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The Lonious Monk
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Never have a friendship with a girl at work when married. I will probably get shit for that, but there's absolutely no point. You're only tempting fate for something to happen. She has the right to be suspicious - if it was the reverse, would you not feel the same way? If she started losing weight and was hanging out with a male coworker, would that not bother you?Yeah I think she does. We were both overweight so I decided to exercise. I’ve lost nearly 3st and I’m starting to look much better although I could still do with losing another stone. In addition to this, the gym has been my escape. The feel good factor. Away from stresses of the home environment. No arguments, no walking on eggshells with her and away from the kids for an hour or so (I know the kids comment above sounds bad, but two autistic children are hard work)
My Mrs hasn’t really done anything about her weight though and has possibly gained weight. She has become resentful of my weight loss and, although she has not said it, she feels inadequate.
The other issue is I work with a girl, who I car share with, and train with as she’s also into the gym. My wife feels like I’m always with her and suspects something is going on. There isn’t by the way. We train and work together. That’s it. But my wife can’t grasp this and has bought the other girl up constantly in arguments for the last 6 months.
It’s been excruciating having to justify yourself constantly and fighting suspicion, especially when nothing has gone on
Instead of trying to run away from the problem, you should be meeting it head on. Take your wife to work out with you. Make the gym something the two of you do together and not something you just do for yourself.
Do you find your coworker attractive? If so, that's a problem.