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kyle's left foot said:
This.
Xmas, NY, just another day, one day at at a time.
Had lovely night building a fort in front room with my 12 yr old son, whos still younger than his age, precious times.
Little things, means a lot, hope everyones ok - big shout out to all the usuals on this page looking after people when they need it.
What a great thread, thanks all x
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That sounds amazing mate and something you willboth remember ❤️.
CPLforever said:
There is this song I listen to sometimes when I am feeling lost, battered, defeated and helpless. I play it on repeat. I sing along with defiance. It is called I'm not down by The Clash.

The particular lyric I sing out loud again and again is

I've been beat up. I've been thrown out but I'm not down, I'm not down.

I've been shown up but I've grown up (this bit sometimes doubtfull) but I'm not down, I'm not down

............

I know, there'll be some way, when I can swing everything back my way. Like skyscrapers rising up. Floor by floor I'm not giving up. I'm not giving up.

It helps me....just thought I would share 🙂

We try, try our best to keep on top of things, but sometimes. Well. So I will put this song on and sing along at the top of my voice, and I will sing it for all those on here who feel battered and bruised too

Keep yourselves safe and well.

Happy new year xxxx
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Gonna give that a play today mate ❤️
Ciro_DiMarzio said:
Aye. Had a big setback this week but trying to crack on.
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Hope you doing ok mate ❤️
 
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DBStar said:
I Hate You, Don't Leave Me: Understanding the Borderline Personality - Hal Straus and Jerold J Kreisman. Probably self explanatory, but BPD has a heavy cross over with Complex Trauma. I found it useful for understanding attachment and relationship patterns and anger.

Has anybody read any others?
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I love this book. The title alone explains a lot about how sometimes our feelings and emotions are incongruous.
 
WillInSpain said:
For those who are old enough, get yourselves over to the mixed walking football. It's great to meet up, have a bit excercise.

Mixed Walking Football

For ages 55+ at the Beacon of Light, Tuesdays 10-11am £1 per session designed to increase social interaction and reconnect those aged over-55 You must be logged on to see this Register You must be logged on to see this - please make sure you mention that you heard about the programme on Ready...
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And you get to meet me!
 
So it's a while since I've posted to this thread. I've detailed mild Autism Spectrum Disorder and AD-HD issues.

Autumn has seen me go through Cognitive Behaviour Therapy, a massive help after being too reliant on a lady workmate and nearly losing her as a friend. I crossed boundaries I was unaware of and even though we've repaired things, she's still not 100% trusting. Therapists have said I should discuss with her. However, I think this would be a mistake. She only does the present and raking up the past would recreate the rift. I am in a better place now as a result.

Meanwhile, outside work I've met another lady and she's someone I knew a long time ago. She's her own issues (also done CBT and other personal stuff), but a couple of months ahead of me - I will say she's long since separated from a former partner and there's no-one else. People have noted I'm so much happier since I met her.

Neither of us were wanting anything when me met several months ago, but things don't always work like that. I've developed strong feelings for her and she's aware. While I'm intellectually intelligent, she's definitely more worldly wise, and far brighter and sharper than I.

She hasn't blown me out, which would be the logical thing to do -she's aware of my mild ASD. It does appear this is a two way thing, but she's a massive amount of luggage I'll not go into. I'm the one she comes to when things kick off and I've made it clear I'll support her.

I'm receiving a lot of advice from another lady friend, who's saying I should let her take the lead in saying how the relationship goes and NOT to push it. While her advice to date has been spot on, meetings die to her circumstances aren't too frequent. I start missing her after a few days and am happiest when im with her.

I want to be the person who cuddles up to her when she needs it, who she talks to when she has issues (this bit is happening). I want to move to the next stage, but realise I have to patient and I'm prepared to wait as long as necessary.

Bonus, she loves football and actively seeks out the games on Sky, BT Internet, etc. I can live with the fact she supports a team down south. She is originally from up here and dad was a Sunderland season ticket holder.
 
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Suspender Sue said:
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I'll add I think she's absolutely wonderful.

Okay, I've had a few drinks, not detracting from her - I don't think that's possible. 😀
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Steady away marra. Hope it works out for you.
Gazoliver said:
What ever it is, you will get through it. My saying of late has been bad times don't last forever and good times will come again
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Hopefully mate. Don't want to put too much detail here incase my worst fears don't happen as I've been here before and pulled it back to some degree.
 
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Suspender Sue said:
I'm receiving a lot of advice from another lady friend, who's saying I should let her take the lead in saying how the relationship goes and NOT to push it.
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She sounds sensible so take her advice. Good luck, I hope it works out.
And stop drinking and go to bed ;)
Ciro_DiMarzio said:
Steady away marra. Hope it works out for you.

Hopefully mate. Don't want to put too much detail here incase my worst fears don't happen as I've been here before and pulled it back to some degree.
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You can always prepare for the worst and if it doesn't come true you're quids in.
 
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I don't receive notifications for this thread anymore for some reason, which is why my comments and likes have been sparse. People enjoy slight interaction & knowing someone is out there so I'll be checking why I now get no notificatiions on here. all other threads work as usual.
de Ruyter said:
Proof that depression, anxiety, alcohol and Christmas are one hell of a toxic mix
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One hell of a poisonous combination in anyone's life.
 
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Becs said:
Always here if you need anything marra. Take care xx
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Excellent & very relevant point Becs. There are some of us that are always here if anyone needs contact.
Ciro_DiMarzio said:
Don't want to put too much detail here incase my worst fears don't happen as I've been here before and pulled it back to some degree.
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I totally understand. The "fears" are a root that people self-create that become worse when too much time is spent overthinking them.

Making a mountain out of a molehill is the closest description.
 
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Ciro_DiMarzio said:
Last year was probably the worst of my life. Other than a deluded few months from July to early October. The first day of 2024 has tried it's best to kick the shitness on to the next level.
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Funny, just reading your posts on a different thread too and on that thread I was thinking about you, and thought I bet you make me laugh, at least once, every single day. Probs doesn't mean much to you but it means a lot to me.

Hope it gets better for you in 2024.
 
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