I have something to do which I am at a loss to prepare for.

Because as emotional as you want but try and laugh at the same time. It will be one of the most uplifting things you will do. (Probably)

 

Take a four pack or more sit and chat have a drink.
If he can't don't worry just be you.
If you feel like blubbing like a baby do so.
Don't worry about your reaction to seeing him like he is You are both in unchartered territory.
The stiffupper lip thing is a farce just be yourself, take some old photos of the pair of you if you have any. Reminisce about the stupid things you got up to.

 

You'll turn up and you won't even have to think about it. It'll all go naturally.

 

Remember this is about him not you ................go and see your marra!!!!

 

Is the correct answer

 

Go and see him...have a bit crack on and a laugh ...it'll all come naturally.
If you don't go you will regret it.

 

Just turn up and the rest will happen naturally.

 

I often don't see my mates for months/years on end and as soon as we're together it's like were 19 again ripping the piss out of each other and having a laugh. As other have said it'll be fine and if you don't you'll regret it.

 

just keep nipping out "for a piss", bubble and gan back in. It`s a hard thing to do matey but a good un to do if you get what I mean. Best of luck with it

 

Horrible situation fella. I am sure the words will come. I don't have many good mates but have two that we really go out of our ways to make sure we have regular meet ups.

 

Try to have a laugh & don't spend your final moments together sad. Easy for me to say, but have a bit of craic about the good times. & tell the fecker that he could have just said so if he didn't want to go for a pint with you. This is going a bit far.

 

Take him for a pint if you can and just talk about footy, birds, family etc

 

Very difficult.
I think if you can keep your 'stuff' under wraps the better for him. It can be very draining for someone who is very ill to be carer for someone who is well and has never had to really face their own mortality. That doesn't mean that you can't express your own emotion but I would say that there is a balance in expressing your grief and burdening him with it. You both know this is maybe the last time. Time for warmth and a bit of craic and a realisation that it will be best for both of you to make this as joyous an occasion as befits. After all you were great mates and he wants to see you before he goes. Oh and ignore the missus.

 

Any old photos to take and chat about. Thats my only advice. Sorry

 

In that case I apologise Dom. I thought it was an attempt at a witty first reply. I've obviously been on this site too long

 

This imo. Act as nowt is wrong.

 

Don't worry about it, I was just totally at a loss to offer any advice.

 

Dom, I knew that Marra.

Sincere thanks for all the support everybody. I think I'm ready for this.

There was never a chance that I wouldn't go and see my mate, just for clarity.

 

Aw shucks!

 

Give him a hug mate. Other than that, just be yourself.