Depression

[FatCat2402]

Thank you. I'm still unwell.

I'm still in a Crohn's flare and struggling with that and the menopause health issue.

I've got an appointment with the mental health team on Thursday.

I managed to put up some Christmas decorations today. Put some of the garlands up and put the tree up but it hasn't got any lights or anything on it yet. I'll try and finish that tomorrow.

Good luck. Hope you are on the mend soon

 

[Deleted member 48572]

I have depression spells where I can’t explain why I feel so down. It’s been this way for over 20 years now. I get so low that nothing matters anymore and all responsibilities go out of the window. I can stay in bed for 4 or 5 days at a time and have really dark thoughts.

In the past 10 years, I went on a journey with meditation and it worked, but it has become even worse lately. Now that is not enough. To try and fix it once and for all, over the last 6 months:

• I’ve quit drinking altogether. It was never a problem as I only did it socially, but I did notice my mood dropped for a week after.
• I’ve eaten much healthier with whole foods every day.
• Taking vitamin d3, cod liver oil, turmeric consistently.
• Exercising every day with weights and cardio. (recovery is an issue)
• Cold showers for a few minutes and Wim Hof breathing.

Strangely a cold shower and Wim Hof breathing does temporarily lift my mood. However, it doesn’t last.

As a middle aged man I know that testosterone can be an issue too so I privately got it checked out. My levels show that they are low, but borderline for NHS treatment. I went to the GP who agreed to get my blood rechecked for everything. I’m still waiting back.

All I know is, I don’t want anti depressants. I’ve tried to talk to my wife about it, but she doesn’t seem to understand. She just wants me to get on with it.

 

[lucky]

I have depression spells where I can’t explain why I feel so down. It’s been this way for over 20 years now. I get so low that nothing matters anymore and all responsibilities go out of the window. I can stay in bed for 4 or 5 days at a time and have really dark thoughts.

In the past 10 years, I went on a journey with meditation and it worked, but it has become even worse lately. Now that is not enough. To try and fix it once and for all, over the last 6 months:

• I’ve quit drinking altogether. It was never a problem as I only did it socially, but I did notice my mood dropped for a week after.
• I’ve eaten much healthier with whole foods every day.
• Taking vitamin d3, cod liver oil, turmeric consistently.
• Exercising every day with weights and cardio. (recovery is an issue)
• Cold showers for a few minutes and Wim Hof breathing.

Strangely a cold shower and Wim Hof breathing does temporarily lift my mood. However, it doesn’t last.

As a middle aged man I know that testosterone can be an issue too so I privately got it checked out. My levels show that they are low, but borderline for NHS treatment. I went to the GP who agreed to get my blood rechecked for everything. I’m still waiting back.

All I know is, I don’t want anti depressants. I’ve tried to talk to my wife about it, but she doesn’t seem to understand. She just wants me to get on with it.

Ahhh mate I am so sorry and if only it was that easy to just get on with it . It maybe an underlying medical condition but hoping that the bloods come back OK as well. I took anti depressants and for me they didn't do anything but everyone is different it may work for you . We all wish you the best on here mate and always someone around if you ever message .

 

[Deleted member 48572]

Ahhh mate I am so sorry and if only it was that easy to just get on with it . It maybe an underlying medical condition but hoping that the bloods come back OK as well. I took anti depressants and for me they didn't do anything but everyone is different it may work for you . We all wish you the best on here mate and always someone around if you ever message .

Thanks mate. Appreciate it.

 

[70s traveller]

As a middle aged man I know that testosterone can be an issue too so I privately got it checked out. My levels show that they are low, but borderline for NHS treatment. I went to the GP who agreed to get my blood rechecked for everything. I’m still waiting back.

All I know is, I don’t want anti depressants. I’ve tried to talk to my wife about it, but she doesn’t seem to understand. She just wants me to get on with it.

Hang in there until gp gets back to you, if anything shows up that may give you a starting point. The human metabolism can work in strange ways sometimes due to a broad variety of influential factors.

