Making new friends/getting a girlfriend at 42



Dave Herbal said:
So he left his mates and moved away and ended up back up here? Schoolboy error there. Never leave your mates in the first place.
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David, life isn’t that simple.

Where I grew up, where the majority of my friends are, is stupidly expensive to live. My friend just bought a house for over 300k and it wouldn’t be out of place in pennywell. We moved up here so we could buy a house and hopefully our kids could have a good life as we’d have money to spare. That was worth more to me than struggling along but at least I’d be near old school friends. I didn’t grow up in Sunderland so have few friends up here, as it turns out a few people have got back in touch as a result of this thread, and a few I contacted personally, so I’m not jumping off a cliff anytime soon.
 
CatRyan said:
I don't think you can join a chapter if you don't have a bike which doesn't seem fair.
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I forgot to say you can sit back and I’ll do all the work.

Anyway ... I bet you’d be welcomed in a lot of the biker circles I was familiar with, bike or no bike. The joining criteria might not be quite up to your expectations mind.
 
MattyM 09/109 said:
Yeah, I'm a fairly a-social person and went to school then uni away and worked all over the place so found myself in a similar situation to the OP on coming home for keeps where I knew noone my age.

I think men especially are taught that the only thing potentially worse than being a 'big enough loser to have no mates' is admitting you have no mates, its not a fault, and going to find some. Its ingrained in us from school and is super damaging.
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Spot on mate
 

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