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Winger
You're not blaming him, you're just blaming him.I’m not blaming him for it. I’m blaming him for not being able to do anything about it. Maybe I’m too alpha male to see it? But I can’t imagine anyone I know putting up with that. I think most of us have been assaulted by our lasses at some point and very few will have retaliated. But the extent to which he put up with that suggests that he had mental problems of his own. I mean Haway..if your lass sat there with the kettle on the boil waiting for an opportunity to pour it on you what would you do about it? He was obviously terrified of breaking the family up but by the same token they’d be broken up anyway if he ended up dead.
You can see exactly the kind of blokes it would happen to though - the ones that have to ask permission to go out; call the wife “the boss”; come up with shit excuses not to do perfectly acceptable things etc. Softcocks, as the smb would say.
Imagine being in a relationship where the woman wears the trousers and makes all the rules, instead of it being an equal partnership? (All of the above also being applicable to women with domineering husbands btw)
Fuck that, I’d rather be single forever than live like that.
It's not like he just lost a fist fight with someone smaller and weaker than him, which might be hard to understand. He was manipulated and abused by the person he loved for a long time. He would've felt like his whole world was collapsing. That would seriously fuck you up. Not just from the physical pain, but the mental torture too.
Survivors of abuse don't deserve further criticism for being abused. They only deserve support.