Getting over a break up

Discussion in 'SMB' started by Lionel Hutzz, Apr 14, 2019.

  1. Lionel Hutzz

    Lionel Hutzz Midfield

    Split up with my long term partner a few weeks back now and have been really struggling since. Last November was the climax of about 5 years of depression relating to childhood trauma and took the plunge and went to docs and was provided with 200mg of sertraline which has been very effective in improving my mood. Unfortunately the side effect of the sertraline was a decrease in libido which partner was not happy about. She wanted me to stop the sertraline as it was having a negative effect on her which I thought was not very understanding but let it go.
    Then 3 weeks ago I was very tired from work and rejected her advances, she then went crying to her mums and ever since I've had a barrage of abuse from her family and friends.

    Don't really know what to do now as have been sat in the house for weeks other than the gym and work.

    Other than the usual "inbox me hun" or "bucking another wad" has anyone been in a similar position that can offer any advice?
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  2. Old Prestonian

    Old Prestonian Striker

    Shag her sister and shit in her knicker drawer.
  3. dalsafc

    dalsafc Midfield

    Is it worth going back to GP and tell him the side effects of the drugs - may be alternatives.

    Make sure you look after yourself - eat right, rest properly for starters.
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  4. Lionel Hutzz

    Lionel Hutzz Midfield

    Haha her sister was alright actually ;)
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  5. Tex

    Tex Striker

    Good luck mate but SMB convention dictates that we need pics in order to make a sound assessment of your next move.

    Edit: pics of her sister won’t be amiss either!
  6. Ashley In!!

    Ashley In!! Striker

    No advice as such, but this says an awful lot more about them than it does you mate.
  7. yorkyexile

    yorkyexile Striker

    Sounds like some odd behaviour on her part to be honest if she knew you had problems that required medical help, especially from a "long term" partner. Without knowing the ins and out sounds like your well shot

    Keep going with the gym and ignore her f and f, get yerself out with your marras and as daft as it sounds and as jokingly as it is posted on here often, wads or not get nuts deep as often as possible or when the time comes your confidence will be shot to shit

    Oh and if she hasnt had tail for 6 months gis your ex`s number? :oops:

    And another thing, given the depression make extra sure it is abuse your getting and not just reading it as such
    Last edited: Apr 14, 2019
  8. Old Prestonian

    Old Prestonian Striker

    You know what the decent thing to do is then.
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  9. lurker

    lurker Striker

    You denied the holocaust happened mate.

    You need to accept that it did, and apologise
  10. Kevj

    Kevj Striker

    For clarity: you are getting grief from her family and friends because you didn’t fancy rattling her? All of this is due to a deeper problem with depression?

    Tell her to fuck off.
  11. Gender change?

    You don't rattle a snake especially one with tits.
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  12. Kevj

    Kevj Striker

    It’s an unfortunate figure of speech.
  13. If a friend came to you and said their missus was asking them to stop medication they needed because she didn't like it and then caused abuse from her family because she didn't get her own way, what would you tell the mate?

    From an outsider looking in, it sounds like you are well shot of her. If you don't want her back, block the numbers and ignore the abuse.

    Take time for yourself. You need to kind of grieve for the relationship and concentrate on getting yourself well again. It's time to look after you now and do what you need to do to get better. Take care marra xx
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  14. Grammar Police

    Grammar Police Midfield

    Book a flight to Bangkok.

    Thank me later.
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  15. Lionel Hutzz

    Lionel Hutzz Midfield

    Haha she's crazy you don't want that and believe me I've been forced over that 6 months a few times lucky for blue pills haha.

    Think the most hurtful thing was that she said was basically she was with me for looks and cause I was nice to her but "couldn't see point " if we aren't having sex constantly
  16. BigPete

    BigPete Striker

    Never thought id hear someome finish with their lass because she wanted sex constantly mind.
  17. Medulla

    Medulla Striker

    You know fine well that you're well rid of this one lad. Some major red flags there.

    Not that it makes it much easier, but all I would say is find ways to keep yourself busy and up the exercise - it's the best mood-enhancer known to man. Get yourself into good routines and make efforts to be social even if you can't be arsed - reconnect with old mates, see the ones you are connected with more and talk to those you trust about it, before you know it you will be on the up.
  18. Taggartis

    Taggartis Midfield

    This. She sounds shocking. Dodged a bullet imo.
  19. yorkyexile

    yorkyexile Striker

    And your the one who`s needing help?!!!! Your definatley well shot. Make sure you get yourself out and about and on with your life.
    I`d do what one of the others suggested though and have a word with the doc about the side effects
  20. Titus

    Titus Striker

    200mg? Was this the first visit?

    I know it will be difficult, but if the OP is even close to the entirety of the situation, then at least for the time being you don't need that in your life whilst dealing with depression.

    However, if you know there's other factors contributing to her/her family's behaviour, then do try and at least to be honest with yourself to identify them in your own head and work from there. You won't have depression forever, but it's a horrible illness that can make you make terrible decisions so as only you can do, try to evaluate the relationship as a whole before just washing your hands and allowing her to piss off.

    Best of luck mate. Shite situation.

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