Kids meltdowns


At what point in this does she have equipment and running costs to pay for.

If you cannot help a someone out with a few words of advice what sort of friend are they.

Why does everything have to revolve around money?

She's happy to do it, but it does take up her time. Whether that is our personal time in the evenings where we could be watching footy, taking the dog out for a walk or playing with the kids. Or time during the day where she could be earning with paying clients.

There is a balance to be made with such things. Personally I'm crap at getting that balance right. Currently more of the stuff I do each day on various projects is pro bono because I prefer doing that stuff. I need to be careful to find time to also fit in the paid work and make a good job of it so I can continue to pay the bills.
 
She's happy to do it, but it does take up her time. Whether that is our personal time in the evenings where we could be watching footy, taking the dog out for a walk or playing with the kids. Or time during the day where she could be earning with paying clients.

There is a balance to be made with such things. Personally I'm crap at getting that balance right. Currently more of the stuff I do each day on various projects is pro bono because I prefer doing that stuff. I need to be careful to find time to also fit in the paid work and make a good job of it so I can continue to pay the bills.

When it’s taking up the time you need for other things especially your livelihood you politely tell them that.

There’s a time and a place.
 
I point and laugh git loudly at the bairn when she has a tantrum. She doesn't know how to react until i'm so annoying that she just asks me to stop. It's just one of the little pleasures I get from parenting. It doesn't always look good mind depending on the location.
 
How wonderfully ignorant of you. You sound like my boys old school teacher
Actually, I’ve been in the system for 13 years with my son, and they’ve now decided the original label they gave him may not be strictly accurate or it might be completely wrong. What I can tell you for definite is that he’s gotten away with murder all his life because of his condition, when a large quantities of that is simply working his ticket, like all kids do. Conversely, my daughter went through the whole cahms assessment program, desperate to put a label on her, before they finally admitted there was nothing wrong with her, apart from being a bit weird.
 
Actually, I’ve been in the system for 13 years with my son, and they’ve now decided the original label they gave him may not be strictly accurate or it might be completely wrong. What I can tell you for definite is that he’s gotten away with murder all his life because of his condition, when a large quantities of that is simply working his ticket, like all kids do. Conversely, my daughter went through the whole cahms assessment program, desperate to put a label on her, before they finally admitted there was nothing wrong with her, apart from being a bit weird.
Maybe adding a little bit of context to your original comment wouldnt have gone amiss then? rather than sounding like a bit of a ball bag
 
Maybe adding a little bit of context to your original comment wouldnt have gone amiss then? rather than sounding like a bit of a ball bag
Well the fact remains that I still think a high number of kids are diagnosed with things when they don’t need to be. Nobody wants naughty kids anymore, people are afraid to smack them when they are, so they lose control. Giving them a nice label gives the parents some sense that it’s not their fault that little Jimmy is sitting on the wall telling passers by to fuck off.
 
Well the fact remains that I still think a high number of kids are diagnosed with things when they don’t need to be. Nobody wants naughty kids anymore, people are afraid to smack them when they are, so they lose control. Giving them a nice label gives the parents some sense that it’s not their fault that little Jimmy is sitting on the wall telling passers by to fuck off.
Cracking generalization there and a pretty ignorant one. Diagnosing kids with things when they dont need to be? unbelievable
 
Anyone else going through difficult times with their child? My little girl is 6 and seems to have had personality transplant about 4 weeks ago. Proper off the hook meltdowns over the slightest of things. The sort where you can’t get through to them for 45 minutes. Rage meter at 10! Going to school, meltdown. Mum going to work, meltdown. Hungry, meltdown. Food not right, meltdown…etc

Never had this with her male siblings…people always say girls are harder. Not sure I buy into that mind.

Really frustrating and worrying times.
My girls were angels. My son was very problematic. Never in bother with the law, just behavioural issues.
 
Anyone else going through difficult times with their child? My little girl is 6 and seems to have had personality transplant about 4 weeks ago. Proper off the hook meltdowns over the slightest of things. The sort where you can’t get through to them for 45 minutes. Rage meter at 10! Going to school, meltdown. Mum going to work, meltdown. Hungry, meltdown. Food not right, meltdown…etc

Never had this with her male siblings…people always say girls are harder. Not sure I buy into that mind.

Really frustrating and worrying times.
I really like Dr Becky on social media and podcasts for a lot of this stuff. I can recommend her podcasts and I’m starting to read her book.


 
Well the fact remains that I still think a high number of kids are diagnosed with things when they don’t need to be. Nobody wants naughty kids anymore, people are afraid to smack them when they are, so they lose control. Giving them a nice label gives the parents some sense that it’s not their fault that little Jimmy is sitting on the wall telling passers by to fuck off.
Smacking is lazy parenting and could have serious long lasting negative consequences.
Anyone still resorting to smacking kids really needs parenting lessons, tbh.

Corporal punishment teaches kids that you can hit people to get them to do as you tell them.
 
Smacking is lazy parenting and could have serious long lasting negative consequences.
Anyone still resorting to smacking kids really needs parenting lessons, tbh.

Corporal punishment teaches kids that you can hit people to get them to do as you tell them.
Wince.... you'll get personal abuse for suggesting this.

(Strongly agree with what you have written though).
 
My younger son went through a phase. He hardly spoke until he was about 4 and he's since been diagnosed with dyslexia. He really struggles to put things on paper. We were in a military history museum once when he was a teen (big interest to him) and he went into so much detail telling me all this stuff, yet if I asked him to write an essay on it, he would really struggle putting even a small amount of that information on paper. Looking back I think it was more frustration as he knew what he wanted to say and do, but he just couldn't say it or do it.

Didn't help that his older brother made up a happy song which went along the lines of I'm singing happy songs as I'm such a cheerful boy. He would launching into singing that while his brother was having a meltdown. The utter twat.
 
This monster affects both NT and those on the spectrum, at any age, in good times or bad. I've lived with someone with an acute hereditary version for 20 years. I can explain how it works by colour, so a bit off the wall science. My partner hasn't melted down since 6th November 2022 so looking good.

I found a way out, but it's not medical or psychological but works on maths and a belief system. If you dismiss me without knowledge of my methods I won't be offended. If you wan't to know more you know where I am.

 
Oh totally agree with that.

This goes beyond tantrums though. This is rage with no direction or outcome goal. At first my reaction was how you would normally respond to what you perceive as naughty. Then you realise that your words can’t be heard through the red mist. It’s changed my perception of parenting- learned from my mam and to a degree how I brought up my boys.

If she's ND then all normal parenting tactics are likely to fail and make matters worse.

Do what works for her until you get proper help would be my advice and ignore know it alls in the street who think she's just having a tantrum.
 

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