How do I stop my son from crying?


Had a lad like that in primary school - would just cry over every little thing.

We took advantage cos we were little shits who didn’t know any better. He was still our mate, though.

We told him in year 6 you going to have to stop this before you get into secondary school because they’ll eat you alive.

He came back after those school holidays like a different person. No crying.

No idea if something at home changed or if he just grew up.

I guess it could just be part of his natural progression in life. He’ll grow out of it.
 
If the school have someone that can do 1-1 sessions then look into that. Could help to have him talk to someone 'neutral' about it.
 
Nothing wrong with him, just a bit emotional. Some kids get angry. Some kids are shy. Some kids don’t like cucumber.
Leave him to be himself.
 
Thoughts are with you and yer boy, bullying is Shan, hope you can get the help needed.

As a thought and it maybe a pile of shyte, what about asking at a boxing club and explaining the background, I’ve heard they are decent at kids with differing abilities of how to deal with things??
Pick a good boxing club and it could help, they ain't gonna just sling them into a physical combat which is basically the worst thing that can happen off the bat and guaranteed to turn most people away (shit Judo club).

Whole point in the kids clubs is to give them some confidence, teach them some discipline and over time they will toughen up.

Tbf, any combat club should do this. Absolute liability if they threw him in to get beat up in lesson 1 tbh.
 
If he cries its going to be something to do with either as anger , fear or sadness. The actual crying (tears ) response is part of the parasympathetic ( soothing) system aimed at reducing uncomfortable arousal . Other stuff that comes with it , wailing etc is part of primitive safety seeking signalling to care givers .
Although it will feel to him that " it just happens" , in actuality there will be discernable physical feelings and thoughts preceding the response that culminate in an emotion . Might help to start with just looking at how he feels preceding and then asking " so what do we call that then ? (Scared , hurt , mad ? ) . Then you can move on to " so if youre 'scared' what can you do about that apart from crying ? How do you let people know ? ( change respondent behaviour and see if he prefers it ) .
If its a real problem and he cant make any sense of it all all might be worth getting a referal to CAMHS .
I cry at triumphant things far more than any of the others you mention.
@Dave Herbal is like that when someone gives him a shandy
I’m like that all the time. The other day I cried cos Mirabel didn’t get a gift in Encanto.
 
And it is logic like this which is raising a generation of piss-weak soy-boys.

Stoicism, which is necessary to be a man's man, needs to be taught by example to sons.

@Gillythedilf will back me up on this.

Whilst I’m sure this is a pisstake, there’s something to be said for being able to control your emotions or at least, how they manifest themselves. I’m trying to teach my kids it’s okay to feel angry/sad/upset but if you act out because of it then it’s not okay. I think a fair few adults could learn that too, the world doesn’t revolve around their feelings.

In the OPs case, it could just be something that sorts itself out when puberty kicks in and he gets a good blast of testosterone, but it might be worth speaking to a professional.
 

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