Kids meltdowns


We are a year into assessments for ADHD and Autism with our boy, The meltdowns were spectacular but we have been learning to notice the triggers and managing them. Hopefully we will hear in the next few months about some further assessments.

Have to say the school and the Senco at the school have been brilliant though
Pleased to hear you are getting good support. I get the ‘spectacular’ comment. I find it hard to see how they could be any worse apart from real physical harm!!
 
Pleased to hear you are getting good support. I get the ‘spectacular’ comment. I find it hard to see how they could be any worse apart from real physical harm!!
we have had a couple where he has hurt himself, thankfully nothing serious and touch wood we havent had one for a long time. Recognizing the triggers has been the biggest thing we learnt from the advise we have been given so far although in every child that can be different
 
My stepdaughter did the same.
Little angel til 10, then just turned in to the f***ing exorcist overnight.
Nightmare. Lasted about 3 years, but she just seemed to change back overnight again. Never really figured it out.
 
We are a year into assessments for ADHD and Autism with our boy, The meltdowns were spectacular but we have been learning to notice the triggers and managing them. Hopefully we will hear in the next few months about some further assessments.

Have to say the school and the Senco at the school have been brilliant though

Same with my lads school I was impressed with how quickly they picked up on things.

I’m starting to notice triggers with him which is making life a little easier.
 
My other half does that for a living. So many friends (and friends of friends) approach her for advice. She's always happy to help but it does take time and in actual fact she is giving away her "product" (in this case her skills, experience and knowledge) for free each time. If she had been a Tory we'd have been rich by now!
It's funny how this is the case with healthcare. If she were a mechanic and mates were asking for an MOT there wouldn't be the expectation that it would be gratis.
 
My granddaughter went through a similar thing and grew out of it. She was a real pain for a few months and the tantrums were spectacular but she got over it and has been great ever since and she’s now 13.
Her brother is currently being a total nightmare- he’s 9- and is driving his parents demented. My sister was a primary school teacher and tells me this is a common problem at that age so we’re hoping it’s just a phase because we want the pleasant, cheerful, well behaved version back full time.
If you’re really worried then best to get professional help- you know your own child best and if you feel help is needed (even if it’s just advice and reassurance to get you as parents through it) then ask for it. All kids are different and being a parent isn’t easy - you’re definitely not alone in worrying about whether you’re doing it right.
 
We are a year into assessments for ADHD and Autism with our boy, The meltdowns were spectacular but we have been learning to notice the triggers and managing them. Hopefully we will hear in the next few months about some further assessments.

Have to say the school and the Senco at the school have been brilliant though

We are waiting for the ADIT team to come out and start that process with my 2 year old boy. He had a proper thrash about meltdown on the floor last night because I took his slippers off so I could get his legs out of his sleep suit to change his nappy. Ended up with him wearing them to bed. I thought it was usually comforters and such they became attached to not bloody slippers
 
We are waiting for the ADIT team to come out and start that process with my 2 year old boy. He had a proper thrash about meltdown on the floor last night because I took his slippers off so I could get his legs out of his sleep suit to change his nappy. Ended up with him wearing them to bed. I thought it was usually comforters and such they became attached to not bloody slippers
One of the things we have been with out lad is things like he wont wear socks, but often wraps up in a huge fleece blanket is part of the sensory issues he has. He hates the feel of socks on his feet and could often get quite agitated if he had to wear them, when he got agitated he would often then wrap up in his blanket as it was stimulating other parts of his body and helped him relax.

Some of the things we have learnt about this year have been really eye opening, just hoping a proper diagnosis happens soon, if anything just to help him understand (Plus so i can take the diagnosis and shove it down the throat of his old school's teacher who wrote him off as a Naughty incontrollable waste of Space)
 
It's funny how this is the case with healthcare. If she were a mechanic and mates were asking for an MOT there wouldn't be the expectation that it would be gratis.
Yup, good point. However, there is also the kind of emotional attachment. She is happily helping kids and parents who, for various reasons that are known to most people, don't have access to the help they need. She gets very angry about the lack of support for them and it's what she'll do more of if we ever win the lottery (while I am excavating Bronze Age sites in Northumberland).

So many issues that the country has later on including crime, unemployment and just people being unready for life in general stem from the early years. The number of cuts that have been made to Healthcare, support for younger people, Education, MH and addiction services, Judiciary and HMCTS etc, so that tax breaks can be given to those who are already wealthy, is just obscene and the chickens are coming home to roost.
 
