Keeping off the drink.



chunksafc said:
Thank you, it was pretty bad last year, became habit which is a dangerous thing.

Still like a drink on a weekend, especially before and after the match.

Smoking the next one, keep trying vapes bit can't get away with them, patches made me dizzy / light headed. Might try the docs and see what they can recommend
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Took me 4 or 5 times to pack in even managed 6 months but started again but been a non smoker for getting on 30yr now, a little tip which helped me finally pack in was I always carried a tab in my pocket, knowing it was there helped me not think about it as much when I knew I could light up any time, sounds daft but worked for me.
 
rubberface said:
Thanks mate, yeah it was absolutely horrific. Hope you are doing well mate👍👍
Do people think the generstion coming through now, like my 14 yr old will be less interested in drink when they are allowed to go out etc because the young'uns look after themselves much better and are more aware with social media?
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I hope so mate my daughter has a drink now and again and if one good thing has came of all this I hope her seeing me in a hospital bed looking like a Simpson has taught her to think twice.
Gillythedilf said:
Alrite

If I did have a pint it would only be 2-3 at the most which again for me is a big deal.
I’ll probably not like.


I don’t want to tell myself “your a T total now” as I don’t want to be and that will put loads of pressure on me and make it unbearable.

My rule to myself is “have a drink if you really want to but not enough where it will make you bad”.
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Well that seems spot on mate so well done you , no point in putting added pressure on yourself.
 
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lucky said:
I hope so mate my daughter has a drink now and again and if one good thing has came of all this I hope her seeing me in a hospital bed looking like a Simpson has taught her to think twice.

Well that seems spot on mate so well done you , no point in putting added pressure on yourself.
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Massive respect for coming back from that mate. You had jaundice in hosp?
 
rubberface said:
Massive respect for coming back from that mate. You had jaundice in hosp?
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Yeah really bad mate they had to start me off on dialysis as well as my kidneys were failing as well and needed the toxins out. Found out after hospital that they were asking my lass what hospice to put me in as initially gave me 28 days and that just scared me so much I just said enough was enough. If I drink again I die it's as simple as that and I have saw what it not just does to yourself it's the ones you love having to witness it and that's what kept me fighting or I would have gave up a long time ago.
lucky said:
Yeah really bad mate they had to start me off on dialysis as well as my kidneys were failing as well and needed the toxins out. Found out after hospital that they were asking my lass what hospice to put me in as initially gave me 28 days and that just scared me so much I just said enough was enough. If I drink again I die it's as simple as that and I have saw what it not just does to yourself it's the ones you love having to witness it and that's what kept me fighting or I would have gave up a long time ago.
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One thing that does break my heart is some people don't have anyone around them and it's so easy for them just to give in that's why I will give anyone the time of day as it costs nothing to be nice.
 
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lucky said:
Yeah really bad mate they had to start me off on dialysis as well as my kidneys were failing as well and needed the toxins out. Found out after hospital that they were asking my lass what hospice to put me in as initially gave me 28 days and that just scared me so much I just said enough was enough. If I drink again I die it's as simple as that and I have saw what it not just does to yourself it's the ones you love having to witness it and that's what kept me fighting or I would have gave up a long time ago.

One thing that does break my heart is some people don't have anyone around them and it's so easy for them just to give in that's why I will give anyone the time of day as it costs nothing to be nice.
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f***ing hell, massive respect to you mate👏👏👏 i've had my wife with me all the way. I seen how it was hurting her and my son. I spent a week in hosp 2020. They just pumped me full of tablets for a week..about 15 tablets every time. Still haven't a clue what they gave me. I hallucinated for the full week. Ringing my wife frm hospital telling her different scenarios was happening...none of it was true. Scary shit mate. Hats off to you mate.👍👍 i've had no help from any alcohol groups or Wearside recovery...just my wife. Unreal support. I wouldn't be here without her. Fact.
 
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rubberface said:
f***ing hell, massive respect to you mate👏👏👏 i've had my wife with me all the way. I seen how it was hurting her and my son. I spent a week in hosp 2020. They just pumped me full of tablets for a week..about 15 tablets every time. Still haven't a clue what they gave me. I hallucinated for the full week. Ringing my wife frm hospital telling her different scenarios was happening...none of it was true. Scary shit mate. Hats off to you mate.👍👍 i've had no help from any alcohol groups or Wearside recovery...just my wife. Unreal support. I wouldn't be here without her. Fact.
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Mate you done so so well and massive respect for your wife cos thats one hell of a woman to stay with you through everything and I'll never be able to thank my lass enough as well cos the shit she has been through has been horrible. I was never nasty or anything towards her but the fact her seeing me the way I was made me feel such a failure and she is begging me to go through with a transplant, I am at the freeman's next week then week after for all my tests to see if I'm up to it and if I am and I say yes I go on the donor list straight away. The one thing that still kills me is if I do go through with it and then find out some kid or something needed it I would honestly rather die as couldn't live with myself knowing that. The consultants have said it doesn't work like that so probably its just me being stupid and if I didn't go through with it I would feel I have let my lass down again so I feel really stuck in the middle.
 
