Going teetotal

I never really used to drink but started when I watched my brother die.
I've drank ever since, used to be just on a weekend, then about 4 nights a week and now it's nearly every night.
I don't drink to get drunk, I drink to relax and try to forget.
I really could do with knocking it on the head, but I fear the boredom and other shit creeping in.
I don't drink during the day, I don't wake up needing a drink, I just crave pop or coffee.
Like @Cheesy Feet mentions it sounds very much like a trauma response that kicked it off and some of what you mention alongside the drink are trauma coping responses especially the agitation and thought blocking . Have you ever had any PTSD therapy ?
Have a look at this and see what you make of it, see your GP for a referral if you're scoring big even in just a couple of areas

https://novopsych.com.au/wp-content/uploads/2023/02/pcl-5-assessment-trauma-online.pdf
 


Over the years heard many reasons/excuses/self justifications for drinking, if ya happy crack on everyone is different, I want to try and get it out of my life if I can. Taking the car to the match today so I can’t drink, still going to the pub and meet me mate at half time but want to do it without drink.
My thirsty has been screaming 🍺 all weekend but haven't touched it and feeling good about that, I’m not a raving alcho by the way more habitual with the occasional broken cut-off switch I would say. But just sick of it man.

Cracking thread by the way.
 
Doubt I would ever go teetotal, but since becoming a Dad last year I no longer drink enough to get hangovers. Not fair on the bairn or my wife. Had a couple of slip ups (one of which was a stag do tbf).

Sweet spot for me seems to be 5 pints premium lager or 6 weaker lager/ Guinness is my limit, never on an empty stomach and no more than once a week.
 
Over the years heard many reasons/excuses/self justifications for drinking, if ya happy crack on everyone is different, I want to try and get it out of my life if I can. Taking the car to the match today so I can’t drink, still going to the pub and meet me mate at half time but want to do it without drink.
My thirsty has been screaming 🍺 all weekend but haven't touched it and feeling good about that, I’m not a raving alcho by the way more habitual with the occasional broken cut-off switch I would say. But just sick of it man.

Cracking thread by the way.
If you can be in control you're most of the way to reaching how you'd like to be re: drink. As you say, the personal feelings of satisfaction when you can say no when it calls tell you you're doing the right thing for yourself. 👍
Went 85 days from Boxing Day ..
Had one or 2 since.. starting again today for a few weeks.
Will power the key
It definitely is,
Doubt I would ever go teetotal, but since becoming a Dad last year I no longer drink enough to get hangovers. Not fair on the bairn or my wife. Had a couple of slip ups (one of which was a stag do tbf).

Sweet spot for me seems to be 5 pints premium lager or 6 weaker lager/ Guinness is my limit, never on an empty stomach and no more than once a week.
Controlled sensible moderation is the key and works very well.
 
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Thought you said you only drank in "moderation" say "2 or 3 pints, maybe 2 or 3 days a week"
Said except the occasional session with the chaps. Was still steady away and nowt daft too. About a drink an hour or so and thus no hangovers or owt. Happy days :cool:
 
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I knocked the drink on the head when I realised it was a root cause of horrendous anxiety. At its worst even drinking 2/3 pints I would spend the next 2/3 days replaying alll conversations/interactions in my mind for severe paranoid reasons. A full on session or big night out would be weeks of constant worry.

Once I stopped it never happens.

Guess just the way my brain reacts to th drink
 
Full weekend off it for me, drink a lot less now than I used to. This is mainly due to my job, need to be switched on all the time, I find having a drink wipes me out for 2/3 days.

This weekend we have had a breakdown on site since Saturday so that has occupied me for the last 3 days. I will take the days back over the next two weeks, I will use it to spend some time with my son in the school holidays.
 
I knocked the drink on the head when I realised it was a root cause of horrendous anxiety. At its worst even drinking 2/3 pints I would spend the next 2/3 days replaying alll conversations/interactions in my mind for severe paranoid reasons. A full on session or big night out would be weeks of constant worry.

Once I stopped it never happens.

