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Good for you fella
Rhubarb
Midfield
How are we all doing? After my first time in the Andy’s man club last night I came home fucked. Had me tea then bed.
Had the best nights sleep in a while and got shit done today.
Hope everyone is keeping on.
Always here for a chat even if private.
Love Rhubard. We have all got this.! X
Had the best nights sleep in a while and got shit done today.
Hope everyone is keeping on.
Always here for a chat even if private.
Love Rhubard. We have all got this.! X
One of the main things to realise about getting back on track with depression is "effort creates energy" . So often because of the physical heaviness of depression we feel and say to ourselves " i will as soon as i get some energy ". Not going to happen . Do something , no matter how small. Dont do something so effortful its bound to fail , do something you can complete, no matter how small.
Have a good day creating that energy all
Have a good day creating that energy all
I hate a showoff hahha well done my mate that is class and are you going next time as well and what's it like as I have never been to Andys man cave but only heard good things about it.
Yeah effort does create energy but when someone alone it's so much harder thats why we need to help each other as much as we can.
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Indeed support is always good. That being said its also good going forward to recognise the self generating properties we have , in that way we can maintain our mood independently of circumstance. The availability of others being one.
The man cave thing is great, while it does trigger basic motivation it adds another property of "connectedness" which gives a sense of meaning. We're meant to be around others , we're troop animals .
It seems a good place to be around that andys man cave.
Rhubarb
Midfield
How are we all doing today? Felt great after going to Andys man’s club on Monday. Spoke to HR other day and they don’t want me to come back to work just yet and want me to take my occupational health review to GP first. But I’ve been up craster with the wife and dog this morning. Felt sick and reached to be sick a few times. But had a walk and a coffee.
Had a blow out doing 70mph on A1 on way home. Luckily it was right next to Kingston park turn off so her mam picked me and dog up while the wife got recovery truck to take her home.
Even after that I felt ok.
Hope everyone is keeping as well as the can. And remember today is today tomorrow is another day.
Keep up the good fight. You’re not alone.
Lots of love Rhubarb. Xx
Had a blow out doing 70mph on A1 on way home. Luckily it was right next to Kingston park turn off so her mam picked me and dog up while the wife got recovery truck to take her home.
Even after that I felt ok.
Hope everyone is keeping as well as the can. And remember today is today tomorrow is another day.
Keep up the good fight. You’re not alone.
Lots of love Rhubarb. Xx
Thank you my mate for always being positive
and same to you keep doing all you can to get through the day.
Rhubarb
Midfield
Thank you my mate for always being positive
No need to thank me mate. Thankyou for your replies and kind words. I’m just a normal family working man from council estate and still live in a council house.
Married and a son and a dog and life throws me curve balls that fuck me up. That’s why when I feel down or ending it I don’t understand cos I should be the happiest man alive.
Everyone keep on being happy as they can be. If anyone needs a chat I’m here. Love Rhubarb. X
Ciro_DiMarzio
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Hope you're well mate. You're a good lad.
Rhubarb
Midfield
Tried to send you a msg Ciro but it’s full mate. And. Cheers you’re a belter too.
Mate whatever your doing keep doing it and good luck to you and all your family , I can't wait to get married that's what's keeping me going everyday and I haven't been feeling depressed for a while, I did have a little blip a few weeks ago but I will not allow it to creep in especially now.
rey mysterio
Striker
I've been on a massive downer after losing my job these last few weeks, trying to focus all my energy on finding something else, passing qualifications and hitting the gym, but I can feel myself sliding into what feels like oblivion. All this due to a major fuck up on my part five months ago that I'm really struggling to deal with. The only thing that is keeping me going are the kids but there is absolutely no light at the end of the metaphorical tunnel at the moment, feels more like a black hole 
Rhubarb
Midfield
I've been on a massive downer after losing my job these last few weeks, trying to focus all my energy on finding something else, passing qualifications and hitting the gym, but I can feel myself sliding into what feels like oblivion. All this due to a major fuck up on my part five months ago that I'm really struggling to deal with. The only thing that is keeping me going are the kids but there is absolutely no light at the end of the metaphorical tunnel at the moment, feels more like a black hole
Just keep on keeping on mate. Things will get better!! All the best
Ahhh mate just plod on as best you can and what kinda work you looking for ? and everyone fucks up mate lost count how many times I've fucked up and how old are the bairns? Mines 18 and she is a diamond and I would be lost without her.I've been on a massive downer after losing my job these last few weeks, trying to focus all my energy on finding something else, passing qualifications and hitting the gym, but I can feel myself sliding into what feels like oblivion. All this due to a major fuck up on my part five months ago that I'm really struggling to deal with. The only thing that is keeping me going are the kids but there is absolutely no light at the end of the metaphorical tunnel at the moment, feels more like a black hole
Not working is a massive change to cope with, particularly if it wasn't your choice. Take things day to day. Don't beat yourself up about the past. Focus on small steps and if that's just getting through the day .. that's ok. Good luck, the good people on here are behind you.I've been on a massive downer after losing my job these last few weeks, trying to focus all my energy on finding something else, passing qualifications and hitting the gym, but I can feel myself sliding into what feels like oblivion. All this due to a major fuck up on my part five months ago that I'm really struggling to deal with. The only thing that is keeping me going are the kids but there is absolutely no light at the end of the metaphorical tunnel at the moment, feels more like a black hole
Would you make that " fuck up " now? No? .I've been on a massive downer after losing my job these last few weeks, trying to focus all my energy on finding something else, passing qualifications and hitting the gym, but I can feel myself sliding into what feels like oblivion. All this due to a major fuck up on my part five months ago that I'm really struggling to deal with. The only thing that is keeping me going are the kids but there is absolutely no light at the end of the metaphorical tunnel at the moment, feels more like a black hole
Seems fair to forgive yourself and move on then. Nothing in the past can be altered by guilty rumination. The only thing reflecting on the past is for is learning and reminding us not to do it again , if youve learned already it ok to forget .
rey mysterio
Striker
Thanks everyone. Feel a little bit better today. I always try to put a brave face on and not let things appear that they get to me. But it has a nasty tendency of boiling over and when it does I feel horrific. Feel like a leper trying to apply for jobs now.
Got the kids here today (they’re 9 and 8) scranning their eggs which has made me feel a bit better, left none for me though
Got the kids here today (they’re 9 and 8) scranning their eggs which has made me feel a bit better, left none for me though
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