Kids meltdowns


You have your view on things that differ strongly from mine, the odd thing is within the threads we have had our debates I didn’t see many backing you up.

Perhaps you can sort your OCD out.
I am far from an idiot but don’t particularly mind you calling me one if it works for you.
If you invent a reference point for sanity, you no longer have judgement of all peoples.
 
People were having a go at @Dave Herbal and he has a lot of experience with this.
As do others on this thread, but @Dave Herbal has experince of one child (his own) but is happily generalizing about the whole thing for example "A lot of these new diagnoses are just excuses for kids being little shites of course." followed up with the incredibly sympathetic "Well the fact remains that I still think a high number of kids are diagnosed with things when they don’t need to be. Nobody wants naughty kids anymore"

But the you yourself come out with "ADHD is the medical term for f***ing arsehole"

Brilliant attitudes
 
I’ve never had to smack daughter, cos she responds to threats and understands consequences like a normal person.
As an outsider of other many other people who have kids, I see a clear difference in the way the kids act between the parents or other relatives. None have been diagnosed and normally it's the Dad who has least issues as the kids know they can't do the same shite they do to their Mam etc or in some cases vice versa.

Aye kids can have genuine issues that require special attention but I think with some kids it's just down to learned behaviour. As kids grow up as all the many interactions they have means they will keep pushing boundaries. Kids learn how much they can get away with and the "can I have this" or "can I go here" or "can I stay up a bit longer" gets worse if parents give in a lot of the time.

I never got hit as a bairn but I knew not to mess with me Dad with things me Mam would sometimes give in to but if not then I would push her more than me Dad. same with me Grandad and Nanna as Grandad was ex army so don't mess with him :lol: My cousins as kids wouldn't do owt that would piss off me Uncle yet my Aunt was different behaviour.

Though nowt to do with OP situation, seeing different behaviour over the years from kids to parents/relatives etc is a big clue as to kids controlling their behaviour and knowing what they are doing and a kid who needs genuine attention to make things easier.

As an adult I get a different reaction from kids of people I know when I see 'parenting' happening. I can sometimes have a quiet word with the kid as they know I won't take any shit at all so it's a pointless act if they do it towards me. I can even get them to do what their parent has been asking them to do numerous times already as neither kid not parent will give in. I've seen numerous times where a parent asks the bairn to do summit and it just gets repeated every so often and escalates. Or vice versa the kid pestering the parent for summit and again it escalates. That's because over time the kid has got what they wanted more often than not so they will forever push boundaries more as they are growing up if they're allowed to push too much at times.

Parents can give in to simple requests as a bairn stopping up a bit longer instead of their bedtime. It's much easier to do that and have peace and quiet given they've already got other crap to deal that day and just want to chill. Again, I've seen it happen plenty over the years when the parent just gives in so the bairn stops pestering them and why it's learned behaviour and the bairn sees that as a victory so will push a little more the next time and so on over time.

Is it more common these days as kids have more than previous generations so they're more 'spoilt' already and react more when you try to take owt away to try to discipline them? Kids these days can have a phone, big TV in bedroom, access to more ket, pop and types of food and in general a lot more than previous generations.

As a kid I was grateful for what little I had and I wasn't from a poor household. Some kids these days have stuff that were a luxury a few decades ago. Things like asking if you could have the TV for a while to hoy the computer on or a food treat such as chippy neet. Things like McDonald's were another treat whereas look at how busy they are now, even more so with that Just Eat etc or going places that involved some sort of cost.
 
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As the parent of a child with suspected ADHD, I’m a member of a few facebook support groups for parents.

I can tell the doubters that there are many many children who become almost cured overnight with medication for adhd. Some of the stories I’ve read are heartbreaking and I’m grateful that our school are supportive and that our child isn’t “a f***ing arsehole” adhd, he’s just an hyper stimulated one that you can literally physically see struggling to maintain focus on one thing.

We may go down the medication route once diagnosed, I’m not sure yet. But given the stories I’ve read, I’m pretty sure you don’t cure “f***ing arseholes” with stimulant drugs. So let’s stop the amateur diagnoses and leave it to the professionals perhaps.
 
As do others on this thread, but @Dave Herbal has experince of one child (his own) but is happily generalizing about the whole thing for example "A lot of these new diagnoses are just excuses for kids being little shites of course." followed up with the incredibly sympathetic "Well the fact remains that I still think a high number of kids are diagnosed with things when they don’t need to be. Nobody wants naughty kids anymore"

But the you yourself come out with "ADHD is the medical term for f***ing arsehole"

Brilliant attitudes

Yes but it’s just a joke.
I even put a laughing emoji on the end just to make it perfectly clear.

Not my fault if people are too serious.
 
As the parent of a child with suspected ADHD, I’m a member of a few facebook support groups for parents.

I can tell the doubters that there are many many children who become almost cured overnight with medication for adhd. Some of the stories I’ve read are heartbreaking and I’m grateful that our school are supportive and that our child isn’t “a f***ing arsehole” adhd, he’s just an hyper stimulated one that you can literally physically see struggling to maintain focus on one thing.

We may go down the medication route once diagnosed, I’m not sure yet. But given the stories I’ve read, I’m pretty sure you don’t cure “f***ing arseholes” with stimulant drugs. So let’s stop the amateur diagnoses and leave it to the professionals perhaps.

Hells bells.
Pretty shit joke to be honest

A good one I think.
Maybes the wrong thread.
 

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