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70s traveller said:
Them dog things can be a right pain, but we wouldn't do without them. The dog will probably also be looking forward to a bit of peace without you so he can have his own routine back :D ours are like that.

Good man for staying away from the caffeine.
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Yeah I hate routines getting spoiled it's like I have OCD or something, We have just been getting a kitten a few days ago and it never sleeps and is so draining but when you wake at all times of the night and see that face looking at you it is so adorable.
I do realise why a lot of people have pets as they don't judge you and want nothing but feeding and love ( just wish it was that easy with people sometimes )
 
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Ciro_DiMarzio said:
I've felt like it's been a possibility for a while. When his nursery teacher first told us he should be assessed I did quite alot of reading about it. I feel pretty guilty about the possibility could have inherited something like that from me.
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I was exactly the same when my lad worked out that he has ADHD and set about getting it diagnosed properly. I started reading a lot, watching TED talks etc and it was just like reading about my own life. I do feel like it was an easier, more forgiving world when I was growing up and I somehow managed to stumble through one failure after another and somehow hit lucky at the other end, so I never saw any patterns in it all, just thought I was useless and constantly letting people down. Mind, I felt even worse when I realised I was probably responsible for him having a fairly shitty time growing up and not even seeing it. He's currently really struggling due to ongoing supply chain issues with his meds. His attitude is positive, recognises that there are a lot of people with greater needs than his and feels that he is managing things well, but when all we want to see is our kids being happy, it's f***ing awful knowing that he can't even get himself out of his room most of the time.

I wish I'd known more about all this, and so many other things, a few decades ago, not so much for my own benefit as for all the students who passed through my classes and were dismissed as lazy, thick or troublemakers. Not usually by myself, as I would prefer to remember, but I do think I could have been a lot more supportive and useful than I managed to be.
WillInSpain said:
For those who are old enough, get yourselves over to the mixed walking football. It's great to meet up, have a bit excercise.

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A mate of mine took this up when he retired a few years ago and has ended up captaining England!!
 
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lucky said:
Yeah I hate routines getting spoiled it's like I have OCD or something, We have just beehen getting a kitten a few days ago and it never sleeps and is so draining but when you wake at all times of the night and see that face looking at you it is so adorable.
I do realise why a lot of people have pets as they don't judge you and want nothing but feeding and love ( just wish it was that easy with people sometimes )
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The principle of having pets is that you have to fit into their lifestyle. Problem with having a new kitten or puppy is that they don't have a lifestyle as such in the early days. Animals' life is food, toilet, sleep, toilet, food, sleep, toilet, bed(sleep) ready for the next daily lap. They do like a bit of personal attention thrown in which counts as a treat or may incur being given some edible item.
 
ATS said:
@Becs I read you were thinking of claiming pip. It's not easy to get, you get points awarded for all the things you can't do (make meals, go out on your own, plan journeys, wash yourself, make a meal etc). I claim it for Meg and the forms are awful, 33 pages to fill in. If you do attempt to get it they will almost certainly turn you down the first time, make sure you appeal and even go to a tribunal if necessary.
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There was a great piece of advice on tackling those forms on Corrie (!) a few weeks ago:

Don't tell them what you CAN do on your best day. Tell them what you CAN'T do on your worst day.


I think the forms are designed to lead you into doing the former, and minimising your chances of 'qualifying'.
 
GTG said:
There was a great piece of advice on tackling those forms on Corrie (!) a few weeks ago:

Don't tell them what you CAN do on your best day. Tell them what you CAN'T do on your worst day.


I think the forms are designed to lead you into doing the former, and minimising your chances of 'qualifying'.
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Absolutely. We all tend to say, when asked how we are, oh not too bad, we don't like to complain, we make the best of it.

It is all about how much help we need, whether or not we are getting it at the moment. Encouragement to get up on a morning, need encouraging to keep yourself clean, take a bath. Tidy up, eat well etc etc
 
GTG said:
There was a great piece of advice on tackling those forms on Corrie (!) a few weeks ago:

Don't tell them what you CAN do on your best day. Tell them what you CAN'T do on your worst day.


I think the forms are designed to lead you into doing the former, and minimising your chances of 'qualifying'.
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That's what I was struggling with. It's a variable disease so some days are good and other days are poor.

Eg: on a good day, I'll cook a healthy meal from scratch
on a bad day, if the bairn is home, it's something that goes in the oven or microwave, like sausage, chips and beans today. If she's not in, I don't bother cooking just for me and just have snacks instead of a proper meal.

On a good day, I wouldn't get any points but on a bad day, I would get points towards qualifying. It's difficult to know what to do for the best.
 
Becs said:
That's what I was struggling with. It's a variable disease so some days are good and other days are poor.

