I don’t buy all of this it’s easier if kids aren’t involved stuff, quite often it’s more harmful to the kids if you do stay together. But I agree, @rocky needs to be out bucking asapI imagine it's worse if it's one basically binning the other. If both think it's actually the right thing to do then I imagine it'd be a bit easier to come to terms with. And means no bitterness, which is better if children are involved.
Haway Rocky lad. Get back in the ring.
Tons, conflict resolution was a favourite for a long time. Any slight disagreement would escalate int is break up and her saying it was down to me not being able to resolve conflict. I looked at my behaviour and thought ok I could have handled that better and changed what I did. It still didn’t work. I still got blamed for every single argument.Any examples of things that happened mate? Not the police stuff but more day to day things when you were together.
another one was on a night out, we were standing in a pub, I went to the toilet waking past the bar (the most obvious direct route from where we were standing), I cam back a slightly different way which was the obvious route coming back...I happened to walk past a table where two lasses were sitting. Nothing said, didn’t even notice them. Weeks later she brought it up in an argument saying I walked past them deliberately because they were eyeing me up. Fuck me, I couldn’t even remember what she was on about at first but she made out I was flirting.
Then there’s stuff like in an argument she’d try and goad me. She’d take one distinct step forward right into me, aggressive, controlled and quiet as if she was going to hit me. When I challenged her about she denied it and said what could she possibly do against a bloke.
Then there was the subtle threats of harming herself, this was always when I stood my ground in an argument (I argued very rarely face to face with her as I was scared of what she’d do), usually by text, she’d say stuff like she can’t go on, everyone is better off without her, she’d post it on Facebook to get the support of her flying monkeys and paint me out to be the baddy.
Then there was the stalking, On Facebook, on here, she even created an account on here and must have spent hours and hours trawling through my old posts, she’d then use them against me even though they were from years before we even met. That led me to deleting my account on here.
I could go on and on and on
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