How do I stop my son from crying?


Thoughts are with you and yer boy, bullying is Shan, hope you can get the help needed.

As a thought and it maybe a pile of shyte, what about asking at a boxing club and explaining the background, I’ve heard they are decent at kids with differing abilities of how to deal with things??
 
Tell him if he doesn’t stop you’ll give him something to cry about. Serious answer - are you particularly over protective of him?
 
He's ten years old and cries over the silliest of things like getting something wrong, not getting his own way or just bumping into something. He's started getting bullied at school as other kids are winding him up just to hear him cry.

I took him down to a Judo club a few months ago as I thought regular physical contact might toughen him up a bit, but the first time he was thrown over, he cried and now refuses to go back.

The problem is, he isn't always sad. He's doing well at school, has a great sense of humor and loves making people laugh. But when he's upset, he just can't control his emotions. He'll be going into secondary school next year, so I want to help him sort himself out before he becomes the target of other bullies.

Just my own advice as a deputy-head and school mental health lead, so feel free to accept or reject. I’d say first port of call would be a course of counselling. Most schools have a counsellor that will visit the school and work with children each week. If they haven’t, they should do and at the very least should signpost you to a counselling service specifically for children. If you haven’t raised your concerns with the school before, act soon and arrange an appointment with relevant staff - SENDCo, class-teacher and head / deputy.

Off the back of the course of counselling, they should then give advice as to what to pursue next. It may be that he simply needs strategies to help deal with his emotions, or it might be that he needs further diagnostic assessment and support from CaMHS or CYPS - current waiting times are over 30 weeks but can be quicker if referred by GP. There are well publicised issues with mental health of children off the back of covid and modern societal pressures.

This could be just a phase he’s going through, but there’s no harm in trying to help the lad understand his emotions and if there is more to it, getting him the support he needs. Best of luck and if you need any advice just shout.
 
He's ten years old and cries over the silliest of things like getting something wrong, not getting his own way or just bumping into something. He's started getting bullied at school as other kids are winding him up just to hear him cry.

I took him down to a Judo club a few months ago as I thought regular physical contact might toughen him up a bit, but the first time he was thrown over, he cried and now refuses to go back.

The problem is, he isn't always sad. He's doing well at school, has a great sense of humor and loves making people laugh. But when he's upset, he just can't control his emotions. He'll be going into secondary school next year, so I want to help him sort himself out before he becomes the target of other bullies.
We all have different emotional triggers. Other than the bullying which can be sorted, is the crying so bad? He's still really young.
 
Thanks for the replies. He has two older brothers and we don't have any issues with either of them. He receives plenty of love and support from home. We're certainly not over protective, but we can't help thinking we're doing something wrong. There aren't any other underlying issues that we're aware of. I think we may seek specialist help. After reading up on autism, there are a few symptoms which match his behaviour.
We all have different emotional triggers. Other than the bullying which can be sorted, is the crying so bad? He's still really young.
Lots of websites and people we have spoken to, including the teachers at his school consider his behaviour to be normal for a child his age. But in comparison to our other two sons and of boys that we know, his symptoms are certainly not normal.
 
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Thanks for the replies. He has two older brothers and we don't have any issues with either of them. He receives plenty of love and support from home. We're certainly not over protective, but we can't help thinking we're doing something wrong. There aren't any other underlying issues that we're aware of. I think we may seek specialist help. After reading up on autism, there are a few symptoms which match his behaviour.

Lots of websites and people we have spoken to, including the teachers at his school consider his behaviour to be normal for a child his age. But in comparison to our other two sons and of boys that we know, his symptoms are certainly not normal.
No two kids are the same. My son is in year 7 and still cries, more so in the house and not at school. Maybe not making a big deal of it and an arm round his shoulder might help. Sometimes when you're very conscious of doing something it's harder to stop.
 
Thanks for the replies. He has two older brothers and we don't have any issues with either of them. He receives plenty of love and support from home. We're certainly not over protective, but we can't help thinking we're doing something wrong. There aren't any other underlying issues that we're aware of. I think we may seek specialist help. After reading up on autism, there are a few symptoms which match his behaviour.

Lots of websites and people we have spoken to, including the teachers at his school consider his behaviour to be normal for a child his age. But in comparison to our other two sons and of boys that we know, his symptoms are certainly not normal.

Good luck Linny, sounds like you’re all going through a tough time and no doubt lots of worry over your lovely bairn.
Your attitude seems to be class and with a little help I’m sure you will get there mate.
 
He's ten years old and cries over the silliest of things like getting something wrong, not getting his own way or just bumping into something. He's started getting bullied at school as other kids are winding him up just to hear him cry.

I took him down to a Judo club a few months ago as I thought regular physical contact might toughen him up a bit, but the first time he was thrown over, he cried and now refuses to go back.

The problem is, he isn't always sad. He's doing well at school, has a great sense of humor and loves making people laugh. But when he's upset, he just can't control his emotions. He'll be going into secondary school next year, so I want to help him sort himself out before he becomes the target of other bullies.
Get him on here mate, loads of cry babies on here
 
Thanks for the replies. He has two older brothers and we don't have any issues with either of them. He receives plenty of love and support from home. We're certainly not over protective, but we can't help thinking we're doing something wrong. There aren't any other underlying issues that we're aware of. I think we may seek specialist help. After reading up on autism, there are a few symptoms which match his behaviour.

Lots of websites and people we have spoken to, including the teachers at his school consider his behaviour to be normal for a child his age. But in comparison to our other two sons and of boys that we know, his symptoms are certainly not normal.
good luck mate. There has been some good advice in this thread amongst the few sackless replies. Hope yous all get that help you need if you go down the specialist help route.
 
Seriously go down the medical professional route.

Could be an underlying condition there that is yet to be diagnosed with.

Is he shy around others / not good in social situations?
 

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