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efcarentwe said:
same shit happened to me. Instead of coming clean she cheated on me for months 200 yards from my front door. Acted normal went on holiday then came back she started going to see a long lost friend of hers. I knew what she was up to but had no proof. I worked nights so she could get away with anything. We split up and 5 months on she still Denies everything but I've been drip fed bits of info to put the puzzle together myself. Because i moved to London I've had to stay in a hotel for work and spent so much time on my own since it happened its drove me insane. The weekend before the split she took £300 out my bank and fucked off with him for the weekend. I know we're he lives and really feel like going to get him and carving him up but I know it's instant jail.

5 months on its all I think about. If she had the decency to admit it I could move on but she's a shithouse. I never touched coke while I was with her but did when I was younger. Last weekend I sat in a hotel room sniffed a grands worth of beak over 3 days while drinking 3 bottles of vodka pretty much straight. My heads gone I can't be arsed with anything. . I was meant to go to bern in the Europa league last week but fucked it off despite paying for the whole trip.
I don't even want to go the match tonight. I had a panic attack yesterday in a f***ing shop and I'm now on anti depressants because of all this. I have all my mates and family on block on my phone because I just can't be arsed with anyone.

Getting out of bed is a result these days for me.

Apologies for waffling lol
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Take care of yourself mate.
 

Boris Bear said:
Women are like monkeys.....they don't let go of one branch until they've got hold of another
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Not just women. I would lay money that there was another woman there when my husband walked out. Not saying there was anything going on, just that he had his eye on someone. Like they say, don't leave one job until you have another one lined up!
 
Boris Bear said:
I find that posting pics on here really helps
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:lol:

Cheers for the replies lads and lasses, means a lot.

becs said:
Nothing hurts harder than a broken heart. Currently dealing with some unrequited affection and it hurts really bad.

If you're thinking like that, you're best off seeing the GP for some help. They'll talk through options and help you find what is going to suit you best. In the mean time, never feel alone. There are plenty of people in here (me included!) who will listen if you want to talk. Look after yourself pet xx
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Thankyou. I've did the shrink thing and would recommend it to anyone reading this (I went in with a very Tony Soprano POV, but it helped massively)

I've always been quite open about suicidal thoughts, something which properly weirded out my shrink I think. I think about suicide a lot when I'm down, but never really contemplated committing the act, if that makes sense.

The next few days/weeks/months are going to be interesting.
 
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yorkyexile said:
Mebbes not such a bad thing Becs. Have a good bubble then start looking upwards and onwards again. Worked for me the other day after i had posted.Actuallyslept through that night as well
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Lack of sleep is a killer. I'm struggling with that at the moment.

The tablets I was given aren't working out. They do knock me out but they give me terrible headaches and made me feel sick. I didn't take one last night and didn't sleep well, but I didn't have a bad head or nausea this morning.

Sir Lancelot said:
Not just women. I would lay money that there was another woman there when my husband walked out. Not saying there was anything going on, just that he had his eye on someone. Like they say, don't leave one job until you have another one lined up!
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Been there. My first ex did off with another woman when my boys were tiny as he decided he didn't like being a Dad. He's barely had anything to do with them since - his choice, not me being an arsehole and stopping him.
 
All you chaps who have been screwed over by lasses, you've got to channel your energy elsewhere. Exercise, work etc....you might not like to admit it but your ego has took a massive hit. When you accept that and start looking after yourself and realise other lasses a) like you and b) are way better than what you've just avoided. Your road to recovery can commence. Do not let it drag you under. It's easy to say but you will come out of this a far better person. If you can rise above the situation you will immediately feel better about yourself. I know it's an easy view but when I look back at my ex and where I am now I could not be more happy that I was unceremoniously dumped ! Albeit I don't think she was anywhere near the levels some of you have described.
I do also realise some of you have kids involved and that makes it much more difficult but it can still be overcome. Jealousy when nursing a bruised ego is a terrible thing. Good luck you guys, stay safe and don't cut off your friends. That's the easy way out and not helpful
 
Been doing well the last few months until last week. My mam took bad last week and is in hospital with an as yet undiagnosed brain infection, one of the things that it could be is very serious and can be fatal in rare cases. I am really worried about her obviously. Saw her in hospital yesterday and I was worse than useless. Didn't know what to say to her etc. My daughter (2 year old) is asking to see her Nana but I don't want to see my mam the way she is so not sure whether I should take her tomorrow.

Hope everyone in this thread have good times coming soon.
 
shogun1904 said:
Been doing well the last few months until last week. My mam took bad last week and is in hospital with an as yet undiagnosed brain infection, one of the things that it could be is very serious and can be fatal in rare cases. I am really worried about her obviously. Saw her in hospital yesterday and I was worse than useless. Didn't know what to say to her etc. My daughter (2 year old) is asking to see her Nana but I don't want to see my mam the way she is so not sure whether I should take her tomorrow.