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One of the things we have been with out lad is things like he wont wear socks, but often wraps up in a huge fleece blanket is part of the sensory issues he has. He hates the feel of socks on his feet and could often get quite agitated if he had to wear them, when he got agitated he would often then wrap up in his blanket as it was stimulating other parts of his body and helped him relax.

Some of the things we have learnt about this year have been really eye opening, just hoping a proper diagnosis happens soon, if anything just to help him understand (Plus so i can take the diagnosis and shove it down the throat of his old school's teacher who wrote him off as a Naughty incontrollable waste of Space)

Not gonna lie, I’ve now got a better understanding of how not every kid acting out is just a little twat now that I’m going through it myself. Although I would’ve thought a teacher should already know all about that
 
Not gonna lie, I’ve now got a better understanding of how not every kid acting out is just a little twat now that I’m going through it myself. Although I would’ve thought a teacher should already know all about that
His old school where absolutely useless. It was one fo the big drivers for moving back home. The Lad has Photosensitive and Absence Epilepsy but they didnt bother letting all his teachers know when he went up a year
 
Yup, good point. However, there is also the kind of emotional attachment. She is happily helping kids and parents who, for various reasons that are known to most people, don't have access to the help they need. She gets very angry about the lack of support for them and it's what she'll do more of if we ever win the lottery (while I am excavating Bronze Age sites in Northumberland).

So many issues that the country has later on including crime, unemployment and just people being unready for life in general stem from the early years. The number of cuts that have been made to Healthcare, support for younger people, Education, MH and addiction services, Judiciary and HMCTS etc, so that tax breaks can be given to those who are already wealthy, is just obscene and the chickens are coming home to roost.
Amen brother
 
Her brother is currently being a total nightmare- he’s 9- and is driving his parents demented. My sister was a primary school teacher and tells me this is a common problem at that age so we’re hoping it’s just a phase because we want the pleasant, cheerful, well behaved version back full time.
Aye the bairn is that age and his attitude is terrible at times. Only just a recent thing as well. Talking to the other parents at football that he goes to, the kids are the same age and it seems there's a few of them having the same issue.
 
I had issues with my 10-year-old and his emotions. He was referred to CAMHS through the school and it's worked a miracle. After only 3 months intervention support, he's so much happier. There was an incident on the football field the other week, but we think it was due to him being extremely competitive.

If the school are not aware of the meltdowns, I'd highly recommend asking them about a CAHMS referral.

How do I stop my son from crying?
 
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It's funny how this is the case with healthcare. If she were a mechanic and mates were asking for an MOT there wouldn't be the expectation that it would be gratis.

At what point in this does she have equipment and running costs to pay for.

If you cannot help a someone out with a few words of advice what sort of friend are they.

Why does everything have to revolve around money?
 
Yes my six year old can completely fly off the handle. Proper loses her shit. Goes from the sweetest loveliest kid to instant rage. Usually when she's hungry. I think she'll grow out of it.


It's funny how this is the case with healthcare. If she were a mechanic and mates were asking for an MOT there wouldn't be the expectation that it would be gratis.
Aye my wife is a pharmacist and she gets the same. She doesn't mind really. Happy to help people out.

I used to get the same about computers but unless it's me Mam bat them off now and say I've been non-technical for too long.
 
There is a huge difference to the small minority of kids who have serious issues and kids who are little shits because the parents cannot effectively control them.

The best weapon in the armoury against the little shitheads is indifference. The little twats hate it. Mine certainly did.

the minute they see you annoyed or exasperated they see a win. It is attention they crave.

There are obvious battles that need avoiding when they are too tired or hungry to be rational. Never ever reward a tantrum by placation or shouting at them or giving them any feedback whatsoever.

I happily smiled when the bairn went off the deep end. Told her to get on with it and come back when she was sorted. I do it with kids of my mates. They cannot work it out that you are genuinely amused at their behaviour.

for anyone with a child who has issues, I give you my 100% support (internet support not worth a thing) and I'm so glad I did not have to deal with stuff that is difficult to manage. Hopefully, any grandchildren will be fine too.
Yes my six year old can completely fly off the handle. Proper loses her shit. Goes from the sweetest loveliest kid to instant rage. Usually when she's hungry. I think she'll grow out of it.
Missus used to try and reason with my daughter when she was hungry/tired. I just used to tell the missus it was utterly pointless trying to discuss the issue or give a lecture when they are in a certain state.
 
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