Boz33
Striker
Pretty much how it should be, the wife's got way more idea of what money we have and how everyday bills are paid than I do
Joint accounts or separate accounts?
- Thread starter The Muffin Man
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no I didn’t.
AndrewP
Striker
Yes you did. Maybe it was a typo.
Motor City Cobra
Winger
Married
Seperate accounts as I still have a pair of f***ing bollocks.
Seperate accounts as I still have a pair of f***ing bollocks.
Le Chuck
Striker
You did like. Its on the last page.
You were asked the question & replied yes
Well she would pay me back so non issue
Hodgie1979
Winger
Been with 20 year ...married 17 seperate accounts marra.
Mackem DishMonkey
Midfield
It’s never been an issue but obviously I’d just pay for anything for my kids. Doesn’t mean I want her spending my money on shite the rest of the time. Seems to me it’s just a recipe for constant arguments.
This. Wife has a good job but whearn more
In a nutshell (pardon the pun)
Seriously. If you marry someone then why would you want that relationship to be based on anything other than sharing? Anything else is an unequal relationship. I get the bit about having a partner "with form" but for that to be a default position is just selfish.
We both prefer it this way so I don’t see the issue. Just because you get married doesn’t mean you stop being an individual.
I get this isn't a joint account but it's the spirit of it. Bravo.
It seems there are three camps:
- Mutual trust and sharing (whatever the specific arrangements)
- Limited sharing due to a history of not being able to budget
- Selfishness
Joe Public
Striker
Surely you’d apportion it depending on income?
Willincity
Midfield
45 years married last July and every penny, where ever it came from, was joint.
Not once did we need to ask each other ….. where, what or why for. ………… there were times in our early years there was so very little in our pockets let alone a bloody bank account but it was always recognised that what was there was ours.
Today we are both 68 y-o and still working full time so with all our salaries, pensions, legitimated investments, sola panel payments, rebates, NI&S PB, or whatever : ………. it still, to this very day, goes into "one pot"
We are all different and one rule does not work for us all but I am (we are actually) proud of what we have achieved together as one very strong unit …………………………… along with 4 kids and 9 grandkids
I could go on about unity in life and defend it etc; but certainly not on these boards, its just not the correct platform, and just to have you know there is no disrespect intended to any poster on this site, ......….we are ALL different!
Not once did we need to ask each other ….. where, what or why for. ………… there were times in our early years there was so very little in our pockets let alone a bloody bank account but it was always recognised that what was there was ours.
Today we are both 68 y-o and still working full time so with all our salaries, pensions, legitimated investments, sola panel payments, rebates, NI&S PB, or whatever : ………. it still, to this very day, goes into "one pot"
We are all different and one rule does not work for us all but I am (we are actually) proud of what we have achieved together as one very strong unit …………………………… along with 4 kids and 9 grandkids
I could go on about unity in life and defend it etc; but certainly not on these boards, its just not the correct platform, and just to have you know there is no disrespect intended to any poster on this site, ......….we are ALL different!
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bu-bu-buchanon
Striker
Separate accounts for us but only because we’re lazy fuckers really and we both quite like the independence. Been married 10 years and money has never been an issue between us including the 3 LONG stints of maternity leave.
Whatever works really, it’s 2018 after all.
Whatever works really, it’s 2018 after all.
T
The Lonious Monk
Guest
100% agree
100% agree
It's not as contradictory as it seems.
We have joint accounts so I guess that's me... meow, meow, meow...
Not married, both have our own mortgages although she's lived with me in my house for 3 years. Separate accounts, I pay all the bills. She earns a bit more than me like.
T
The Lonious Monk
Guest
So does he put more into the joint account or is it equal? It seems to me that if you're living together and he makes more, he should be contributing more, I would think.
I'm wondering because my wife wants us to each have an additional separate account as well as the joint account. I don't really see the point as we're always together but she's probably tired of me giving her shit for all the useless stuff that she buys
Abu Dhabi Red and White
Striker
Well said marra.
