How do I stop my son from crying?


Does he post on the match day thread?

Seriously, does he have any hobbies?
Sounds like a confidence problem.

What happens when he cries? Is he overtly mothered or patented?
Does he or encouraged in team games? Winning and losing and reactions with peers?

It’s hard without knowing more of background
 
It’s normally triumph for me. Like when a kid gets the golden buzzer on BGT or when the Falcon turns up at the Death Star.
Mmm..personal identification with others achievements, inhabiting their feelings .What we do uniquely as humans , theory of mind . An interesting concept, pride in others and co identification
I was struggling a bit to allocate triumph as an actual emotion in and of its self ( had it more as a thought ) but yes , you can feel "triumphant " .
 
He's ten years old and cries over the silliest of things like getting something wrong, not getting his own way or just bumping into something. He's started getting bullied at school as other kids are winding him up just to hear him cry.

I took him down to a Judo club a few months ago as I thought regular physical contact might toughen him up a bit, but the first time he was thrown over, he cried and now refuses to go back.

The problem is, he isn't always sad. He's doing well at school, has a great sense of humor and loves making people laugh. But when he's upset, he just can't control his emotions. He'll be going into secondary school next year, so I want to help him sort himself out before he becomes the target of other bullies.
After reading most of the comments on here mate I'd say the best thing is to ask for professional help because you're probably feeling more confused after reading the variety of possible diagnosis from strangers on a football club fans forum.

Hope you all find a defining moment where things can start to be put on the right path.
 
After reading most of the comments on here mate I'd say the best thing is to ask for professional help because you're probably feeling more confused after reading the variety of possible diagnosis from strangers on a football club fans forum.

Hope you all find a defining moment where things can start to be put on the right path.
👆This, there likely is some kids stuck in child like habits, everyones different, they do grow out of but it could be something else so should certainly check it out if it's not subsiding.
 
My 10 year old son is very emotional/angry and its a challenge teaching them a good outlet for that - feelings are real and they need help to feel their feelings in a healthy way and regulate themselves. I am still dealing with my emotions and anger and as a result have a lot of things I need help with from a counsellor at 40.
The 5 year old is very emotional/angry with any sort of change to routine so I'm keeping an eye on that. both of them are absolute gems at school and restraint fatigue means it comes out at home. its hard being 'good' all day.
I try and reinforce naming feelings, feeling them, moving your body to move the feeling on - but its not easy in the moment. Both of them have just started karate and love it, really good for mindfulness and repetitive motions are calming (for me anyway as a beginner too!). also drama and music is a brilliant outlet, something creative like drawing etc might help
I'd definitely seek further help mind and good luck.
 
He's ten years old and cries over the silliest of things like getting something wrong, not getting his own way or just bumping into something. He's started getting bullied at school as other kids are winding him up just to hear him cry.

I took him down to a Judo club a few months ago as I thought regular physical contact might toughen him up a bit, but the first time he was thrown over, he cried and now refuses to go back.

The problem is, he isn't always sad. He's doing well at school, has a great sense of humor and loves making people laugh. But when he's upset, he just can't control his emotions. He'll be going into secondary school next year, so I want to help him sort himself out before he becomes the target of other bullies.
He is normal.
People are being brainwashed to hide their emotions.
 
Pick a good boxing club and it could help, they ain't gonna just sling them into a physical combat which is basically the worst thing that can happen off the bat and guaranteed to turn most people away (shit Judo club).

Whole point in the kids clubs is to give them some confidence, teach them some discipline and over time they will toughen up.

Tbf, any combat club should do this. Absolute liability if they threw him in to get beat up in lesson 1 tbh.
I doubt this happened in regards to the club like...boxing clubs are great for kids to build confidence if they are that way inclined... but 1st time as a kid going into a club is a massive thing, bumping into young rough looking kids... probably more intimidating than any kid doing a hip throw... regardless of the nature of the class.
My 10 year old son is very emotional/angry and its a challenge teaching them a good outlet for that - feelings are real and they need help to feel their feelings in a healthy way and regulate themselves. I am still dealing with my emotions and anger and as a result have a lot of things I need help with from a counsellor at 40.
The 5 year old is very emotional/angry with any sort of change to routine so I'm keeping an eye on that. both of them are absolute gems at school and restraint fatigue means it comes out at home. its hard being 'good' all day.
I try and reinforce naming feelings, feeling them, moving your body to move the feeling on - but its not easy in the moment. Both of them have just started karate and love it, really good for mindfulness and repetitive motions are calming (for me anyway as a beginner too!). also drama and music is a brilliant outlet, something creative like drawing etc might help
I'd definitely seek further help mind and good luck.
Do they do owt after school mara
 
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He is normal.
People are being brainwashed to hide their emotions.

You reckon?

I’s say it’s the opposite. I think these days everyone is encouraged to share/embrace their emotions which isn’t a bad thing in principle. But what I think it’s resulted in is people simply acting out on their emotions because “it’s just how I feel and I can’t help it” because no matter how unreasonable or irrational an emotion may be; they’re told it’s valid because it’s real.

If I’m angry or upset, I ask myself what at and why. And if the logical part of my brain determines if it’s not reasonable or fair for me to be angry, I just crack on until it goes away because it always does.
 
Literally first time I've heard that yesterday and we have friend's who's kid is autistic
Years ago people were separated into Autism and Aspergers. They're the same thing really, on a big spectrum of traits. No two kids are the same in these traits or intelligence so they've done away with the distinction.
 
I've heard of the autistic spectrum. There was a time when people said "we're all on the spectrum" which I thought was the case, but apparently not.
 
Makes more sense to me tbh, it is a spectrum for sure. Some traits are very mild and people diagnosed lead the life of a neurotypical person; others can be extreme to the point of zero social interaction, emotional dysregulation, none verbal etc… and need full time care.
The more experience I have with people, the more I've concluded that neurotypical doesn't exist and we're all on this spectrum somewhere.
 
I've heard of the autistic spectrum. There was a time when people said "we're all on the spectrum" which I thought was the case, but apparently not.
I think we are to some extent. When you see what the traits are we all fit in somewhere, just not enough to be noticeable.
That's my thinking. Everyone has their foibles
I'm autistic and my ex wife apparently isn't. I could sit there and turn the TV remote up to 19 and she'd say ooh put it on 20. I'd say what difference does it make? I'm supposed to be the autistic one :lol:
 
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I would agree. We're all neurotic to some degree, but most people don't suffer as a result.
I think we are to some extent. When you see what the traits are we all fit in somewhere, just not enough to be noticeable.

I'm autistic and my ex wife apparently isn't. I could sit there and turn the TV remote up to 19 and she'd say ooh put it on 20. I'd say what difference does it make? I'm supposed to be the autistic one :lol:
Rules ffs
 
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