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janey said:
This for me, I've never been depressed, but after my younger sister died and her new born baby daughter died (because of my sisters illness) I was as low as I've ever been. The GP wanted to put depression on my sick note, but I challenged it because I was sad, traumatised, miserable, angry, a whole load of emotions but not depressed.
I have every sympathy with people genuinely depressed and it annoys me that GPs are quick to diagnose depression when it's not depression.
It does people who are genuinely and clinically depressed a disservice .
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Change to a different GP.
Sounds like a rubbish GP.
Took months for them to diagnose me with depression.
 

Flared Hicks said:
I still love ya man JB, chin up marra xx
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Giz a cuddle me marra.

Where did this time go by? Ah remember being giving temporary mod status on the boozer to post pics about Sam. That was ten years ago. Blimey
 
Porrohman said:
Giz a cuddle me marra.

Where did this time go by? Ah remember being giving temporary mod status on the boozer to post pics about Sam. That was ten years ago. Blimey
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Just had a night out in the deepest Black Country with the missus's uncle (80th birthday) and her cousin and his mates. I was a slip of a lad when I first moved down here and they took me under their wing at the time. Had a cracking evening reminiscing about the water that has flowed under the bridge in the intervening years. Cracking set of lads. You never really grow up, just get older and dafter.
 
mackem_jo2 said:
Battling on still, it's exhausting though :(

Keep those fingers crossed for me please, the more people I know are holding me up when I feel like I'm drowning the stronger I can get.
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Hang on in there bonny lad. Tough time of year for me now personally. Surround yourself with friends.
 
Junior Birdman said:
Hang on in there bonny lad. Tough time of year for me now personally. Surround yourself with friends.
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Thank you, I hope you manage this difficult time. If you need to talk there's plenty of us here.

Oh & by the way, it's Bonny lass not Bonny lad ;)
 
The black dog is scratching at the door, and I am not enjoying it.
Honestly thought I was doing really well, had been reducing my meds to the point of almost stopping, been getting around people, then crunch.
Self image is low, really don't like how I look, know I need to change, didn't help I binged yesterday travelling to/from game. Got home, bought a chinese and was so sick of myself I binned it after 2 forkfuls.
Only person who can sort me out is me, just a bit low today, thanks for reading.
 
peil said:
The black dog is scratching at the door, and I am not enjoying it.
Honestly thought I was doing really well, had been reducing my meds to the point of almost stopping, been getting around people, then crunch.
Self image is low, really don't like how I look, know I need to change, didn't help I binged yesterday travelling to/from game. Got home, bought a chinese and was so sick of myself I binned it after 2 forkfuls.
Only person who can sort me out is me, just a bit low today, thanks for reading.
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Sometimes we all hit the wall and suffer setbacks. You have been doing really well, remember that and give yourself a massive pat on the back. The dog may be here again - OK we'll deal with that. Recognise he's sniffing around, remember all your strategies for dealing with him, go and discuss your meds with the doc, remember you're amazing.
 
peil said:
The black dog is scratching at the door, and I am not enjoying it.
Honestly thought I was doing really well, had been reducing my meds to the point of almost stopping, been getting around people, then crunch.
Self image is low, really don't like how I look, know I need to change, didn't help I binged yesterday travelling to/from game. Got home, bought a chinese and was so sick of myself I binned it after 2 forkfuls.
Only person who can sort me out is me, just a bit low today, thanks for reading.
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Chin up, marra. ;)
 
peil said:
The black dog is scratching at the door, and I am not enjoying it.
Honestly thought I was doing really well, had been reducing my meds to the point of almost stopping, been getting around people, then crunch.
Self image is low, really don't like how I look, know I need to change, didn't help I binged yesterday travelling to/from game. Got home, bought a chinese and was so sick of myself I binned it after 2 forkfuls.
Only person who can sort me out is me, just a bit low today, thanks for reading.
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Been there mate
 
peil said:
The black dog is scratching at the door, and I am not enjoying it.
Honestly thought I was doing really well, had been reducing my meds to the point of almost stopping, been getting around people, then crunch.
Self image is low, really don't like how I look, know I need to change, didn't help I binged yesterday travelling to/from game. Got home, bought a chinese and was so sick of myself I binned it after 2 forkfuls.
Only person who can sort me out is me, just a bit low today, thanks for reading.
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That's fashion for you.
 
Just checking in.

This year has been horrendous.

In Feb my otherwise fit and well Dad had a heart attack while on holiday in India. He ended up having a bypass out there as he was too sick to fly home and have it here. Then he suffered a stroke that left him paralysed down the left side. He had to stay in India until he was well enough to be air ambulanced home and my Mam was in bits living in the hospital. Tried to support her as best I could on the end of a phone, but I felt helpless. He spent another couple of months in hospital then came home. He's still paralysed so can only be moved by hoists, so he needs a lot of care with bed baths and his bowel and bladder control are poor, so he often messes himself which leads to extra bed baths and laundry. Mam has cancelled all the external carers and is doing it all herself, then crying because she is finding it hard and she has no life as everything revolves around him and his needs. I keep offering to go and sit with him so she can get out but she says it doesn't matter. I feel guilty that I should be doing more, but she won't let me.