lucky said:
Mate you done so so well and massive respect for your wife cos thats one hell of a woman to stay with you through everything and I'll never be able to thank my lass enough as well cos the shit she has been through has been horrible. I was never nasty or anything towards her but the fact her seeing me the way I was made me feel such a failure and she is begging me to go through with a transplant, I am at the freeman's next week then week after for all my tests to see if I'm up to it and if I am and I say yes I go on the donor list straight away. The one thing that still kills me is if I do go through with it and then find out some kid or something needed it I would honestly rather die as couldn't live with myself knowing that. The consultants have said it doesn't work like that so probably its just me being stupid and if I didn't go through with it I would feel I have let my lass down again so I feel really stuck in the middle.
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You only get 1 chance at life mate, you can't pick or choose your time to leave your loved ones here. You go for it is my advice. It is a massive thing to go through, you can do it...you sound like a topper fella and you deserve happiness with you and your partner. Hope everything goes well next, keep me updated if pissible mate. Keep your head held high mate👍👍
 
chunksafc said:
Can I just say, thank you to those sharing their stories. Cap well and truly doffed to you for beating your demons and also offering positive advice 👏👏
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Cheers for listening too as well mate.
rubberface said:
You only get 1 chance at life mate, you can't pick or choose your time to leave your loved ones here. You go for it is my advice. It is a massive thing to go through, you can do it...you sound like a topper fella and you deserve happiness with you and your partner. Hope everything goes well next, keep me updated if pissible mate. Keep your head held high mate👍👍
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Thank you so so much mate and will do stay safe.
 
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lucky said:
Spot on mate I hammered it during lockdown but still managed to work and gym twice a day and football as well but I just stopped and ended up in hospital and they said was the worst thing I could have done just stop. I ended up in there 6 weeks last May and fast forward now still here but not sure how. The damage is done though my liver is coming to an end and need a transplant but I feel so guilty getting one and still in 2 minds as it was me who chose to drink ( i went through awful stuff as a kid and thats where it started ).They have told me if I don't have a transplant my body will shutdown within 12 months and that was last month. I can't exercise, lost 5 stone and have to walk with crutches but I vow no matter what happens I will never drink again. I can say the one thing that boils my piss is when other people try to change like not drinking in front of me ( even though I tell them this they still do it ) and that's what sets me back even more (mentally). It is me who has CHOSE not to drink and the most thing i miss as daft as it sounds is salt ha. Good on anyone out there who tries to better themselves and anyone struggling pm anytime I will always help wherever I can.
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Hope you get your transplant mate. Tell me to piss off if I'm being too nosey but how much were you putting away to end up where you are?
 
Ciro_DiMarzio said:
Hope you get your transplant mate. Tell me to piss off if I'm being too nosey but how much were you putting away to end up where you are?
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Nah don't be daft mate and thank you, but was going through 20-24 cans a day in the end and scary thing is still working but I drank from age 12 and 18 years of that I'm surprised I'm not dead. My lass stood by me through everything and there are no words I can say that are good enough for what she has done for me. Only thing I have left is my pride cos dignity well gone and I used to be embarrassed when I get my words all mixed up but now I don't care as it is what it is. It's like a game of charades sometimes in this house ha as just forget the simplest things and the words what I want to say don't come out.
 
lucky said:
Nah don't be daft mate and thank you, but was going through 20-24 cans a day in the end and scary thing is still working but I drank from age 12 and 18 years of that I'm surprised I'm not dead. My lass stood by me through everything and there are no words I can say that are good enough for what she has done for me. Only thing I have left is my pride cos dignity well gone and I used to be embarrassed when I get my words all mixed up but now I don't care as it is what it is. It's like a game of charades sometimes in this house ha as just forget the simplest things and the words what I want to say don't come out.
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Well put it this way mate, you seem to be flying by what you are posting and you should be so proud. Nobody could have done it apart from YOU, you had to go through all the horror of anxiety and shakes etc...not many people can do that or know how f***ing hard that is...👏👏👏💪
 
rubberface said:
Well put it this way mate, you seem to be flying by what you are posting and you should be so proud. Nobody could have done it apart from YOU, you had to go through all the horror of anxiety and shakes etc...not many people can do that or know how f***ing hard that is...👏👏👏💪
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Yeah the shakes and withdrawals is the worst ever and thank you so much and honestly you have done amazing and I think the more people like yourself and others who actually care would make class councillors as has been through it and actually see it first hand either yourselves or with others. Daft as it sounds as well when I reply to things like this I'm sort of transfixed it's the normal day to day stuff when I get words and things jumbled up.
 
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I don't drink alot and am happy to drink coke most of the time when I'm out but it really seems to bother people and they encourage you to have a drink. I can't imagine what this is like for people who have had problems in the past. I'm currently training for a marathon and that gives me a great excuse not to drink but I shouldn't really need one.. I also make it a point to never by a bottle of wine as a present for someone I don't know well. Leaving gift, housewarming etc. You never know what someone might be going through.
 
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This might be cringy… but Graham (Lucky) is my partner, he’s had one hell of a journey and he is still on that journey but us as a family are all very proud of how far he has come! I wish you all well, to those struggling and struggled, it’s a hard addiction to conquer because it’s so readily available, the first thing to do it speak to someone about it, but for a lot of people that’s the hardest part.
 
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I don't drink alot and am happy to drink coke most of the time when I'm out but it really seems to bother people and they encourage you to have a drink. I can't imagine what this is like for people who have had problems in the past. I'm currently training for a marathon and that gives me a great excuse not to drink but I shouldn't really need one.. I also make it a point to never by a bottle of wine as a present for someone I don't know well. Leaving gift, housewarming etc. You never know what someone might be going through.
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Wow that is amazing and yeah I know what you mean you feel pressured but good on you for sticking to your guns and am so jealous of you doing a marathon ha. The fact that you actually think about what to take to a housewarming I have never ever thought about that and you are so right 👏.
 

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