from a place called Harbour. I've got an appointment with someone later this month and they'll take it from there depending on what they think I need.

Here's the link in case anyone wants to keep it for future reference:

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I'm aware of harbour, sorry I should have mentioned!
Hope you get sorted. Always here for a chat.

 

[Becs]

It's a bloody slog isn't it. Glad you and medical professionals seem to be getting on top of your menopausal issues.

Keep slogging on.

Thank you xx

Bloody hormones. They cause all sorts of problems when we have them, then when they go away, you get a whole new set of problems. I mean how is that fair?

I'm aware of harbour, sorry I should have mentioned!
Hope you get sorted. Always here for a chat.

Thanks, I appreciate that xx

 

[CPLforever]

Thank you xx

Bloody hormones. They cause all sorts of problems when we have them, then when they go away, you get a whole new set of problems. I mean how is that fair?


Thanks, I appreciate that xx

Giving you a laugh, but it is an ironic laugh, cos it certainly ain't effing fair.

 

[TAD]

Been to the hospital this week about my menopause issue. The treatment is working. I've got to continue what I'm doing and they've added another tablet in to see if that helps. Just picked them up this afternoon.

Still nothing from Talking Changes. Just keep getting the "you're still on a list but here's some suicide numbers just in case" message.

Managed to get some help from a place called Harbour. I've got an appointment with someone later this month and they'll take it from there depending on what they think I need.

Here's the link in case anyone wants to keep it for future reference:

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I'm 50 and having all sorts of problems with my periods. It's really getting me down as it's stopping me doing things and I have no other health issues so it must be doubly difficult for you .
Good luck with your harbour appt. I hope you get what you need from them .

 

[Becs]

I'm 50 and having all sorts of problems with my periods. It's really getting me down as it's stopping me doing things and I have no other health issues so it must be doubly difficult for you .
Good luck with your harbour appt. I hope you get what you need from them .

So sorry to hear that you're struggling too. Gynae care is woefully underfunded and they make it so hard to get help. Hope you get something sorted xx

 

[Fulwell lass]

I'm 50 and having all sorts of problems with my periods. It's really getting me down as it's stopping me doing things and I have no other health issues so it must be doubly difficult for you .
Good luck with your harbour appt. I hope you get what you need from them .

I really feel for you. One of the many upsides of being 70 is you're finished with all that sh1t.
The number of times I've had to exit myself from the middle of social gatherings or work meetings due to the problems of being 50 . . . . embarrassing.
I don't think many people realise how debilitating is - physically and emotionally.
I sincerely hope you get some support. X

 

[TAD]

Cheers folks. I do have a gynae appt in Friday so hopefully make some progress.
Hope everyone else is doing ok this weekend. Let's see if the footy will give us something to smile about .

 

[Becs]

Let's see if the footy will give us something to smile about .

I admire your optimism

 

[FlashGordon]

The mind is an absolute bastard at times. I go through so much effort trying to drag myself out of a hole, putting energy into creating new routines, healthier habits, knowing that I have everything in my power to make my life better...

And yet at 3am my own brain goes rapid fire with the criticism and self loathing. I've been stuck in this kind of loop for at least a decade now and I'm struggling to see the point of trying again. I'm not even sure existence is the right word for my life, because I'm rarely in the present. At best I'm in my head focusing on acting like I'm in the present with people and engaging but even that is such an effort.

It's like I'm stuck on one of the early levels in life and in my head everyone is laughing at me for being unable to do basic human things like look after myself, communicate and build connections.

I wonder if there's peace if I just stop trying and give up.

 

[Becs]

The mind is an absolute bastard at times. I go through so much effort trying to drag myself out of a hole, putting energy into creating new routines, healthier habits, knowing that I have everything in my power to make my life better...

And yet at 3am my own brain goes rapid fire with the criticism and self loathing. I've been stuck in this kind of loop for at least a decade now and I'm struggling to see the point of trying again. I'm not even sure existence is the right word for my life, because I'm rarely in the present. At best I'm in my head focusing on acting like I'm in the present with people and engaging but even that is such an effort.

It's like I'm stuck on one of the early levels in life and in my head everyone is laughing at me for being unable to do basic human things like look after myself, communicate and build connections.

I wonder if there's peace if I just stop trying and give up.

Don't give up marra. I'm not laughing at you.

Have you tried one of the mens groups? Even if you just go and say one thing, it'll help you build on the fact you can communicate and build connections.

I'm not on the matchday stand tonight as I can't get there in time after work, but I'm usually on before the weekend fixtures. Pop by and have a natter if you want. Take care xx

 

[Johnap]

Don't give up marra. I'm not laughing at you.

Have you tried one of the mens groups? Even if you just go and say one thing, it'll help you build on the fact you can communicate and build connections.

I'm not on the matchday stand tonight as I can't get there in time after work, but I'm usually on before the weekend fixtures. Pop by and have a natter if you want. Take care xx

Hi Becs. I am sorry to hear you are having health problems. I am thinking of you. I would like to think we go back a bit and if you want to shout at anyone give me the nod. You know where I am. John xx