How do I stop my son from crying?


It’s not uncommon as you say. That and personality disorder regularly diagnosed before an autistic diagnosis a few years later. Recent coroners report for a young woman emphasised how damaging an incorrect personality disorder diagnosis can be and recommended trusts should review all their patients with a PD diagnosis.
Yep, you sound more knowledgeable on the subject than me.
 
Re. the conversation above about Autism, I got a diagnosis when I was 40. Been quite odd suddenly realising there was an explanation for situations I've been through in life.

Difficulty expressing emotions, especially inappropriate emotions, has always been an issue.
Bottled anger and exploding, humour at deeply wrong times - as a kid I could never work out why people didn't laugh when I did. Even into adulthood there have been situations where I've genuinely stood in an argument and been totally unable to accept any other point of view but my own, even though I can repeat back the other persons logic. There'll be times it just doesn't click.

Absolute focus and obsession with one subject then suddenly switching to something else - it wasn't enough to know a bit I had to know it all and still get deeply frustrated when I can't get the hang of something.

Oh and personal interactions - there are times when the missus will be weeping and I'm standing there and have an internal monolgue going - I should hold her, I should say this, I should do that - it's like I'm playing a game and there are certain choices I make to get past this puzzle. This one really bothers me, as I still feel like there's something 'broken' in me because it doesn't feel natural.

I got diagnosed with aspergers as a child and you’ve hit the nail on the head with all that.

The part about the internal monologue made me laugh cos I do exactly the same thing and I’ve never heard it said before :lol:
 
I got diagnosed with aspergers as a child and you’ve hit the nail on the head with all that.

The part about the internal monologue made me laugh cos I do exactly the same thing and I’ve never heard it said before :lol:
I must admit even typing that out I was like "I'll get in trouble for admitting this" cos I know that's not how most people process things.
 
He's ten years old and cries over the silliest of things like getting something wrong, not getting his own way or just bumping into something. He's started getting bullied at school as other kids are winding him up just to hear him cry.

I took him down to a Judo club a few months ago as I thought regular physical contact might toughen him up a bit, but the first time he was thrown over, he cried and now refuses to go back.

The problem is, he isn't always sad. He's doing well at school, has a great sense of humor and loves making people laugh. But when he's upset, he just can't control his emotions. He'll be going into secondary school next year, so I want to help him sort himself out before he becomes the target of other bullies.
It won’t ever stop. He will be fine. I’ve a 19 year old who’s been the same all his life.
 
He's ten years old and cries over the silliest of things like getting something wrong, not getting his own way or just bumping into something. He's started getting bullied at school as other kids are winding him up just to hear him cry.

I took him down to a Judo club a few months ago as I thought regular physical contact might toughen him up a bit, but the first time he was thrown over, he cried and now refuses to go back.

The problem is, he isn't always sad. He's doing well at school, has a great sense of humor and loves making people laugh. But when he's upset, he just can't control his emotions. He'll be going into secondary school next year, so I want to help him sort himself out before he becomes the target of other bullies.
Smack him use to work when I was a bairn😬😬
 
I got diagnosed with aspergers as a child and you’ve hit the nail on the head with all that.

The part about the internal monologue made me laugh cos I do exactly the same thing and I’ve never heard it said before :lol:
I have no idea if I’m autistic or not but I do the internal monologue whenever someone is upset. It isn’t instinctive for me to comfort someone so I have to talk myself into it in my head.
 
I have no idea if I’m autistic or not but I do the internal monologue whenever someone is upset. It isn’t instinctive for me to comfort someone so I have to talk myself into it in my head.

The internal monologue thing I tend to do with all social situations with a degree. It doesn’t come naturally to me so I tend to plan what I’m gunna say a lot of the time before I say.
 
He's ten years old and cries over the silliest of things like getting something wrong, not getting his own way or just bumping into something. He's started getting bullied at school as other kids are winding him up just to hear him cry.

I took him down to a Judo club a few months ago as I thought regular physical contact might toughen him up a bit, but the first time he was thrown over, he cried and now refuses to go back.

The problem is, he isn't always sad. He's doing well at school, has a great sense of humor and loves making people laugh. But when he's upset, he just can't control his emotions. He'll be going into secondary school next year, so I want to help him sort himself out before he becomes the target of other bullies.
My son is very similar. So sensitive. Very studious and bright, but prone to getting upset over silly things (not getting his homework perfect, not winning at his computer game etc.).

He’s not sporty at all, but he does not like coming to the match with me, albeit I’m not convinced he’s arsed win, lose, or draw.

I wouldn’t worry unduly. There will be more than one and the same boat.

I like the WWF wrestling and I sometimes muck about with him, slamming him all over (which he likes, funnily enough!), and subliminally I’ve taught him how to apply a side headlock, arm bar, hammer lock and other things he could use if ever in a scrap!
 
My daughter is a high flier and she’s just been diagnosed with Attention Deficit Disorder ADD at 25, even though it’s never held her back the diagnosis really helped her to understand herself better. I think you should ask for an appointment for some professional help for your son to get him a coping mechanism for when he’s feeling anxious
 
My daughter is a high flier and she’s just been diagnosed with Attention Deficit Disorder ADD at 25, even though it’s never held her back the diagnosis really helped her to understand herself better. I think you should ask for an appointment for some professional help for your son to get him a coping mechanism for when he’s feeling anxious
He’s got a mechanism. He cries. He’s softhearted.
 

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