joemcdokes
Striker
Thats that bubble effect. Your mind is set and to break out of it takes more than any pills a doctor can give you.
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Thats that bubble effect. Your mind is set and to break out of it takes more than any pills a doctor can give you.
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magswonnowt
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you've been a great help janie. but i'll never forgive you if i'm soon to be called Frazier amongst my mates
SedgefieldMackem
Striker
If there are any, they are a great place to start.
I've beaten it (hopefully) and wouldn't wish it on my worst enemy. The things you like about life bring you absolutely no joy at all and the things you don't become unbearable. You feel like you're watching your life on telly half the time. Never attempted suicide but the thoughts were there. And I can easily see how the feelings of detachment could lead to someone acting on the thoughts.
All the best to everybody on here who has it, has had it, and (sadly) will have it. Talk to someone you trust, see a GP, make every recommended lifestyle adjustment to give yourself a chance.
Never let the bastard win.
naughtynose
Striker
Yep, even the smallest things in your life, like the simple pleasures if you like, mean nothing anymore. Things you take for granted etc. You can have all the friends and family which I have in abundance but sometimes it just isnt enough. Well, nothing is when its bad
c032745y
Winger
"Snap yourself out of it, man!" f***ing hell that was another one of my classic comments when trying to help.
Seriously, I think I could write a self help book on what not to do when dealing with depression!
"Pull yourself together"
"Snap out of it man!"
"Worse things happen at sea!"
And the absolute pearler of a night when I explained to her how miserable she was making my life with her "dour countenance & perma-misery!"
Class act, me, I am!
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you've been a great help janie. but i'll never forgive you if i'm soon to be called Frazier amongst my mates
you've been a great help janie. but i'll never forgive you if i'm soon to be called Frazier amongst my mates
You'll need to get used to it, Niles.
Harry Angstrom
Striker
you've been a great help janie. but i'll never forgive you if i'm soon to be called Frazier amongst my mates
Just have the conversation like you are on here.
If they all look at you funny, just make sure you start the conversation when everyone has nearly finished their pint and then go off to the bar and never mention it again.
Yep I find this. I haven't ever gone to a doctor about depression because I don't feel as if I have a serious enough case to warrant it since I tend to be fine but sometimes I have a few days in a row where I just dont want to do anything- I enjoy seeing my brother in the evening and watching a film/ having a few cans but sometimes he'll call and I'll just think "oh fuck off I dont want you to come round" and instead of seeing him I'll basically sit around not wanting to do anything (generally posting/ reading on here to pass the evening away). You realise that a lot of people would say "snap out of it man, just come to the pub and enjoy yourself" but you know yourself that no matter how many mates are around you and no matter how much banter is going on in the pub etc, you wouldnt feel happy, you'd feel withdrawn, distant and you'd want to go back into your shell and be alone. Knowing that you should "snap out of it" but can't is a real bastard.
divvydave
Midfield
Some people are victims of their circumstances, which seems more obvious to outsiders. Others can have the best life in the world, but they have a chemical imbalance which can only be fixed with medication. This is the one that normally trips people up, particularly friends and family. They can't fathom why someone with a decent life could feel down. It's because they have no control over it.
To the OP - just keep in touch with your mate, don't take no for an answer.
To the OP - just keep in touch with your mate, don't take no for an answer.
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ayesane
Guest
I know mate, and I would NEVER use those terms when talking to someone who I knew was clinically depressed.
Daddyo
Striker
Work hard,stay busy,dont drink alcohol,get plenty sleep,slow your life down............all helps....
double maxim
Striker
Nice to see blurks having a proper discussion about these sort of things, I think a lot of the problem is fellas feel the need to just put a brave face on as other lads they know don't let on if they are struggling when truth be told they either are or have gone through the same sort of things themselves.
I'm not really one to talk like cos get down quite a bit and just grit my teeth and soldier on without saying anything, but then I don't know if it would be classed as depression, clearly not as down as some people get.
I'm not really one to talk like cos get down quite a bit and just grit my teeth and soldier on without saying anything, but then I don't know if it would be classed as depression, clearly not as down as some people get.
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magswonnowt
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naughtynose
Striker
Sounds familiar mate, PM me anytime you want about it.
With me its got that bad before where i'll admit ending it crosses your mind, because you just think 'whats the point?' But I would never actaully do it, thankfully for me theres always that little ray of hope im ok, I have too many friends and family who care about me
Daddyo
Striker
ignore the ignorant fucker
have you spoke about this so candidly with friends and family? Just I know you said your dad posts on here too
Cheers mate, and you're free to PM me anytime you want to as well. I think my experience is pretty much the same as yours- often I think "whats the f***ing point" but like yourself I do always remember that there are family and friends who need me, I'm very fortunate that I've never thought "they'd be better off without me" and I think the first time I ever feel like that is when I'd be straight off to the doctors. Its a bastard of an illness and there are so many people coping (or trying to cope) with it and so little discussion about it. Canny thread this like, its amazing when the SMB gets sensible for a thread or two!
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