I've been quite poorly myself since February with chronic diarrhoea, pain and generally feeling unwell. After a load of tests, I've been diagnosed with Crohns. I've had a course of steroids which hasn't settled down the symptoms and I'm now waiting to see the consultant again to discuss immunosuppressants. I'm in two minds about them as the bairns often bring home germs and I'm scared of catching something like flu, as I'm on my own with them. People don't understand how poorly I feel as I look well from the outside.

I hate work at the moment. The run up to Christmas is awful with the companies I work for pressing to get as much incremental space as possible in stores, but there are reps from competitor brands going in and begging for the same spaces. Store managers are frazzled and not as helpful, and sometimes they can be quite rude. Fair enough if they can't get on with their own work as they are being pestered by reps all day. The other day I built a brilliant display of gifting chocolate on a gondola end, and then went to do some work in the spirits aisle. When I finished, I saw a rep from a competitor brand dismantling my work and putting his brand chocs out in my space :evil:

Just feel so low right now :(
 
Some good news :)

After battling with the NHS for well over a decade to take my issues seriously, I've finally got a diagnosis of Asperger Syndrome. Part of me is annoyed that it's taken so long, as it probably cost me both my job and my marriage, but to be honest I just feel relieved, exhausted and drained! So relieved though, that I'm not left feeling like I'm making it all up any more. I feel vindicated

Edit: Just read becs' post above. Mine looks really insensitive now. No offence intended.
 
Kevin Arnott's right boot said:
Some good news :)

After battling with the NHS for well over a decade to take my issues seriously, I've finally got a diagnosis of Asperger Syndrome. Part of me is annoyed that it's taken so long, as it probably cost me both my job and my marriage, but to be honest I just feel relieved, exhausted and drained! So relieved though, that I'm not left feeling like I'm making it all up any more. I feel vindicated

Edit: Just read becs' post above. Mine looks really insensitive now. No offence intended.
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I could have told you that man, as could anyone who has read your statto posts over the past 10 years.

Never was a title better earnt than the Railtrack Rain Man
 
Kevin Arnott's right boot said:
Some good news :)

After battling with the NHS for well over a decade to take my issues seriously, I've finally got a diagnosis of Asperger Syndrome. Part of me is annoyed that it's taken so long, as it probably cost me both my job and my marriage, but to be honest I just feel relieved, exhausted and drained! So relieved though, that I'm not left feeling like I'm making it all up any more. I feel vindicated

Edit: Just read becs' post above. Mine looks really insensitive now. No offence intended.
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A few people, including folk with and who work with aspies, have asked if have Aspergers but I've always said no. Interestingly enough, I'm convinced this is because of the consequences of having mental health problems most of my life. However, I do wonder sometimes if I do and what difference it would make to how I relate to myself and the world if I was diagnosed with Aspergers. Who knows..... Anyway, started taking Mirt as I'm having a tough time. My advice is always do what it takes to make yourself better.
 
One of those nights where all the past negative moments come back and now I'm wide awake after weeks of being fine, does seem to be harder to deal with than normal.
 
Had work related stress/slight depression in year 10 til my second year at college about a year ago. Wouldn't wish it on anyone. Never really goes away and you feel you can't talk to anyone. Hence so many people go undiagnosed. Those who bash their gums about it 8/10 times don't have it and are just in a shite mood.
 
Been diagnosed with depression. I also have social anxiety disorder and aspergers. Basically I'm pretty fucked.
 
Flared Hicks said:
I could have told you that man, as could anyone who has read your statto posts over the past 10 years.

Never was a title better earnt than the Railtrack Rain Man
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That's just it Flicky. In my own head, I've known for years. I've openly told people I'm autistic for years too. It should have been glaringly obvious to a professional imho.

But because one person decided that, although he had never in his career seen such high scores on the questionnaires about how you are affected and how you deal with situations, I wasn't autistic, on the basis that I was able to maintain some eye contact with him - something I'd conditioned myself to do in a career in customer service, but isn't natural and feels very uncomfortable - there has been no help or support, and I've been made to feel that I was making it all up.

To be honest, it completely screwed with my head, because in your darkest hours, you start thinking that you must be going mad. You're suffering all these issues, but actually you are normal, so what the fuck is it that's preventing you from doing all the things that seem so easy for everyone else?

Every time work changed my job without giving me proper training/coaching/mentoring, every interview where I was expected to role play without being able to visualise the scenario etc., I should have been protected from, but there was nothing.
 
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