Couples therapy


I did it once. I was in my early 20’s. My lass at the time had been a complete c unt for about 2 year and we were having problems.

Sad thing is we were fine til my mate decided to tell her he took me to a strip club once. He’s not my mate any more.

It’s an hour or two of someone telling you what you did wrong, you accepting it. Then her bringing up something else you do wrong and a professional agreeing with her.

Then as soon as you make a valid point, she wants to leave, and you never go back again…

Now we did it on the cheap and I imagine that the therapist was probably just starting out but fuck me that experience scarred me… also I think that no one would have a lass like I had at the time who was all kinds of mental.
 
Sounds like you lost a good mate there.

There’s back story and a whole world of shit there to be honest and a lot after said incident.

I met said lass through a lass he’d been with for about 3 years. They were friends and lived together.

Now about a decade later, we ran into each other about a month ago. Was like it was back when we were teenagers again. Had a good laugh. He’s engaged, I’m married, to different lasses than those in my original post. Told me his side and I get it. He told me a lot of things I didn’t know about at the time.

In hindsight I accept I shouldn’t have went on the way I did. It is what it is though. He shouldn’t have either. We were both young and going on ridiculous.

I did lose a good mate, and I regret it. Would happily turn out with him again now though. He’s a good lad.
 
There’s back story and a whole world of shit there to be honest and a lot after said incident.

I met said lass through a lass he’d been with for about 3 years. They were friends and lived together.

Now about a decade later, we ran into each other about a month ago. Was like it was back when we were teenagers again. Had a good laugh. He’s engaged, I’m married, to different lasses than those in my original post. Told me his side and I get it. He told me a lot of things I didn’t know about at the time.

In hindsight I accept I shouldn’t have went on the way I did. It is what it is though. He shouldn’t have either. We were both young and going on ridiculous.

I did lose a good mate, and I regret it. Would happily turn out with him again now though. He’s a good lad.

We live and learn. If I could go back to that age again I'd be very clear about setting boundaries before starting a relationship. I'd be very upfront about what the prospective other half would be getting herself into.
 
if you need someone to tell you it’s over you’re clinging something that’s long gone tbh and both don’t have the courage to end it.

I genuinely don’t know one couple who’ve done it and came out for the better. Always seems to be a last resort to save a relationship
 
We live and learn. If I could go back to that age again I'd be very clear about setting boundaries before starting a relationship. I'd be very upfront about what the prospective other half would be getting herself into.

I don’t think I’d have known enough about myself to set any kind of boundary.

I had one at the time. Don’t fuck other lads.

She did, we broke up.

In all honesty I have the same one now with my missus, plus a second, please don’t go on at me for too long if I’ve come home drunker than I said I would.

Married her, she’s stuck to my boundaries, and I to hers, the rest we’ve figured out. 8 years later. Things are good. Like you said, live and learn.
 
I did it once. I was in my early 20’s. My lass at the time had been a complete c unt for about 2 year and we were having problems.

Sad thing is we were fine til my mate decided to tell her he took me to a strip club once. He’s not my mate any more.

It’s an hour or two of someone telling you what you did wrong, you accepting it. Then her bringing up something else you do wrong and a professional agreeing with her.

Then as soon as you make a valid point, she wants to leave, and you never go back again…

Now we did it on the cheap and I imagine that the therapist was probably just starting out but fuck me that experience scarred me… also I think that no one would have a lass like I had at the time who was all kinds of mental.
When we are retrospective about decisions we’ve made in the past then please consider that we were all a bit less mature and we lacked experience.

When the dragon is nagging at me I often fantasise about the younger, fit, always happy women that I humped in a past life, but I didn’t end up being married to any of those people. They weren’t as great as I remember them, they just had perkier boobs and neither of us had any real responsibilities in life.

Onwards and upwards.

PS. It’s interesting that some women have a problem with strip clubs, even though blokes can’t touch the dancers.
 
if you need someone to tell you it’s over you’re clinging something that’s long gone tbh and both don’t have the courage to end it.

I genuinely don’t know one couple who’ve done it and came out for the better. Always seems to be a last resort to save a relationship
I'd say it's a maybe

You may have a lass who gets all her advice from her mad mother or mate
A neutral saying something may snap her out of that mindset
The " love " bit is for valentines cards . It's the nitty gritty bits and pieces that split people up and start cracks .
Only ever sought help once and they were hopeless mind
She said I can't get involved ill just listen

I knew my missus was making a big mistake
It happened and now 9 years on she agrees
We split over nothing really but that's history
RELATE seems to be aimed at easing separation rather bringing couples back together.
I know it's funded volunteers but I found them useless
 
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When we are retrospective about decisions we’ve made in the past then please consider that we were all a bit less mature and we lacked experience.

When the dragon is nagging at me I often fantasise about the younger, fit, always happy women that I humped in a past life, but I didn’t end up being married to any of those people. They weren’t as great as I remember them, they just had perkier boobs and neither of us had any real responsibilities in life.

Onwards and upwards.

PS. It’s interesting that some women have a problem with strip clubs, even though blokes can’t touch the dancers.

I’m still not a fan myself. Go and pay a fortune for a semi and frustration. :lol:
 
There’s back story and a whole world of shit there to be honest and a lot after said incident.

I met said lass through a lass he’d been with for about 3 years. They were friends and lived together.

Now about a decade later, we ran into each other about a month ago. Was like it was back when we were teenagers again. Had a good laugh. He’s engaged, I’m married, to different lasses than those in my original post. Told me his side and I get it. He told me a lot of things I didn’t know about at the time.

In hindsight I accept I shouldn’t have went on the way I did. It is what it is though. He shouldn’t have either. We were both young and going on ridiculous.

I did lose a good mate, and I regret it. Would happily turn out with him again now though. He’s a good lad.


Love to hear his side of the story.
 

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