 

[D.A]

I have depression spells where I can’t explain why I feel so down. It’s been this way for over 20 years now. I get so low that nothing matters anymore and all responsibilities go out of the window. I can stay in bed for 4 or 5 days at a time and have really dark thoughts.

In the past 10 years, I went on a journey with meditation and it worked, but it has become even worse lately. Now that is not enough. To try and fix it once and for all, over the last 6 months:

• I’ve quit drinking altogether. It was never a problem as I only did it socially, but I did notice my mood dropped for a week after.
• I’ve eaten much healthier with whole foods every day.
• Taking vitamin d3, cod liver oil, turmeric consistently.
• Exercising every day with weights and cardio. (recovery is an issue)
• Cold showers for a few minutes and Wim Hof breathing.

Strangely a cold shower and Wim Hof breathing does temporarily lift my mood. However, it doesn’t last.

As a middle aged man I know that testosterone can be an issue too so I privately got it checked out. My levels show that they are low, but borderline for NHS treatment. I went to the GP who agreed to get my blood rechecked for everything. I’m still waiting back.

All I know is, I don’t want anti depressants. I’ve tried to talk to my wife about it, but she doesn’t seem to understand. She just wants me to get on with it.

How old are you? Do you exercise with people?

 

[Deleted member 48572]

How old are you? Do you exercise with people?

41 and I have tried exercising with people in the past but it doesn’t work for me. I find socialising mentally draining anyway and prefer to do my own thing. I put some headphones on while on the spin bike and try listening to music or a podcast.

I’ve lost a stone in the past 6 months and put on a bit of muscle. I’m within my BMI and about 20% body fat.

A typical routine for me:
45 minutes in zone 2 cardio (spin bike)
15 minutes zone 5 cardio (spin bike)
20 minutes of weights

As an example, I went to a work Christmas party last week and left 2 hours in. After it made me feel worse and I was just mentally exhausted. I can socialise, fight through it and put on an act but it is exactly that.

 

[70s traveller]

41 and I have tried exercising with people in the past but it doesn’t work for me. I find socialising mentally draining anyway and prefer to do my own thing. I put some headphones on while on the spin bike and try listening to music or a podcast.

I’ve lost a stone in the past 6 months and put on a bit of muscle. I’m within my BMI and about 20% body fat.

As an example, I went to a work Christmas party last week and left 2 hours in. After it made me feel worse and I was just mentally exhausted. I can socialise, fight through it and put on an act but it is exactly that.

Related point of note to my earlier response: Weight loss can have effects (physical & mental) that people don't actually realise as their body changes. Transitioning to a more muscled structure also has an effect.

 

[lucky]

@Sabre Mag you just have to read the amount of people that are struggling and honestly you could help a few on here with your background .

 

[Sabre Mag]

@Sabre Mag you just have to read the amount of people that are struggling and honestly you could help a few on here with your background .

Haha cheers, I try and support people each day in some really difficult circumstances. It's getting harder and harder sadly, the resources just aren't there.

 

[lucky]

41 and I have tried exercising with people in the past but it doesn’t work for me. I find socialising mentally draining anyway and prefer to do my own thing. I put some headphones on while on the spin bike and try listening to music or a podcast.

I’ve lost a stone in the past 6 months and put on a bit of muscle. I’m within my BMI and about 20% body fat.

A typical routine for me:
45 minutes in zone 2 cardio (spin bike)
15 minutes zone 5 cardio (spin bike)
20 minutes of weights

As an example, I went to a work Christmas party last week and left 2 hours in. After it made me feel worse and I was just mentally exhausted. I can socialise, fight through it and put on an act but it is exactly that.

I get the putting on an act for others so much mate and I can't sympathise enough with you. Does anything you do put a smile on your face ? (not taking the piss ) I only ask because if even one thing makes you smile try and focus around that if it helps .

