Kids meltdowns


Anyone else going through difficult times with their child? My little girl is 6 and seems to have had personality transplant about 4 weeks ago. Proper off the hook meltdowns over the slightest of things. The sort where you can’t get through to them for 45 minutes. Rage meter at 10! Going to school, meltdown. Mum going to work, meltdown. Hungry, meltdown. Food not right, meltdown…etc

Never had this with her male siblings…people always say girls are harder. Not sure I buy into that mind.

Really frustrating and worrying times.
 
Yeah, same thing at around the same age. She's diagnosed as autistic now and obviously still melts constantly.

We've adapted our lives around her as life is easier when you keep a solid routine. Good luck, see if you can get a referral to Cahms through the school if it keeps happening, or gets worse.
 
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Yeah, same thing at around the same age. She's diagnosed as autistic now and obviously still melts constantly.

We've adapted our lives around her as life is easier when you keep a solid routine. Good luck, see if you can get a referral to Cahms through the school if it keeps happening, or gets worse.
Yeah we are waiting on Cahms referral.
 
Or sometimes it’s just hormones.

My seven year old did the same at the same age and has now (mostly) grown out of it.
Aye but that’s cause you’ve managed to break her spirit with your miserly selfish ways, locking her in the stairs cupboard for days on end will do that to a kid ;)
 
Just ensure they don’t connect any positive result (for them) with a tantrum.

“Let me know when you’re finished” and just let them get on with it (assuming they are performing the tantrum in a safe place). They soon learn tantrums are ineffective.

It’s the parents in supermarkets who give in and let the screaming kids have the sweets that are their own worst enemies. It’s like giving attention to a dog that jumps up. Best ignored utterly and the learned behaviour is soon forgotten.
 
Just ensure they don’t connect any positive result (for them) with a tantrum.

“Let me know when you’re finished” and just let them get on with it (assuming they are performing the tantrum in a safe place). They soon learn tantrums are ineffective.

It’s the parents in supermarkets who give in and let the screaming kids have the sweets that are their own worst enemies. It’s like giving attention to a dog that jumps up. Best ignored utterly and the learned behaviour is soon forgotten.
^^^this..... Won't necessarily work if the bairn is ND mind
 
Just ensure they don’t connect any positive result (for them) with a tantrum.

“Let me know when you’re finished” and just let them get on with it (assuming they are performing the tantrum in a safe place). They soon learn tantrums are ineffective.

It’s the parents in supermarkets who give in and let the screaming kids have the sweets that are their own worst enemies. It’s like giving attention to a dog that jumps up. Best ignored utterly and the learned behaviour is soon forgotten.
Oh totally agree with that.

This goes beyond tantrums though. This is rage with no direction or outcome goal. At first my reaction was how you would normally respond to what you perceive as naughty. Then you realise that your words can’t be heard through the red mist. It’s changed my perception of parenting- learned from my mam and to a degree how I brought up my boys.
 
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I'm a believer in young kids just going through phases. Sometimes best just to ride it out rather than over think it. My youngun goes through phases of combining the cheek and backchat of the 7yo he is and the maturity levels of a 3yo when it comes to getting ready, eating, cleaning teeth etc. A potent combination
 
My little boy is the same, so emotional and anxious over the smallest little things.

He only started school in September and they’ve referred him to Ah educational physiologist for an assessment.

Behaves beautifully at school and home but they say he’s struggling to concentrate and is in his own world.
 
My little boy is the same, so emotional and anxious over the smallest little things.

He only started school in September and they’ve referred him to Ah educational physiologist for an assessment.

Behaves beautifully at school and home but they say he’s struggling to concentrate and is in his own world.
My other half does that for a living. So many friends (and friends of friends) approach her for advice. She's always happy to help but it does take time and in actual fact she is giving away her "product" (in this case her skills, experience and knowledge) for free each time. If she had been a Tory we'd have been rich by now!
 
My other half does that for a living. So many friends (and friends of friends) approach her for advice. She's always happy to help but it does take time and in actual fact she is giving away her "product" (in this case her skills, experience and knowledge) for free each time. If she had been a Tory we'd have been rich by now!
Hard thing for us is it’s my wife’s area of specialty. Makes it all so frustrating. Back to the docs today see what they say…

Thanks for the replies. It’s such a bloody frustrating thing to deal with!
 

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