Depression

A couple of weeks ago a beloved family pet died unexpectedly while we were away on holiday. There's an extra 'oh fuck' to this story though, as it happened exactly, to the very day, 40 years after my father died. I could really do with some help and advice on grief and grieving. Books, CBT exercises to help work it through, whatever. It's thrown me back a long way.
It was originally intended as a children's book, but Michael Rosen's Sad Book is very well-written and has helped lots of adults (and children) to cope with grief. He wrote it while he was struggling with his own loss of his son.

I'd also recommend the Griefcast podcast by Cariad Lloyd. She has a different guest each week and they discuss different aspects of grief. I have related to a lot of the feelings they have talked about; maybe you'll find some use in it, too.
 

janiep

Striker
It was originally intended as a children's book, but Michael Rosen's Sad Book is very well-written and has helped lots of adults (and children) to cope with grief. He wrote it while he was struggling with his own loss of his son.

I'd also recommend the Griefcast podcast by Cariad Lloyd. She has a different guest each week and they discuss different aspects of grief. I have related to a lot of the feelings they have talked about; maybe you'll find some use in it, too.
Thank you xx
 

Curlyteeth

Full Back
My anxiety is creeping back into my life again. We moved and I have a much less stressful life- my anxiety seemed to diminish. But I'm getting it more and more again. Which makes me worry about it and then I'm more anxious blah blah. Knocked me back a bit
 
My anxiety is creeping back into my life again. We moved and I have a much less stressful life- my anxiety seemed to diminish. But I'm getting it more and more again. Which makes me worry about it and then I'm more anxious blah blah. Knocked me back a bit
What sort of things do you do to manage your anxiety, mate?
 

Curlyteeth

Full Back
Long term I've been on medication. But over the years I've tried cbt, meditation various distraction techniques. Had counsellors. All of them have had some sort of benefit but nothing is ever a silver bullet. It's probably always going to be part of me. I just hoped I'd put myself in a place where it would be a very very small part. Probably need to do more practising as I used to call it. Deep breathing, positive thinking etc. Back on the horse so to speak
 
Long term I've been on medication. But over the years I've tried cbt, meditation various distraction techniques. Had counsellors. All of them have had some sort of benefit but nothing is ever a silver bullet. It's probably always going to be part of me. I just hoped I'd put myself in a place where it would be a very very small part. Probably need to do more practising as I used to call it. Deep breathing, positive thinking etc. Back on the horse so to speak
Do you do mindfulness? Even just 10 mins or so a day can help. Look after yourself marra xx
 

Ciro_DiMarzio

Central Defender
Just found this thread and just want to say keep fighting lads and lasses. I've had some bad times myself but am currently in an OK place. I know there will be alot more ups and downs for us all but keep going.
 
Thanks, I have done mindfulness but never been able to stick at it cos my life was too busy and I couldn't always find the time. It might be worth me revisiting. Ta
I use Calm in bed on a night before I go to sleep. I like the Daily Calm and the masterclasses.

Have a look here: Calm - Meditation Techniques for Sleep and Stress Reduction If you think it would be useful to you, PM me and I'll send you a 30 guest pass so you can try it out properly before you buy it.
 

Skandhaless

Striker
A couple of weeks ago a beloved family pet died unexpectedly while we were away on holiday. There's an extra 'oh fuck' to this story though, as it happened exactly, to the very day, 40 years after my father died. I could really do with some help and advice on grief and grieving. Books, CBT exercises to help work it through, whatever. It's thrown me back a long way.
Genuinely sorry to hear about both your losses and I hope you are starting to rally since you posted.
 
A couple of weeks ago a beloved family pet died unexpectedly while we were away on holiday. There's an extra 'oh fuck' to this story though, as it happened exactly, to the very day, 40 years after my father died. I could really do with some help and advice on grief and grieving. Books, CBT exercises to help work it through, whatever. It's thrown me back a long way.
Had a bit of a dip last night. It was my Dad's birthday yesterday and I went to the match, then burst into tears last night as I can't talk to him about the football. Everytime I walked through their door, the first question he asked me would be a football related one!

Anyway someone sent me this video and I found it quite helpful. Then I remembered your post so I thought I'd share it. Hope you are doing ok xx


Having a dip, getting the fear again, worrying about shit, apathy is setting in :confused:.
Hope you are ok missus. PM if you want xx
 
Had a bit of a dip last night. It was my Dad's birthday yesterday and I went to the match, then burst into tears last night as I can't talk to him about the football. Everytime I walked through their door, the first question he asked me would be a football related one!

Anyway someone sent me this video and I found it quite helpful. Then I remembered your post so I thought I'd share it. Hope you are doing ok xx




Hope you are ok missus. PM if you want xx
I'm not sure if it's hormonal / weather affected becs, I don't feel too bad today - I've just rationalised my thinking a bit and tried to stop the rot (and the sun is shining too) xx.
 
Had a bit of a dip last night. It was my Dad's birthday yesterday and I went to the match, then burst into tears last night as I can't talk to him about the football. Everytime I walked through their door, the first question he asked me would be a football related one!

Anyway someone sent me this video and I found it quite helpful. Then I remembered your post so I thought I'd share it. Hope you are doing ok xx




Hope you are ok missus. PM if you want xx
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I had my last session with my bereavement councillor this morning. What was said in the video is exactly what I said to him. I feel better about it but nothing take the place of my wife/best friend. Hope you are OK.
 

Ciro_DiMarzio

Central Defender
No sooner had I posted on here how I was in a good place on Thursday and I had a setback on Friday evening. A disagreement (via text) with a lad I thought was a mate ended up getting quite nasty. It has been simmering in my head all weekend and I've went through a range of negative emotions about it. Sadness, anger, anxiety. Pissed off with the whole thing.
 

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