 

[Deleted member 48572]

I get the putting on an act for others so much mate and I can't sympathise enough with you. Does anything you do put a smile on your face ? (not taking the piss ) I only ask because if even one thing makes you smile try and focus around that if it helps .

Thanks, I think that’s a good idea.

 

[70s traveller]

Thanks, I think that’s a good idea.

As lucky says; dwell on the positives not the things that get you down. It may take time but that's the personal outlook to build on.

 

[Ark]

Thanks mate.

Still in a crohns flare and still on the prednisolone which has brutal side effects.

Saw a menopause specialist last week at the hospital. She's put me on a 12 week course of treatment for my health issue with that. I'm being reviewed at the end of Feb. There's options depending on how this treatment works.

Struggling with a PTSD flare up following a triggering incident last weekend. I keep reliving bad things linked to past beatings and mental abuse.

Managed to find the courage to fill in a form on the National Stalking Helpline website and hopefully they will get in touch with advice about that.

Haven't done any Christmas prep yet and it's only 15 days away. Just not in the mood for it yet.

I've got 7 more working days to go. If I can get through them, I can have a rest for two weeks as I'm not back at work till 3rd Jan.

Hope life gets better Becs. Being honest you would be last one I would of thought of being down, but it just shows we don't know what goes on in other people's lives. I always think that there is only one person that can get you down and that is yourself, letting it get the better of you, but perhaps I'm wrong. Just remember what happiness you bring to people on here with your comments and the way people think about you. Not everyone has the satisfaction of been liked and loved like you. Good luck.x

 

[70s traveller]

As Ark says above, very few of us know what goes on in other peoples lives past & present that has led to situations that bring them down & lower their spirits.

 

[Roker Rick]

Thanks mate.

Still in a crohns flare and still on the prednisolone which has brutal side effects.

Saw a menopause specialist last week at the hospital. She's put me on a 12 week course of treatment for my health issue with that. I'm being reviewed at the end of Feb. There's options depending on how this treatment works.

Struggling with a PTSD flare up following a triggering incident last weekend. I keep reliving bad things linked to past beatings and mental abuse.

Managed to find the courage to fill in a form on the National Stalking Helpline website and hopefully they will get in touch with advice about that.

Haven't done any Christmas prep yet and it's only 15 days away. Just not in the mood for it yet.

I've got 7 more working days to go. If I can get through them, I can have a rest for two weeks as I'm not back at work till 3rd Jan.

If I may...

One thing I've noticed from my short time here is that you have a lot of people on here that love and care about you very much. Whether it's match threads, Hanks daily threads, or on here, your name gets mentioned constantly, and it's clear to me that your absence is felt by all.

You sound like quite the gal, and not only do you evidently have this entire board rooting for you, but they're also absolutely desperate to get you back by the looks of it.

I had a point, but I forgot what it was now. Suppose I just wanted to let you know how much love I see for you on here.

Wishing you a Merry one Miss Becs.

 

[Becs]

I was at a family meal last night. They all agreed I look very tired and run down

 

[TAD]

I was at a family meal last night. They all agreed I look very tired and run down

It's probably no surprise...you are unwell but by the sounds of it keep going every day putting others first as mum's do. You've got your holidays from work soon I think. Take that time to do a little something for you....even if that's doing nothing but putting a film on and your feet up. Wishing you the best at Xmas and hopefully you can go into the new year feeling a little better.

 

[lucky]

I was at a family meal last night. They all agreed I look very tired and run down

Ahhh mate I am so sorry and if anything we can do on here let us know as we all rooting for you

 

[Becs]

It's probably no surprise...you are unwell but by the sounds of it keep going every day putting others first as mum's do. You've got your holidays from work soon I think. Take that time to do a little something for you....even if that's doing nothing but putting a film on and your feet up. Wishing you the best at Xmas and hopefully you can go into the new year feeling a little better.

Hopefully finish tomorrow. I was hoping to finish today but I've been working slower than usual.