What a lovely post. And you'll be pleased to know I've now got Mambo No 5 stuck in my head, you bastard!
Thank you.Course you can. Fire away
When you say it hurts, where does it hurt?Cancer is painful, it really hurts, there is only escape in sleep. Sometimes I know I’m in a dream purely because I’m not in pain so I know it isn’t real. It’s been over a year so I’ve forgotten what pain free is. Pills help but it never goes away. So yes, sometimes I cry. More so when looking at old photos of the bairn and the potential lack of future with her than because of the tumours dancing on my nerve ends. Moan over.
Normal service will be resumed, just off for a poached egg on toast ...Cheers my good man . Not that I'm attention seeking in any way of course but I wondered where you had got to. You're normally one of the first in and tinted with a bit of abuse. Maybe it's the tardiness this time but don't be going too soft on me
In my particular case I had a tumour that grew merrily for years - could have been between 5 and 10 years in the right side of my large bowel. There are no real nerves in there so I didn’t know. I probably had symptoms from time to time but it wasn’t until it grew to blocking the Bowel and stretching the lining that I knew something was wrong.Thank you.
This is something I've never been able to get my head around.
When you say it hurts, where does it hurt?
How does it hurt?
What kind of pain is it?
A relative passed away last year and said this but I didn't have the heart to ask her - it just didn't seem right.
But never having been through this, I live in a world of an ache or pain that is located to a small part of my body.
Hope you don't mind the question.
I'm nee doctor but isn't that classic Prostate bother, not necessarily cancer but something is messing with your urethra - piss tube in proper speak. Happens to most blokes as they get older. Methinks it's finger time again good sir. My Dad once said he had one where he had to look over his shoulder to check the doc's trousers weren't round his ankles. Good luckam always aching down there , but had the old finger a couple of years ago and I do the shit sample thing every year , just did it last month ( am 64) and it came back all clear , have had to sit down to pee for years mind, its so slow its ridiculous , by the time i have got up zipped then washed my hands I want to pee again.
Until this infidel arrived I thought the latest news I have would be universal greeted. Upon checking with other half, she no longer commits the crime, so happy days, one checked off but a lot to go, and you can all have a word with this wrongun insteadRead it all and it made me really sad....cant believe you dont agree with milk before hot water!
I can relate to the differences in cancer - I had a tumour fairly low in the bowel and whilst cancerous and subsequently been lopped off and parts of bowel removed - although I had radiotherapy and chemo I never had any pain. Just the blood which gave it away. Like @foggy says no two cancers seem the same. Anyone worried never be afraid to get a check up. As I said I was somewhat lucky because in hindsight I should have visited the GP earlier but being a blokey just thought nothing of it.In my particular case I had a tumour that grew merrily for years - could have been between 5 and 10 years in the right side of my large bowel. There are no real nerves in there so I didn’t know. I probably had symptoms from time to time but it wasn’t until it grew to blocking the Bowel and stretching the lining that I knew something was wrong.
At 47 I was in the slow lane of testing at the GP. He repeated many times fast tracking was for 50. The pain got worse until the lining split around 3 months of intermittent hell. So it was an emergency op to cut out the toumour plus a fair old chunk of Bowel. This is all history as I’ve moved on since then but there is a word of warning to others. Trust yourself and bang the table.
In my case some of the tumour which was not just a nice hard lump, fell off and bits settled in my peritoneum. Luckily, about time I had some, there were 3 small and isolated but they are next to arteries and stuff. It all depends where the cancer - which is a word that covers a myriad of crazy fast reproducing cells which have their own programme which doesn’t fit with the rest. We are made up of cells that reproduce over time, go a bit wrong, we go grey, bald and to cut a hopefully long story short we die. Unless summat else goes wrong in the meantime like another disease, or we catch the bus in the wrong way.
So back to me and now. My pains and cancer spread didn’t present until the end of chemo 1 last year. Folfox, an adjuvant Chemo to raise the chance of preventing recurrence, a scary word in cancer land. When this finished the small tumours cracked on with mutating in peace now they weren’t being hampered by the Chemo.
I was better at table thumping this time so got to the laparoscopy quite quickly to show Huey, Dewey and Louie having a party.
Sorry for the long background but currently they are only around 1cm each and they hurt like a bastard because they are growing near nerves and arteries. Size isn’t everything.
The pain is a throb like a chronic stabbing. At worst I have to stop breathing, count and hope I don’t get to 10. At its lowest level and pilled to fuckery it is an uncomfortable ache. I think it’s your nerves telling you they having a bit of bother in most cases. Tumours themselves are just blots on the landscape.
Whatever your pain is get it seen to. Now. Today. Tomorrow at the latest. Start the ball rolling I’ve typed far too much here, again, but it’s all therapy and I love the replies like where people have got the poo bag they were sent and actually used it.
You should get blood tests first. They always start with blood. Then piss, shit and a finger blast up the pumper if the pain is anywhere near there. I was a typical stiff upper lipper didn’t like to bother anyone and had an it will be alright mentality. Don’t do this, go and make a fuss.
Amen to you too brotherI can relate to the differences in cancer - I had a tumour fairly low in the bowel and whilst cancerous and subsequently been lopped off and parts of bowel removed - although I had radiotherapy and chemo I never had any pain. Just the blood which gave it away. Like @foggy says no two cancers seem the same. Anyone worried never be afraid to get a check up. As I said I was somewhat lucky because in hindsight I should have visited the GP earlier but being a blokey just thought nothing of it.
No one laughs at you if there is nothing there to worry about.