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So almost 3 years ago now, my Brother passed away aged only 39 after a brain aneurysm. Shit for everyone involved at the time but unfortunately shit events happen every day and we just have to crack on.

However when he was about 21, he was living down London and ended up having a son with a woman much older than him. I won't go into detail but things happened and they ended up splitting up and for whatever reason that was beyond my control, my brother never got to see his son again. Whether that was because of him or because of her, I have no idea but I choose not to delve into that myself.

This led to a few days ago where my Mam, unknown to me, somehow managed to get in touch with my Brothers ex, but they had a massive falling out and she has refused to talk to my Mam full stop. This has led to her getting in touch with me and my other brother instead and saying she has just explained to her son about what has happened with my brother. This has also now spiralled into me giving my phone number to her and patiently waiting for a text from my nephew that I haven't seen or heard from since he was 2 weeks old.

This is literally everything I have ever wished for regards to my nephew. A chance to be a part of his life.

Even if he chooses not to, I now at least know he is happy and safe and currently at university, so he's doing well for himself.

I know that this might mean some awkward and uncomfortable conversations and a huge amount of honesty on my part as to why everything has happened the way it has, to the best of my knowledge. Hopefully I can give the lad the answers he needs and hopefully some closure.

I don't know whether I am over the moon and excited or dreading trying to explain his Dad to him. Just feel like I have been hit for 6, but in a really good way.

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