Jasper
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I'm still waiting for a referral from my GP for counselling, two years on.
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I'm still waiting for a referral from my GP for counselling, two years on.
Maravilla
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Mine has hit me like a ton of bricks in the last couple of days. Probably not helped by the amount of drink I've had over Christmas but getting out of bed and getting changed felt like massive obstacles this morning and I feel terrified of turning my phone on as I just don't want to talk to anybody as I'm absolutely vile to be around in this mood.
Cosmic T. Cat
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Aye, the booze doesn't help, but I always find this time of year really difficult when things are bad. Pressure to be sociable with family and friends, guilt for not feeling up to it, more guilt for acting like a petulant teenager when I try, more guilt for spoiling things for people or wasting what's supposed to be a nice time... round and round it goes. If you live alone like I do it's way too easy to slide into it without even realising.
Dread of the phone is something I recognise too - it runs out of charge, then I'm terrified to charge it in case there are messages or missed calls, and the longer it's off the more I dread seeing what will be waiting for me when I finally do switch it on. It's horrible.
Without knowing you, it's hard to know what to say that would be helpful - you know what works for you and what doesn't. If nothing else, though, let yourself off the hook for the day. If it's one of those days it's one of those days and you don't need to beat yourself up for it. Even if you just think "fuck it, I'm writing today off" then that's ok. We're all here for you mate.
IrishMackem88
Winger
Although I haven't got depression, I've anxiety myself and have since 2011.
Worry myself into a right state over nothing, as my mind tends to play tricks on me. Alcohol seems to bring it on no end, hence why I've not drank in 6 days and will stay off it for the next 3 or 4 weeks.
Talking really does help, my mam and girlfriend are my two rocks and are invaluable in that regard. Even writing down your issues or problems can really help too! The main thing is think of the positives even if you think you haven't got any!
Positives will always out way the negatives even when you're at your lowest ebb.
Worry myself into a right state over nothing, as my mind tends to play tricks on me. Alcohol seems to bring it on no end, hence why I've not drank in 6 days and will stay off it for the next 3 or 4 weeks.
Talking really does help, my mam and girlfriend are my two rocks and are invaluable in that regard. Even writing down your issues or problems can really help too! The main thing is think of the positives even if you think you haven't got any!
Positives will always out way the negatives even when you're at your lowest ebb.
joemcdokes
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mackem_jo2
Guest
I'm still fighting on, having a really wobbly couple of days. Horrendous panic & anxiety, really had hoped I'd turned a corner recently too.
Yep. Me too for the anxiety. Worry myself f***ing bananas over the slightest thing. Mine kicked off when the other half was diagnosed with a chronic condition, and now I look for the worst in everything. Talking helps. Keeping worry diaries, allowing yourself to worry for only small amounts a day.
Chin up. Talk to people.
look out piano
Striker
I'm heading for a low after Christmas, all the excitement is over and the going back to work blues have started to kick in. Probably doesn't help that I think I have a water infection and my back is hurting too.
Need to get my head together in the next few days and start thinking of the positives, maybe a trip to the docs too as could need antibiotics.
Need to get my head together in the next few days and start thinking of the positives, maybe a trip to the docs too as could need antibiotics.
The Fullwell Step
Striker
I f***ing hate this time of year.
me anarl mate
eh ? you only been in the job a few months man ffs, you went on , on her saying how much you wanted a job , it should still all be new
Kevin Arnott's right boot
Striker
Although I don't hate it, I do think that there is a bit of an expectation that next year everything will be better, as though the passing of midnight on a single day is going to make a huge change to your life. Of course, it doesn't do that, and all it does ram home that things are still shit.
L
Live In Hope
Guest
Horrible time of year!
I split up with my girlfriend today and its shit, not just losing her and all our plans but also she had a 3 year old boy who I loved as my own, will never see him again now.
Makes my job worries etc mean nowt in grand scheme of things.
I split up with my girlfriend today and its shit, not just losing her and all our plans but also she had a 3 year old boy who I loved as my own, will never see him again now.
Makes my job worries etc mean nowt in grand scheme of things.
look out piano
Striker
f***ing hell, sorry to hear that LIH, shit time and my best wishes to you x
Its not the job, its just I like being at home with my son and the excitement of Christmas - just feeling deflated and worried about stuff, mainly my health.
aye, life is a pisser sometimes mate , crack on & chin up
L
Live In Hope
Guest
Cheers mate. Just a horrible time to do things, none of our faults, hasnt worked out and we wish each other best in future. But its new years eve and im trawling through my facebook deleting all of her pictures, keep remembering little weekends away etc. This time last year we were in Edinburgh for Hogmanay and so loved up, ah well, thats life.
Hope you have a good new year mate x
ya a young lass man , its life hinny
L
Live In Hope
Guest
Cheers fellaaye, life is a pisser sometimes mate , crack on & chin up
The Hooded Claw
Striker
True but at least we are slowly heading towards the lighter nights etc.
look out piano
Striker
I guess if its not working its for the best, even if it doesn't seem like it at the moment.
And thank you, I hope so too (roll on Friday when I can get to see a doctor) x
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