Depression

[chrismisterx]

Its been a rough year, with more downs than ups, but after 16 months of waiting ( I think its that long, lost track to be honest ) finally got my appointment to speak to Talking Therapies.

I know its selfish but reading this thread really helps, as I know I am not alone with my struggles, I should post more and get stuff off my chest, but doesn't seem right to do that at the moment.

My thoughts are with you all, just remember no matter your personal struggles you are not alone, you are just a post away from a fantastic group of people on here, who time and time again help others.

wishing you all the very best during the silly season, always a tough time when you are struggling this time of year.

 

[lucky]

I had my mental health appointment today. I'm on the waiting list for treatment but she's not sure how long it'll take. They're just open for emergencies over the festive period, then will assess the waiting list in January and they'll get in touch when it's my turn.

Finished work yesterday. Didn't really do a lot today but managed to get a couple of niggly jobs done at home that I've been putting off.

Going to try posting a bit more on here while I'm off work and see if I can get back into being sociable again. The lady today said to try not to shut myself away which is what I have been doing.

oh god so we gonna hear more from you , well that just tipped me right over the edge . Seriously we all here for you and don't push yourself too hard mate but loads of people like hearing from you and that just shows the type of person you are. We all wishing you and the kids the very best over Christmas and hope you have a lovely time .

If you'd like help before I go back to work, more than happy to pop round. Try a park run tomorrow? You don't need to run the full lot.

What a lovely offer mate .

Its been a rough year, with more downs than ups, but after 16 months of waiting ( I think its that long, lost track to be honest ) finally got my appointment to speak to Talking Therapies.

I know its selfish but reading this thread really helps, as I know I am not alone with my struggles, I should post more and get stuff off my chest, but doesn't seem right to do that at the moment.

My thoughts are with you all, just remember no matter your personal struggles you are not alone, you are just a post away from a fantastic group of people on here, who time and time again help others.

wishing you all the very best during the silly season, always a tough time when you are struggling this time of year.

Same goes to you mate we all wishing you the very best and so pleased you got your appointment ( just don't hold back) .
I cried at every counselling session I had and it helped me so much but if you need anything we all here .

It's too easy to hide away when you are feeling down. Exercise and social interaction are the two things that are massively important....and the two things that are massively difficult when you are going through a tough time.

I have a spare room set aside with all sorts of guitars, pianos, musical stuff and the ability to record....but I find it so tough, cos when I'm down every thing I try to do (if I can be arsed) I think sounds rubbish.

Definitely exercise , I have just been allowed back in the gym and finding it so hard but enjoying it so much mate.
Definitely think you should record something and point us in the right direction as to where to see it as love anything like that. We all here and rooting for you mate

 

[SPUFF]

Christmas is a very polarising time of year, hope everyone who's not feeling their best gets through the holidays as well as possible.

Be kind to yourselves.

Totally this.

Daughter works at seaton golf club n a lovely female regular had a drink with everyone other week, went home n took her life everybody devastated.

Take care everyone, some great folk on here, like others im also free for a chat/walk.

 

[shadowplay]

Christmas is a very polarising time of year, hope everyone who's not feeling their best gets through the holidays as well as possible.

Be kind to yourselves.

I've realised that I don't really mind being alone at Christmas, I feel quite chill compared with a lot of other people. It's NYE when I can feel really lonely.

 

[Deleted member 49400]

After the pelters I got yesterday on the match day thread I wasn't going to post anymore and delete my account again.

The mods see a lot of this and ignore the mags and WUMs.

The constant negativity and slagging the team off just drags people down even further, and the resident mags know this.

Then there's the previously banned posters who come back with new log ins again and again and pester the life out of posters.

 

[lucky]

After the pelters I got yesterday on the match day thread I wasn't going to post anymore and delete my account again.

The mods see a lot of this and ignore the mags and WUMs.

The constant negativity and slagging the team off just drags people down even further, and the resident mags know this.

Then there's the previously banned posters who come back with new log ins again and again and pester the life out of posters.

Just try and chill mate put your feet up and enjoy the holidays.

 

[CPLforever]

After the pelters I got yesterday on the match day thread I wasn't going to post anymore and delete my account again.

The mods see a lot of this and ignore the mags and WUMs.

The constant negativity and slagging the team off just drags people down even further, and the resident mags know this.

Then there's the previously banned posters who come back with new log ins again and again and pester the life out of posters.

Ach that sounds sh*te.

Shake off the bad, enjoy the good. I know, easier said than done but try and block the negativity.

 

[shadowplay]

I need to move away from this town. Everywhere I look it's just ghosts and regret. It's not a matter of 'ah try exercise' or 'go for a walk', I need a complete change of life or I'll be dead pretty soon.

 

[CPLforever]

I need to move away from this town. Everywhere I look it's just ghosts and regret. It's not a matter of 'ah try exercise' or 'go for a walk', I need a complete change of life or I'll be dead pretty soon.

Is it all regret? Can you sit still and quiet for a minute and think about some of the great friends, experiences, memories and life lessons your environment has given you. There will be some there.

 

[shadowplay]

Is it all regret? Can you sit still and quiet for a minute and think about some of the great friends, experiences, memories and life lessons your environment has given you. There will be some there.

Actually sorry, not in the mood for this right now

 

[CPLforever]

Actually sorry, not in the mood for this right now

Ach nae bother, look after yourself tho.

