How do I stop my son from crying?


I was being a bit tongue in cheek with my comments. Hope you get him sorted.
I don't think it was unreasonable. Loads of love and support at home is still required and I wouldn't condone 'toughening him up' but year 7 is a process of learning about social norms and we do naturally adapt to 'fit in'.
 
It isn't recent, he's always been the same. I'd really thought he'd have grown out of it by now. I'd suggested to my wife about therapy, but she believes he's still too young. He attends a group at school with a social-emotional specialist teaching assistant, but it hasn't changed anything.
Does he have any other behaviours which you are concerned about? Have you considered it could be ASD? Sounds a lot like my nephew, who is diagnosed with ASD. He suffers terrible from sensory overload and emotionally really struggles.
Shut up man. A bit of public shaming never harmed anyone.

Well if it is then I would be taking the child to a psychologist rather than asking for advice on here. :lol:
Sometimes it helps to speak with others who may be in a similar position.
 
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Does he have any other behaviours which you are concerned about? Have you considered it could be ASD? Sounds a lot like my nephew, who is diagnosed with ASD. He suffers terrible from sensory overload and emotionally really struggles.

Sometimes it helps to speak with others who may be in a similar position.

When did people start calling Autism, ASD?
 
He's ten years old and cries over the silliest of things like getting something wrong, not getting his own way or just bumping into something. He's started getting bullied at school as other kids are winding him up just to hear him cry.

I took him down to a Judo club a few months ago as I thought regular physical contact might toughen him up a bit, but the first time he was thrown over, he cried and now refuses to go back.

The problem is, he isn't always sad. He's doing well at school, has a great sense of humor and loves making people laugh. But when he's upset, he just can't control his emotions. He'll be going into secondary school next year, so I want to help him sort himself out before he becomes the target of other bullies.
Have you asked him why he does it? Plus how much time do you spend with him on ya own doing things together? My sister's bairn used to do the same (he was 8 or 9 at the time) it turned out he was missing his dad (they had split up) and couldn't express himself at the time. He's now a 22yrs old strapping lad and enjoying life...
 
It isn't recent, he's always been the same. I'd really thought he'd have grown out of it by now. I'd suggested to my wife about therapy, but she believes he's still too young. He attends a group at school with a social-emotional specialist teaching assistant, but it hasn't changed anything.
I'd probably look at trying to get him assessed for autism tbh.
 
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Sometimes kids don't even know why they do things. I was a pretty normal kid in most aspects but had a pretty fucked up start to life abusive etc and id keep my shits in sometimes for days to the point I think I'm dealing with damage now. Looking back I can't even explain why I did it, I had a mother that would die for me, although we were poor I was never wanting my mam tried her best to get me everything the other kids had but something just must have been in there subconsciously from the trauma I went through. I'd definitely consultant a Dr, but as long as your there for him it's sometimes up to the kid to see a way out themselves.
 
Sounds like it could be Asperger’s. Get him assessed. You might find he’s crying with frustration that the world isn’t how he wants it to be, rather than being upset.
Does he still have temper tantrums If he doesn’t get his own way?
I also wrote this without looking at any of the other replies, so there’s a theme emerging here.
 
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It isn't recent, he's always been the same. I'd really thought he'd have grown out of it by now. I'd suggested to my wife about therapy, but she believes he's still too young. He attends a group at school with a social-emotional specialist teaching assistant, but it hasn't changed anything.
Never too young if there’s a psychological issue. You wouldn’t say he’s too young to go the GP if it was a constant cough.

My wife’s a clinical psychologist but doesn’t specialise in child psychology. If you want to drop me a PM I can ask her to recommend someone local?
 
He's ten years old and cries over the silliest of things like getting something wrong, not getting his own way or just bumping into something. He's started getting bullied at school as other kids are winding him up just to hear him cry.

I took him down to a Judo club a few months ago as I thought regular physical contact might toughen him up a bit, but the first time he was thrown over, he cried and now refuses to go back.

The problem is, he isn't always sad. He's doing well at school, has a great sense of humor and loves making people laugh. But when he's upset, he just can't control his emotions. He'll be going into secondary school next year, so I want to help him sort himself out before he becomes the target of other bullies.
If he cries its going to be something to do with either as anger , fear or sadness. The actual crying (tears ) response is part of the parasympathetic ( soothing) system aimed at reducing uncomfortable arousal . Other stuff that comes with it , wailing etc is part of primitive safety seeking signalling to care givers .
Although it will feel to him that " it just happens" , in actuality there will be discernable physical feelings and thoughts preceding the response that culminate in an emotion . Might help to start with just looking at how he feels preceding and then asking " so what do we call that then ? (Scared , hurt , mad ? ) . Then you can move on to " so if youre 'scared' what can you do about that apart from crying ? How do you let people know ? ( change respondent behaviour and see if he prefers it ) .
If its a real problem and he cant make any sense of it all all might be worth getting a referal to CAMHS .
 
When did people start calling Autism, ASD?
Around 10 years ago the shift started happening. The basic reason is that the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual (which is the basic classification system used by the American Psychiatric Association, but also many mental health professionals around the world) recategorized autism, Asperger's, and a few less well-known shades of the same general clinical presentations under the heading of Autism Spectrum Disorder.
 
Being a parent isn’t easy and each bairn should come with a manual.
Nowt wrong with a bairn being emotional, yeah of course it’s strange to some people but it’s ok to cry, f*ck me since my heart attack I’m a reet soft shite these days 😉
I’m assuming there’s plenty sensible help out there if it’s needed, just don’t get worked up and allow your emotions to hinder the bairns.
We live in a world of blokes hiding there emotions far too much, assume some kids find situations difficult to understand and cope with, as the adult you just need to be there or reassure them it’s ok.

Seek help though if you need it.
 
Is it a proper cry or a few "whimpers" (for want of a better word) and then he's back to normal? My cousin went through a similar phase although he was probably about 7 or 8, usually felt like he was in control of his emotions though and was using the threat of a meltdown to get his own way. He grew out of it eventually, don't think my auntie and uncle did anything particularly.
 
He's ten years old and cries over the silliest of things like getting something wrong, not getting his own way or just bumping into something. He's started getting bullied at school as other kids are winding him up just to hear him cry.

I took him down to a Judo club a few months ago as I thought regular physical contact might toughen him up a bit, but the first time he was thrown over, he cried and now refuses to go back.

The problem is, he isn't always sad. He's doing well at school, has a great sense of humor and loves making people laugh. But when he's upset, he just can't control his emotions. He'll be going into secondary school next year, so I want to help him sort himself out before he becomes the target of other bullies.
I was very emotional as a bairn and used to get the piss took out of me for crying at Adrian Moles ganny dying or watching Little House on the Prairie.

I’m still emotional now even though I’m thick skinned in other ways.

Hope the boy gets sorted as it can’t be much fun for him or you mate.


Is it an emotional cry or a spoilt cry?
 
Can you not buy him a little pair of high heels or a handbag to cheer him up?
In all seriousness I would go to the doctors, have the school not mentioned anything?
 

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