Eg: on a good day, I'll cook a healthy meal from scratch
on a bad day, if the bairn is home, it's something that goes in the oven or microwave, like sausage, chips and beans today. If she's not in, I don't bother cooking just for me and just have snacks instead of a proper meal.

On a good day, I wouldn't get any points but on a bad day, I would get points towards qualifying. It's difficult to know what to do for the best.
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Like I PM'd a while ago, go for it. Base your form on your worst days. IMO you should get something. Don't mention good days you don't have them.
 
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Becs said:
That's what I was struggling with. It's a variable disease so some days are good and other days are poor.

Eg: on a good day, I'll cook a healthy meal from scratch
on a bad day, if the bairn is home, it's something that goes in the oven or microwave, like sausage, chips and beans today. If she's not in, I don't bother cooking just for me and just have snacks instead of a proper meal.

On a good day, I wouldn't get any points but on a bad day, I would get points towards qualifying. It's difficult to know what to do for the best.
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Strongly suggest going to CAB to get help with this form. I know it's a bit of a hassle making an apt but if they an help you get a successful claim itight reduce some financial/work stress.
Sorry should have said citizens advice 😃.
 
Becs said:
That's what I was struggling with. It's a variable disease so some days are good and other days are poor.

Eg: on a good day, I'll cook a healthy meal from scratch
on a bad day, if the bairn is home, it's something that goes in the oven or microwave, like sausage, chips and beans today. If she's not in, I don't bother cooking just for me and just have snacks instead of a proper meal.

On a good day, I wouldn't get any points but on a bad day, I would get points towards qualifying. It's difficult to know what to do for the best.
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Try and batch cook on the good days, so then you stick those in the microwave/oven?
 
Just a quick update - thank you to everyone who helped, it made a big difference talking. Having more mixed days, which is a huge plus as was only having down days not long ago.

One big thing that helped was listening to uplifting music, really helped lift my mood and avoid than dwelling.

Been watching comedy films and Ted Lasso when we get the chance also, avoiding anything serious has helped.

Also stopped drinking caffeine (again, have tried before as it doesn’t help me but revert back), this has helped as find it acts as a thrust for the anxiety.
 
Becs said:
If she's not in, I don't bother cooking just for me and just have snacks instead of a proper meal.
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I found an air fryer great for this. There's a lot that can go in them, quickly, they sync different cooling times, cook fast and I have proper meals. Before that I might spend an hour cooking something elaborate, or I might stare at walls ignoring hunger until I was starving, scoff a big bag of crisps, some sugary thing, a couple of beers and a few codeine and have a nice but regrettable heavy sleep.
 
Just after some advice if possible.
For almost 3 years now I’ve been plagued by an aching throat around the tonsil area / under the tongue.
It’s not every day , but I can’t get shot of it.
I’m not losing weight , can’t feel any lumps on the neck or throat area and there’s no blood either.
I’ve struggled massively with sinus / ent problems for years and wonder if this could all be connected.
Plus I always seem to be swallowing mucus and can struggle to stay awake on an evening.
I’ve never been to the doctors for a check up for years and years.
Other than that and a few of the usual aches and pains that come with age I feel okay.
Any advice folks ?
Thanks
 
Al Bundy said:
Just after some advice if possible.
For almost 3 years now I’ve been plagued by an aching throat around the tonsil area / under the tongue.
It’s not every day , but I can’t get shot of it.
I’m not losing weight , can’t feel any lumps on the neck or throat area and there’s no blood either.
I’ve struggled massively with sinus / ent problems for years and wonder if this could all be connected.
Plus I always seem to be swallowing mucus and can struggle to stay awake on an evening.
I’ve never been to the doctors for a check up for years and years.
Other than that and a few of the usual aches and pains that come with age I feel okay.
Any advice folks ?
Thanks
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Visit your gp and tell him/her that if it's a concern.
 
Al Bundy said:
Just after some advice if possible.
For almost 3 years now I’ve been plagued by an aching throat around the tonsil area / under the tongue.
It’s not every day , but I can’t get shot of it.
I’m not losing weight , can’t feel any lumps on the neck or throat area and there’s no blood either.
I’ve struggled massively with sinus / ent problems for years and wonder if this could all be connected.
Plus I always seem to be swallowing mucus and can struggle to stay awake on an evening.
I’ve never been to the doctors for a check up for years and years.
Other than that and a few of the usual aches and pains that come with age I feel okay.
Any advice folks ?
Thanks
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As an IT Consultant, my considered opinion would be to go see a doctor rather than ask a spurious assortment of equally unqualified people on an anonymous football forum.
 
See a GP as soon as possible.

Nobody should ever just ignore ongoing symptoms for years on end, even if you can live with it.

I knew a lad who had constant sinus and throat infections and it turned out he had a painless abscess behind one of his teeth which was leaking pus and bacteria causing the constant infections.
 
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