Hope everyone in this thread have good times coming soon.
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If your mam is awake and functioning then take your daughter. If things turn bad for your mam it might be her last chance for a kiss and a hug. I will always regret not kissing my nana goodbye the last time that I saw her in hospital. She died a day later.

I hope things turn out better for your mam. Take care of yourself as well.
 
shogun1904 said:
Been doing well the last few months until last week. My mam took bad last week and is in hospital with an as yet undiagnosed brain infection, one of the things that it could be is very serious and can be fatal in rare cases. I am really worried about her obviously. Saw her in hospital yesterday and I was worse than useless. Didn't know what to say to her etc. My daughter (2 year old) is asking to see her Nana but I don't want to see my mam the way she is so not sure whether I should take her tomorrow.

Hope everyone in this thread have good times coming soon.
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if she's awake mate I'd say take her. my grandad was barely conscious the last time I seen him but by god I'm glad I did. you never know, a hug and a kiss might turn the corner for your mum. all the best.
 
shogun1904 said:
Been doing well the last few months until last week. My mam took bad last week and is in hospital with an as yet undiagnosed brain infection, one of the things that it could be is very serious and can be fatal in rare cases. I am really worried about her obviously. Saw her in hospital yesterday and I was worse than useless. Didn't know what to say to her etc. My daughter (2 year old) is asking to see her Nana but I don't want to see my mam the way she is so not sure whether I should take her tomorrow.

Hope everyone in this thread have good times coming soon.
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I would take her in if you can. Just explain Nana is poorly and tell her about any equipment she might have like a drip so it's not a shock. It'll probably do them both the world of good to see each other.
 
shogun1904 said:
Been doing well the last few months until last week. My mam took bad last week and is in hospital with an as yet undiagnosed brain infection, one of the things that it could be is very serious and can be fatal in rare cases. I am really worried about her obviously. Saw her in hospital yesterday and I was worse than useless. Didn't know what to say to her etc. My daughter (2 year old) is asking to see her Nana but I don't want to see my mam the way she is so not sure whether I should take her tomorrow.

Hope everyone in this thread have good times coming soon.
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As others have said take the bairn.It`ll do them both good.Hopefully things work out for your mam
 
becs said:
Lack of sleep is a killer. I'm struggling with that at the moment.
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Haven't got much sleep the last couple of days and it really effects your mood, been told that because I missed a phone interview, I'd been waiting all week and the one time I leave me bedroom to make a cuppa it bloody rings and couldn't get upstairs in time, private number and no answerphone message, that the interview spaces have been filled. There's other jobs obviously but got me down that it looks like I wont be getting that job. Went to sign on (depressing in itself) and I feel down about something there that I can't even figure out why myself, hate it when it gets like that as I end up thinking of actual depressing things!
 
ChrisAshley said:
Haven't got much sleep the last couple of days and it really effects your mood, been told that because I missed a phone interview, I'd been waiting all wwwweek and the one time I leave me bedroom to make a cuppa it bloody rings and couldn't get upstairs in time, private number and no answerphone message, that the interview spaces have been filled. There's other jobs obviously but got me down that it looks like I wont be getting that job. Went to sign on (depressing in itself) and I feel down about something there that I can't even figure out why myself, hate it when it gets like that as I end up thinking of actual depressing things!
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Awwww that's so frustrating missing the phone call. Hate it when you get in an over thinking cycle. I'm guilty of that at times :oops:
 
ChrisAshley said:
Haven't got much sleep the last couple of days and it really effects your mood, been told that because I missed a phone interview, I'd been waiting all week and the one time I leave me bedroom to make a cuppa it bloody rings and couldn't get upstairs in time, private number and no answerphone message, that the interview spaces have been filled. There's other jobs obviously but got me down that it looks like I wont be getting that job. Went to sign on (depressing in itself) and I feel down about something there that I can't even figure out why myself, hate it when it gets like that as I end up thinking of actual depressing things!
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ffs get a working visa for Australia and have a year picking fruit and bucking lasses/lads from different parts of the world
 
Cheers people. I think I will take her, apparantly my mam is allowed to leave the ward briefly in a chair so will get our lass to wait outside with the bairn and see her there rather than on the ward.
 
Lack of sleep is absolutely killing me at the minute. For the last 3 weeks I've been constantly going into work having had 2/3 hours sleep and the depression hits me big time every time I lie in bed trying to get to sleep.

Have said it before but the best way of describing it is that I feel like a goldfish at the bottom of an empty fishbowl being suffocated.
 
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