chriswallace85
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Maybe.
Cheating partner?
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Goat Eyes
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You’ve changed since you had kids.
Lions Play
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Missus text me at work saying she wanted to split up (16 years married). we talked about it and said i'll move out for a bit, give each other space.
2 weeks after i moved out she tells me shes seeing someone else who was a mutual acqaintance. She said she just bumped into him and it went from there. Eventually she admitted it had been going on before we split.
Now in process of getting divorced. I'm now financially ruined, renting a flat at 48 years old, driving a 17 year old mondeo, no doubt will have to work into my 70's (if i live that long).
I hate her guts.
Oh well, mustn't grumble
2 weeks after i moved out she tells me shes seeing someone else who was a mutual acqaintance. She said she just bumped into him and it went from there. Eventually she admitted it had been going on before we split.
Now in process of getting divorced. I'm now financially ruined, renting a flat at 48 years old, driving a 17 year old mondeo, no doubt will have to work into my 70's (if i live that long).
I hate her guts.
Oh well, mustn't grumble
dangermows
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Not really. I argued then, and I'm arguing now, that it'd be daft to bin a relationship over a shag (which often mean nowt). Just now adding that I can see how kids being in the mix can make it harder to walk or make it worth sticking it out for.Missus text me at work saying she wanted to split up (16 years married). we talked about it and said i'll move out for a bit, give each other space.
2 weeks after i moved out she tells me shes seeing someone else who was a mutual acqaintance. She said she just bumped into him and it went from there. Eventually she admitted it had been going on before we split.
Now in process of getting divorced. I'm now financially ruined, renting a flat at 48 years old, driving a 17 year old mondeo, no doubt will have to work into my 70's (if i live that long).
I hate her guts.
Oh well, mustn't grumble
There's almost always someone else.
Many parents would agree I'd imagine.
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pavarotti1980
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No doubt the ex living the life of riley funded by youMissus text me at work saying she wanted to split up (16 years married). we talked about it and said i'll move out for a bit, give each other space.
2 weeks after i moved out she tells me shes seeing someone else who was a mutual acqaintance. She said she just bumped into him and it went from there. Eventually she admitted it had been going on before we split.
Now in process of getting divorced. I'm now financially ruined, renting a flat at 48 years old, driving a 17 year old mondeo, no doubt will have to work into my 70's (if i live that long).
I hate her guts.
Oh well, mustn't grumble
dangermows
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Unless he's had a pay rise surely it'll be the same life as before, albeit with a different bloke. And why would he be funding it anyway?
The harsh truth is if people aren't happy in a relationship they are within their rights to make a move. Mind I think things should be worked at first but ultimately you are responsible for your own happiness.
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pavarotti1980
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Wife gets house, he pays maintenance, spousal maintenance. has very little left over etc etc.
dangermows
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Aren't houses sold down the middle? Mind it may have been a mistake moving out. My stance has always been the one wanting out shifts.
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pavarotti1980
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Who knows. Depends on the individual. One person might have put more in than the other. Or the house might not even get sold
I worked with someone who had the house till the kids were 18, then had to sell it
dangermows
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Showing my ignorance as I didn't think who put what in came into it tbh. Can understand a bit if kids are involved though, be harsh f***ing off and in the process making your children homeless.
Pop
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If you've got kids in the mix someone usually stays put to minimise the upheaval for them, the one moving out is going to be worse off as they'll pay maintenance for the family home and have to rent/buy another gaff.
I've heard of a few couples not separating due to financial reasons.
dangermows
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Pop
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In an ideal world it would but I would imagine the most common scenario with separations is the mother stays with the kids in the family home, the bloke leaves and has to pay maintenance to the wife for the kids.
Nobody will want a reduced lifestyle which is why the CSA exists! Herbal got shafted iirc.
dangermows
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That's to ensure the kid doesnt go without. I'm on about the cost of existing mortgage and whatever new place is being rented. That should be split. Know a couple of couples who did that, where basically what the bloke paid to rent he took off what he usually put in for the mortgage, with her tipping up the extra.
Pop
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It should be in theory but I doubt it is in most cases. I imagine most people want a clean break and don't want to tied to one another financially regardless if that means one half is worse off.
dangermows
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pavarotti1980
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Depends what is arranged when buying house. When we bought i hoyed in double compared to the mrs. She wanted it in the contract that if sold altogether and not moving then we should get our % stake back.
dangermows
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She sounds like one to watch.
I put in more but was happy to because I wanted to leave home but needed a substitute mam to look after me.
We've always said everything down the middle.
pavarotti1980
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Well if it was the other way round i would agree but it means i am financially better off if sold the house so i wont be too concerned
dangermows
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Well if it was the other way round i would agree but it means i am financially better off if sold the house so i wont be too concerned
In this instance you are, aye.... But will want whatever she feels she is entightled to. Good luck.
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