Scotsmackem
Striker
Anyone on here got any advice on dealing with the death of a friend? One of my closest friends commited suicide 3 weeks ago completely unexpectedly and the funeral was yesterday. Ive never really had to deal with grief or a loss like this before, closest i can compare to has been elderly grandparents or dogs which doesnt even come close. Can't even describe how much it hurts at the moment and it doesn't seem to be getting better with time so far!
Feeling totally unequipped for this to be honest and dont know if im handling this the right way. My instinct is just to lock myself down and wallow so been going out my way to keep occupied and meeting up with people. Hating spending time with anyone who didnt know him and isnt at least slightly in the same boat as me, i know they're trying to help but generally just giving me the rage with the shitty platitudes and pop psychology. Which isnt fair on them at all but im really struggling not to lose me temper at times Mutual friends, his family and specifically his fiance have all provided some source of comfort so been spending alot of time with them just talking about him and sharing what we're going through. Im working away for the next 2 weeks though and absolutely dreading the thought of rattling about hotels on me own or even worse having to make small talk over a beer with colleagues.
So aye, over to you wise old SMB. Any advice on not just falling into a pit of despair would be much appreciated.
Feeling totally unequipped for this to be honest and dont know if im handling this the right way. My instinct is just to lock myself down and wallow so been going out my way to keep occupied and meeting up with people. Hating spending time with anyone who didnt know him and isnt at least slightly in the same boat as me, i know they're trying to help but generally just giving me the rage with the shitty platitudes and pop psychology. Which isnt fair on them at all but im really struggling not to lose me temper at times Mutual friends, his family and specifically his fiance have all provided some source of comfort so been spending alot of time with them just talking about him and sharing what we're going through. Im working away for the next 2 weeks though and absolutely dreading the thought of rattling about hotels on me own or even worse having to make small talk over a beer with colleagues.
So aye, over to you wise old SMB. Any advice on not just falling into a pit of despair would be much appreciated.