 

[lucky]

I need to move away from this town. Everywhere I look it's just ghosts and regret. It's not a matter of 'ah try exercise' or 'go for a walk', I need a complete change of life or I'll be dead pretty soon.

Move away mate , do whatever is needed .

 

[Keeping the Faith]

Actually sorry, not in the mood for this right now

I think sometimes you just have to allow and acknowledge negative thoughts and feelings, know that they are real and valid. Wishing you well.

 

[S.S.R..]

I need to move away from this town. Everywhere I look it's just ghosts and regret. It's not a matter of 'ah try exercise' or 'go for a walk', I need a complete change of life or I'll be dead pretty soon.

Did the same. Going somewhere new and starting from scratch can be good.

Only reason I'm back up here is because my parents are getting on in years and I want to keep an eye on them. Like yourself, the region has got too many bad memories and associations.

 

[CPLforever]

Did the same. Going somewhere new and starting from scratch can be good.

Only reason I'm back up here is because my parents are getting on in years and I want to keep an eye on them. Like yourself, the region has got too many bad memories and associations.

Can I (with respect) ask, it can't just be bad memories surely, there must be good memories intermingled in there but obviously the bad memories overwhelm.

Depression is a weird thing and although can be situational, brought on by events, sometimes it isn't. It is a thing in itself if that makes sense.

My experience of working with young people suffering from anxiety and depression (and other problems they had in their lives), and my own experience showed me. The young-uns especially would say if I can only move from here I would be better...... and they mostly never were. They took their feelings, their illness, their depression with them, to the next place.

A psychologist told me, moving to somewhere no one knows you, may seem inviting but can actually prove to be very isolating, exacerbated by the depression, anxiety etc you are initially suffering and trying to escape from.

Of course every situation is unique and different but it is, I feel. just a point worth discussing.

Merry merry Christmas everyone, stay safe and well and look after yourselves .

 

[Five-Quarter]

Haven't posted in this thread in ages, used to think "Christmas can be hard" might be a myth and it can be "just another day"

Well bugger me it's been rotten this year. And I've felt rotten for days now. Pretty much since leaving work on Friday.

Every bad thing I feel, missing the kids, hating my family, regrets, thoughts of christmases past, spending it alone wallowing in misery with too much time to think....

It's all just really got to me

I'd say something positive like hope everyone makes the best of it ... But I can't be arsed to even do that.....oh I just did

 

[lucky]

Haven't posted in this thread in ages, used to think "Christmas can be hard" might be a myth and it can be "just another day"

Well bugger me it's been rotten this year. And I've felt rotten for days now. Pretty much since leaving work on Friday.

Every bad thing I feel, missing the kids, hating my family, regrets, thoughts of christmases past, spending it alone wallowing in misery with too much time to think....

It's all just really got to me

I'd say something positive like hope everyone makes the best of it ... But I can't be arsed to even do that.....oh I just did

You are truly a lovely lovely bloke and if you ever down always feel you can message me or Lauren anytime

 

[DBStar]

Can I (with respect) ask, it can't just be bad memories surely, there must be good memories intermingled in there but obviously the bad memories overwhelm.

Depression is a weird thing and although can be situational, brought on by events, sometimes it isn't. It is a thing in itself if that makes sense.

My experience of working with young people suffering from anxiety and depression (and other problems they had in their lives), and my own experience showed me. The young-uns especially would say if I can only move from here I would be better...... and they mostly never were. They took their feelings, their illness, their depression with them, to the next place.

A psychologist told me, moving to somewhere no one knows you, may seem inviting but can actually prove to be very isolating, exacerbated by the depression, anxiety etc you are initially suffering and trying to escape from.

Of course every situation is unique and different but it is, I feel. just a point worth discussing.

Merry merry Christmas everyone, stay safe and well and look after yourselves .

I moved to the Northeast when I was early 20s, partly as I had a girlfriend here and long distance was a pain, mostly because of two decades of abusive parental behaviour . Of course intermingled memories are a thing, but I would say in my case it was 90/10. I can attest to it being really brutal (the girlfriend ended the relationship a few days before the move so I knew nobody) and the depression causing issues don't magically get left behind.

I would absolutely do it again though. The one difference would be that there are much better ways to meet new people in advance now and set up structures prior to moving.

 

[Harry Gates]

Can I (with respect) ask, it can't just be bad memories surely, there must be good memories intermingled in there but obviously the bad memories overwhelm.

Depression is a weird thing and although can be situational, brought on by events, sometimes it isn't. It is a thing in itself if that makes sense.

My experience of working with young people suffering from anxiety and depression (and other problems they had in their lives), and my own experience showed me. The young-uns especially would say if I can only move from here I would be better...... and they mostly never were. They took their feelings, their illness, their depression with them, to the next place.

A psychologist told me, moving to somewhere no one knows you, may seem inviting but can actually prove to be very isolating, exacerbated by the depression, anxiety etc you are initially suffering and trying to escape from.

Of course every situation is unique and different but it is, I feel. just a point worth discussing.

Merry merry Christmas everyone, stay safe and well and look after yourselves .

Wherever you are, that's where you are.

 

[CPLforever]

Wherever you are, that's where you are.

Well put. It took me 3 paragraphs to say exactly this.
....actually just re looked. 5 paragraphs.