Nukehasslefan
Winger
You're entitled to your views and your way of thinking. I have zero issues with your strong approach to what you believe is the right way.Rubbish, if the women wants a child? Does the bloke not get a say in this. Your pillow talk must be class.
Missus-should we have a kid.
You- yes you can love.
It’s a cop out for weak minded blokes, we have treated not just women but women we love like shit for years.
The only difference between a man and woman regarding children is the woman gives birth.
If you can’t bond with your newborn enough to give everything you hold sacred up well that’s a f***ing tragedy mate.
It’s sounds like you and gilly are trying to hold on to some sort of heterosexual manliness that inhibits you from being a real bloke.
I'm telling it from my side and seeing it from my side.
It's got absolutely nothing to do with treating women like garbage, either.
Let's put this into context.
When we were younger, my now wife had said she couldn't wait to have kids. She couldn't wait to be a mother and to nurture them.
I agreed we should have kids.
She embraced the stay at home mum role. She thrived on bringing those kids up in that stay at home mum role because, although the stay at home mum role sounds demeaning, she didn't exactly stay at home. She was all over the place with her mum or my sisters or out with the pram and bairns.
Basically doing all kinds of stuff she loved and in between she'd look after the house and cook great meals. Not because she felt she had to but because she wanted to.
My kids are grown up. Their ages are 30, daughter, 28, son and 18, son.
10 years difference between the two lads and all of them were planned.
I went to graft and my wife did her work and nurturing through that time.
Now here's the key.
Once the kids grew up, she took a part time job. I was self employed by this time.
Sometimes I'd get in at 5 or 6 or 6 and even later o'clock and she'd have a meal ready for me.
There's plenty of times when I was off and right now that I have meals ready for her and I also clean the house, do the gardens and all the DIY.
She gets to do what she wants outside of her work. I never stand in her way.
What does she want to do?
She doesn't drink or smoke or anything but she does love to natter and generally to my daughter and friends if they come here. She's never been one for planting herself on others but is more than happy if people visit her, which many do.
There's no mistreating and in fact we have a home that many people comment on in terms of how we all go about stuff with ease and having a good laugh and such.
This is 100% truth. This is my life.
I see women now that send their kids off to anywhere so they can go to work. I hear the old " I want a career first and then kids" mindset.
I see men bringing up kids because the mother left. It's rare but I see it.
However, I see many single mothers bringing up their kids.
My son once said to me, " dad, I'm not joking but out of all my mates, me and two others have a mam and dad at home. The rest have their mother and their dads are hardly ever seen for them."
I think we can all relate to what I'm saying...or most, anyway.
If women want to be equal or have men be equal then let's wire us all up to the national grid and zap our brains to think exactly alike...because at this moment in time we are not alike and the roles for nurturing are clear to see. It's not about what should be or it's only fair and what not. The reality is, if a woman wants a family then she self employs, because she takes on work from that point as well as the joy of her nurturing, aided by the sidecar like actions of the man in her life to balance it all out.
This is just the way it was with me and the way I see stuff.
Feel free to have your input and to have any digs you like at me. I stand by what I say regardless but I respect any other views.