Guess just the way my brain reacts to th drink
It's great that you've realised the effects it has and have put yourself in control 👍
 
Was a heavy drinker when younger whisky been my chosen poison fell down the steps one morning after a big night ended up at AE had multiple xrays then saw the specialist and was told nothing broken but was I aware I only had one kidney didn't have clue seemingly born with only one was then given the stark warning reduce my drinking or basically stop altogether took the later and have not had a drink since
 
I stopped for a couple of months during COVID and like most on here found it easier than I was expecting. The things that I thought I would struggle with like gigs and eating out were ok. The issue I had was the wife did not stop and we would have friends round during the summer and I cracked.

My problem is volume, I only drink Saturday and Sundays but will have 2 bottles of wine each night, I don't get hangovers and many times done a 12 pint night in the pub then done the park run or great north run. Because family came for dinner yesterday I started early meaning it was a 3 bottle day, went for a 10k run at lunchtime. I need to knock that on the head quickly.
 
Was a heavy drinker when younger whisky been my chosen poison fell down the steps one morning after a big night ended up at AE had multiple xrays then saw the specialist and was told nothing broken but was I aware I only had one kidney didn't have clue seemingly born with only one was then given the stark warning reduce my drinking or basically stop altogether took the later and have not had a drink since
I'll bet you weren't expecting that diagnosis for a fall. Good job you did though.
 
I stopped for a couple of months during COVID and like most on here found it easier than I was expecting. The things that I thought I would struggle with like gigs and eating out were ok. The issue I had was the wife did not stop and we would have friends round during the summer and I cracked.

My problem is volume, I only drink Saturday and Sundays but will have 2 bottles of wine each night, I don't get hangovers and many times done a 12 pint night in the pub then done the park run or great north run. Because family came for dinner yesterday I started early meaning it was a 3 bottle day, went for a 10k run at lunchtime. I need to knock that on the head quickly.
No way could I do any form of exercise after having a good drink the day before. I would be a write off for days, quite impressive you done the great north run with 12 pints the night before 😂.
 
No way could I do any form of exercise after having a good drink the day before. I would be a write off for days, quite impressive you done the great north run with 12 pints the night before 😂.
Joking aside, my life used to involve big Fri/Sat/Sun drinking on nights out if I was off then next day either go for a run or play football (badly) to sweat it off before doing it all again. How many GNR miles did you do before you were thinking of another beer?
 
Joking aside, my life used to involve big Fri/Sat/Sun drinking on nights out if I was off then next day either go for a run or play football (badly) to sweat it off before doing it all again. How many GNR miles did you do before you were thinking of another beer?
When I was younger I would be out Thursday to sunday and sometimes even Monday. If I wasn’t out on a Monday I would sometimes play football to sweat the badness out. These days if I went out Thursday to Sunday I would be off work recovering for a week 😂
 
I stopped for a couple of months during COVID and like most on here found it easier than I was expecting. The things that I thought I would struggle with like gigs and eating out were ok. The issue I had was the wife did not stop and we would have friends round during the summer and I cracked.

My problem is volume, I only drink Saturday and Sundays but will have 2 bottles of wine each night, I don't get hangovers and many times done a 12 pint night in the pub then done the park run or great north run. Because family came for dinner yesterday I started early meaning it was a 3 bottle day, went for a 10k run at lunchtime. I need to knock that on the head quickly.
Yes, get a grip on it before something happens.
When I was younger I would be out Thursday to sunday and sometimes even Monday. If I wasn’t out on a Monday I would sometimes play football to sweat the badness out. These days if I went out Thursday to Sunday I would be off work recovering for a week 😂
Now that I think back there were some very good Thurs nights out in my beer repertoire :lol:
 
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I knocked the drink on the head when I realised it was a root cause of horrendous anxiety. At its worst even drinking 2/3 pints I would spend the next 2/3 days replaying alll conversations/interactions in my mind for severe paranoid reasons. A full on session or big night out would be weeks of constant worry.

Once I stopped it never happens.

Guess just the way my brain reacts to th drink

I am not too dissimilar, problem is its the easiest way to meet people, lasses, and get me more confident, as a fairly shy person.
 

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