How do I stop my son from crying?


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He's ten years old and cries over the silliest of things like getting something wrong, not getting his own way or just bumping into something. He's started getting bullied at school as other kids are winding him up just to hear him cry.

I took him down to a Judo club a few months ago as I thought regular physical contact might toughen him up a bit, but the first time he was thrown over, he cried and now refuses to go back.

The problem is, he isn't always sad. He's doing well at school, has a great sense of humor and loves making people laugh. But when he's upset, he just can't control his emotions. He'll be going into secondary school next year, so I want to help him sort himself out before he becomes the target of other bullies.
 
He's ten years old and cries over the silliest of things like getting something wrong, not getting his own way or just bumping into something. He's started getting bullied at school as other kids are winding him up just to hear him cry.

I took him down to a Judo club a few months ago as I thought regular physical contact might toughen him up a bit, but the first time he was thrown over, he cried and now refuses to go back.

The problem is, he isn't always sad. He's doing well at school, has a great sense of humor and loves making people laugh. But when he's upset, he just can't control his emotions. He'll be going into secondary school next year, so I want to help him sort himself out before he becomes the target of other bullies.
Could be a stage he is going through. Does he have any good mates or perhaps a cat/dog to settle him? Dont ask if he is fine, ask what is wrong. Could be one specific thing that needs resolving or a build up of a 1001 things. Teachers said anything ? Good luck, awful for you too, hope you get it resolved.
 
You don’t fancy trading him for a dog do ya?

Try and determine whether it’s physical or emotional. I’d suggest emotional and then try and discover what the trigger is.
 
He will stop eventually. Just don't pander to the tears. (Especially, the not getting his own way ones!) He will soon stop crying if he is getting bullied.

Sometimes, you just have to let them work it out for themselves.
 
If I cried when was younger was told stop crying or ill give you something to cry about.

I'd seek professional help though to be safe have a word with a Dr or something in case there is something going on which is causing it rather than just being a whinge.
 
It isn't recent, he's always been the same. I'd really thought he'd have grown out of it by now. I'd suggested to my wife about therapy, but she believes he's still too young. He attends a group at school with a social-emotional specialist teaching assistant, but it hasn't changed anything.
 
It isn't recent, he's always been the same. I'd really thought he'd have grown out of it by now. I'd suggested to my wife about therapy, but she believes he's still too young. He attends a group at school with a social-emotional specialist teaching assistant, but it hasn't changed anything.
I was being a bit tongue in cheek with my comments. Hope you get him sorted.
 
It isn't recent, he's always been the same. I'd really thought he'd have grown out of it by now. I'd suggested to my wife about therapy, but she believes he's still too young. He attends a group at school with a social-emotional specialist teaching assistant, but it hasn't changed anything.
Does he break down say for instance if his daily routine or plans get mucked up?
 
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It isn't recent, he's always been the same. I'd really thought he'd have grown out of it by now. I'd suggested to my wife about therapy, but she believes he's still too young. He attends a group at school with a social-emotional specialist teaching assistant, but it hasn't changed anything.

Younger than him receive help with autism etc. If the help is there, I'd say ask for it. Especially if it'll help him in the long run
 
My son is the same, although not quite as bad as what's made out in the OP. He's becoming more and more nervous of ordinary, everyday situations. Going to a toilet in a toilet on his todd while his mam fills up the car in broad daylight being the most recent one.

We went on a yacht on holiday a couple of months ago & he spent the first 2 hours crying hysterically while wrapped around my leg. We were out in the middle of the ocean & the person steering the boat came around for a chat with the people on the boat. My son almost fainted. "There's no one driving the boat. THERE'S NO ONE DRIVING THE BOAT"!!!

I had to spend 2 hours comforting him telling him that it was my job to make sure nothing would happen to him. Absolutely bizarre behaviour.
 

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