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Ginger John said:
Bit of Monday morning blues?

I'm chewing over the funeral at the moment. I feel like I want to stand up and read something out, but we're expecting 150+ people and I've never spoken in front of that many before.
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Check out www.speakerstrust.org for some useful tips on public speaking.

A eulogy is different, everything you say is emotional and from the heart but some of the same principles still apply.
 


Ginger John said:
Bit of Monday morning blues?

I'm chewing over the funeral at the moment. I feel like I want to stand up and read something out, but we're expecting 150+ people and I've never spoken in front of that many before.
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Don’t put pressure on yourself.
Do what’s right for you - Even if it’s just a few words? If you feel like that you can do more then go for it but don’t feel pressured into it
 
Ginger John said:
I will get that in. When I talked to him, the top two topics of conversations were football or the dogs!

It's not until the 22nd March. It's busy at the crem.
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and his Beer! Proper MLF right to the end! :lol::lol::lol::lol::lol:

Ginger John said:
It's hard on my own. I seem to be holding everyone else up but there's nobody to hold me up. Feel really low today.
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Hang in there Ginger J, you will be fine, loads holding you up on here! xxxx
 
Ginger John said:
Bit of Monday morning blues?

I'm chewing over the funeral at the moment. I feel like I want to stand up and read something out, but we're expecting 150+ people and I've never spoken in front of that many before.
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I had to do something similar a few years back. I'm a nervous/anxious person and I knew my nerves would get the better of me so I went to see my GP and she prescribed a betablocker. I always thought they were for heart problems but my GP explained lots of muscians or actors would take one to calm nerves before opening night etc. It worked for me.

And I should really read throught this thread, I've had a shitty last 18month or so with depression, anxiety and me nerves.
 
rugga said:
I had to do something similar a few years back. I'm a nervous/anxious person and I knew my nerves would get the better of me so I went to see my GP and she prescribed a betablocker. I always thought they were for heart problems but my GP explained lots of muscians or actors would take one to calm nerves before opening night etc. It worked for me.

And I should really read throught this thread, I've had a shitty last 18month or so with depression, anxiety and me nerves.
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It is not an exclusive club, but you only find out there are lots of posters having issues, when they open up and post.

It calms you by sharing the load and also the realisation that you are not alone.

There are others, who have successfully fought out of the jaws of the black dog so gives you similar hope.

It is a beacon of light in the darkness for most sufferers. Anything that gives you hope has to be worth a read, a post and a pooling of knowledge and goodwill.

Good luck, anxiety panic attacks and nerves all insidious things that can be beaten with assistance.
 
Ginger John said:
I will get that in. When I talked to him, the top two topics of conversations were football or the dogs!

It's not until the 22nd March. It's busy at the crem.
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I'm not sure what kind of service you've got arranged - I only just found your lovely piece about your dad and then caught up here - but is it not worth getting a 'professional' in who can deliver your words and thoughts without the risk of you ending up a blubbering heap halfway through? We had a humanist service for me mam and I thought the celebrant who spoke about her did a brilliant job of putting things together. He must have spent a couple of hours asking the right questions and jotting down our responses and then wove it into something that flowed nicely as he delivered it in a really nice style without any emotions getting in the way. Just a thought.
 
GTG said:
I'm not sure what kind of service you've got arranged - I only just found your lovely piece about your dad and then caught up here - but is it not worth getting a 'professional' in who can deliver your words and thoughts without the risk of you ending up a blubbering heap halfway through? We had a humanist service for me mam and I thought the celebrant who spoke about her did a brilliant job of putting things together. He must have spent a couple of hours asking the right questions and jotting down our responses and then wove it into something that flowed nicely as he delivered it in a really nice style without any emotions getting in the way. Just a thought.
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I'm not sure about the service yet. It's complicated!

My parents went to two Churches! The big one where the service is being held was their childhood Church. They still went there for an old folks club every week and other events. The Church they went to where they live disbanded some years ago and they've been going to an offshoot of that in a local community centre for Sunday services. Mam wants the people from the big Church and the people from the community centre Church to get together and do a joint service.

That sounds lovely what happened with your Mam.
 
Ginger John said:
That sounds lovely what happened with your Mam.
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She probably wouldn't have been happy not having a church element - her surviving sister wasn't thrilled! - but I was more concerned about the lightning strikes if I'd set foot back in the church! I did let the priest in the house to give her the last rites, just in case I've been wrong about religion all these years!!
 
Just spoke to my Mam and going round in a bit after I've been to the doctors. She wants a nice photo for the order of service and then a big copy in a frame to put next to the flowers in the church. I had the idea of putting his favourite things there too. We could take the Mallard and Flying Scotsman from his train set, a small canvas I had made of my dogs in Sunderland shirts that he loved and my Sunderland scarf that he bought for my first match.

The Femoston tablets they put me on after my op are not working. I'm having bad side effects on it and I don't want to be on it.
 
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Bishop Boy said:
I've downloaded one of those white noise apps. Will be trying it tonight, see if it helps.
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After a week of using it, on various settings, not much difference.

However, I have found a lovely way to help get to sleep. Dark room, and classical music on quiet in the background. I have a timer on it, so it goes off after a while, seems to be helping.
 
chopsfc007 said:
How are you doing @Ginger John
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Thanks for asking :)

I'm still up and down. We've got most of the arrangements sorted now. I'm going to speak at the funeral but have someone on standby in case I bottle it.

I've been referred back to the hospital so waiting for an appointment coming in the post.

The back fence blew down and smashed so I need to get that sorted out. Never rains eh?!

How you doing? Did you get any test results back yet?
 
Ginger John said:
Thanks for asking :)

I'm still up and down. We've got most of the arrangements sorted now. I'm going to speak at the funeral but have someone on standby in case I bottle it.

I've been referred back to the hospital so waiting for an appointment coming in the post.

The back fence blew down and smashed so I need to get that sorted out. Never rains eh?!

How you doing? Did you get any test results back yet?
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Just initial ones Iv mentioned not sure how long it takes for biopsies, think I have appointment about my eyes on Monday not sure what happens then, I'm sure you will manage you seem to be good with words.
 
I know this thread is sometimes difficult to read as it's people writing what theyre going through and suffering with however it really is heart warming as well. A bunch of strangers in the real world helping each other out and offering support online with a bat shit crazy football club as the link.
Top work ladies and gents, keep it up
 
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